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over60plus Fri 17-Apr-20 16:44:35

Not sure if I am being over sensitive but I have sent my great grandchildren a little parcel each week while we are unable to see them our grandsons children,
also my adult granddaughter and her partner a little gift each week.
Never had a thank you from either parties

rosenoir Fri 17-Apr-20 17:13:49

It is hurtful when they cannot even send a text.

You could embarrass them by asking if they were received.

Alexa Fri 17-Apr-20 17:20:27

I'd have felt. hurt too . You are not being over sensitive.
However you can do nothing about the situation except remember you give presents because you enjoy giving presents. If you remember this you are a winner with no need to feel hurt.

sodapop Fri 17-Apr-20 17:24:54

Yes that is hurtful over60plus they could easily send an e-mail or text. Young people can be very thoughtless. I agree with rosenoir I would ask if the parcels have been received.

ExD Fri 17-Apr-20 17:25:45

I have given up on expecting thank you's from my GKs. I usually do what rosenoir suggests and text to ask if they were received - but you won't embarrass them I'm afraid.
I thought I'd brought the parents up better, (two families one son's the other daughter's) but it seems not. And I like Alexa's way of thinking too.

over60plus Fri 17-Apr-20 17:40:59

Send a text received back yes we got them thanks, I was going to send something each week but I don’t think I will bother thank you for your reply

SalsaQueen Fri 17-Apr-20 18:22:58

No, You've every right to feel upset and disappointed. It's polite and decent for a recipient of a gift to say "Thanks". A text, call, anything, would be the least someone could do - particularly your adult GD.

I sent my GDs things recently, and the eldest rang me. She's 8.

Grandmafrench Fri 17-Apr-20 18:38:19

Think you have made the right decision. You're entitled to get something in return for your kind gesture - to know that someone was pleased or to actually hear a few words of thanks and acknowledgement and without prompting. You're not paying a bill. It's such a small thing to expect, but if no one cares enough not to appear rude or ungrateful, so be it, no more thoughtful gifts. Don't be hurt -too many of us have suffered the same treatment - it's too often "the modern way". ExD I have felt the same - you sometimes wonder if you recognise those you brought up.

Grammaretto Fri 17-Apr-20 20:58:40

That is hurtful. I agree with Alexa. Just enjoy the giving and don't worry. It wouldn't hurt to ask if they had been received.

We have a wonderful cousin in America who send us all gifts and now, due to lock-down her parcels for our DGC birthdays haven't arrived. She asks me frequently. I hope she gets a thank-you when they finally come and I hope they fit. (It's handknits and dresses).

Bridgeit Fri 17-Apr-20 21:05:51

Sadly these days it seems to be the way of things , which is sad/ rude / odd, considering that most of our grandchildren & great grandchildren usually have a mobile phone permanently in hand.

Dollymc1 Fri 17-Apr-20 21:25:44

How thoughtful of you to send gifts, it's so kind of you 💐
My children and grandchildren are very good at thanking me, however, I have extended family members who haven't acknowledged presents and yes, it is hurtful. It's also very rude and self entitled

fourormore Fri 17-Apr-20 22:15:32

One of our GC had a birthday on Easter Mon.
Three weeks before Easter - deliberately early to give them time to 'swing by' as the saying goes, I texted both my sons that we had a bagful of Easter goodies for DS1's children and a bagful of Easter goodies plus birthday pressies for DS2's children.
DS2 lives about 7miles away and suddenly found time to collect the bag the day before his child's birthday.
DS1 lives a mile away and when I texted asking if he had forgotten, replied that they are only making essential journeys!
He goes further to get his shopping and could easily 'swing by' on the same journey.
Neither even bothered to ask if we needed anything yet know we have been self-isolating for nearly five weeks due to DH health.
DS1 still hasn't collected their bag of goodies!
The OP must feel so hurt especially the presents sent were for Great GC. What hope for future generations sad I feel perhaps the OP shouldn't bother with the AGD but if the GGC are little, it's not their bad manners - it's their parents.
Fortunately we have wonderful neighbours who get our shopping when they do their shop. Our AC should be ashamed of themselves!

NanaandGrampy Fri 17-Apr-20 22:51:05

I send my 4 every week and have done since we moved 2 years ago .

I always ask at which stage each child then messaged me or calls to thank me .

About 3/4 of the times my daughters thank me . Mind you I don’t do it for the thanks but I do like to be sure it’s arrived .

TrendyNannie6 Fri 17-Apr-20 23:03:12

You have every right to feel hurt, A simple text takes seconds, I wouldn’t be happy, it’s so kind of you