Premature baby advice wanted

tell her to buy a wrap or sling as wecalled them,prem babies do better when in close contact and a sling means she can do other things while carrying baby near her heart .Congratulations a new baby is always the best news even or especially in times like these.

Has she got a sling? It means she can carry baby with her, or the dad can and do some things. Takes off the anxiety of holding a baby. It's a difficult time with any baby but a preemie just now-poor things. Hope they get through it.

Our most difficult one (the first) was reassured by always having close contact with my t-shirt (smell of breast milk I suppose) so when dad took over, I changed and the t-shirt went over his shoulder. Baby weighed eight pounds at birth - and still fed every two hours!

Holding baby and feeding every two hours sounds like very good advice to me. It's always exhausting in the first few weeks - unless you're very lucky and have a settled, peaceful 'good' baby. (The third of my four was good).

A shift pattern helps. Father gets a nap while mother copes. There's no point in them both staying awake. He can do essential chores and organise food.

When mum can cope no longer, she takes a nap and he deals with unsettled baby. A walk in the pram, car ride, being carried around the garden, rocked, sung to - absolutely anything that works at all, even a bit (preferably out of earshot) - just for an hour or two - enables survival!

Have attached a picture.My daughter has just messaged to say he would settle in his basic baby chair after a couple of weeks.
He would never go in the crib for naps so maybe worth trying.

My daughter had similar issues with her second baby and several people recommended the 4 moms mamaroo chair.It was quite expensive but worth it as it did the trick and she sold it for the same price she had paid when she had finished with it.

Doves where is your daughter? Are you in the UK? If so she should have contact numbers for support from the Midwifery team. It doesn't sound unusual for newborn behaviour and its great that she has done so well with breastfeeding. As new parents they are probably learning fast about life with a brand new baby!

Keep calm Doves and try not to worry, as you know it won't change anything and will add to the stress and sadness you must be feeling.
We had a very similar experience but thankfully, not in lock down. Our daughter was told to wake her baby every two hours to feed because of a similar birth weight to your new grandchild.
The only advice is be at the end of a phone or face time. Stay calm and supportive. This too will pass, the breast feeding support worker and midwife best placed to advise. I agree with you about putting baby in a pram and rocking her. My grannie always said you can't spoil a baby with 12 months good nursing. Good advice x