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NannyofN Tue 24-Mar-20 13:41:39

hi just taking over care of my grandaughter she's 11 .. I'm wondering about bed time . What times is good ... she will have to stay with her auntie some morning when I' work which means some morning getting up at 6.30 am .

MissAdventure Tue 24-Mar-20 13:47:07

Half nine, I think is reasonable.

It depends on what she's like for getting up, too.

Oopsadaisy3 Tue 24-Mar-20 13:51:35

What time does she normally go to bed? Try to stick to her normal routine.

Good uck with getting her up at 6.30 am, you are likely to have one grumpy GC.

Oopsadaisy3 Tue 24-Mar-20 13:51:54

Good Luck!! Blasted iPad

silverlining48 Tue 24-Mar-20 13:55:49

Our 10 year old gd goes to bed at 7.30.

MissAdventure Tue 24-Mar-20 13:58:08

There's a big difference between our times, silver.

I did wonder if my time is a bit too permissive.

Oopsadaisy3 Tue 24-Mar-20 14:00:24

Nanny is she doing school work from home? If so she will need school day bed times.

silverlining48 Tue 24-Mar-20 14:10:11

Ha ha MissA. Its only just been upped from 7 pm. She would like it to be later of course, but she does have a read before putting the light out.

Sussexborn Tue 24-Mar-20 14:11:58

Each child is very different but 6.30 am may well be a real shock for her but she’ll adjust if she has to. You’ll benefit from an hour or two on your own in the evenings so factor that in as well. Good luck and hope it works well for you both.

MissAdventure Tue 24-Mar-20 14:15:48

I think I was very strict until about age 11ish, then relaxed it a bit more.
My daughter enjoyed going to bed, anyway.

Calendargirl Tue 24-Mar-20 14:33:06

My view was, and is, that if they need waking up every morning, they need to go to bed earlier.

Jane10 Tue 24-Mar-20 14:43:30

Should be staying at home anyway not coming and going between home granny and aunt hmm

EllanVannin Tue 24-Mar-20 15:06:48

Lighter nights aren't going to help much if this is a new arrangement, but a bath and drink at 9pm should do the trick to give her at least 8 hours sleep when you have to get her up early.
Then again it depends on what time she's used to going to bed, though when in your care it's your rules.

M0nica Wed 25-Mar-20 09:25:29

On school days DGD, aged 12, is up at 6.45. School starts at 8.45 and she has a mile and a half walk to get there.

Callistemon Wed 25-Mar-20 09:57:49

What Jane10 said!

Surely she is not going from house to house? Can her auntie come to stay with you? Is your work essential?

Are you a new poster, NannyofN?
If so, welcome.

Callistemon Wed 25-Mar-20 09:59:02

Ps how long is a piece of string?
Some children need their sleep, others seem to exist on much less.

ninathenana Wed 25-Mar-20 10:41:21

8 y.o. and almost 11 y.o. go at 8.30pm. Sometimes a little later at weekends.

Jane10 Wed 25-Mar-20 10:55:13

Poster hasn't returned hmmmm?

Oopsadaisy3 Wed 25-Mar-20 20:18:48

Lots of kiddies home from school............

Does 2 and 2 equal 4 ?

Callistemon Wed 25-Mar-20 20:20:37

Having an argument with mum about bedtime?

Oopsadaisy3 Wed 25-Mar-20 20:56:13

This is where the OP comes back and jumps all over us!

Hetty58 Wed 25-Mar-20 22:00:10

I'd stick to her usual times. Ask her parents. I can't think why you'd ask us.

My four never needed much sleep (like me) so it was 9 or 10ish. They'd all be awake by 5.30!