Hi everyone I am a new member so have not yet got the hang of things please bear with me.
I was bring my grandson up for my son as his wife as she was busy with her work which was always put first then her son. But we all knew she did not want the responsibility as they had him 9months after the wedding.
He stayed with us up until January 2019.
She started talking nonsense to him like he came out of her tummy not mine.
I knew her and my son were having issues and she would often take it out on us and my grandson. She wanted to take him out of school and put him in a nearer school to her(which she never wanted before). We agreed that it was a good idea and would help their relationship, but she should take him at the end of the year. But she started the process with the schools and told the school she no longer wanted me to be involved in his present school maters. I was the one that went to all his parents evening, trips and plays. During christmas holidays we hardly saw him and when we did he would always be upset, sad and scared to go back. He always spent all his holidays with us and took him on all our holidays while she worked. However this time she worked but my son kept him with him all day. I had a feeling that he was not to bring him to us.
To cut a long story short she managed to restrict us seeing him.
When I tried saying her she keeps saying ask yourself.
Over the last few months she has used him in a tug of war and to a point when my son has been beaten up for wanting to bring him to us and now see she has completely stopped my son seeing him too and has locked him out and he stays with us. I wish there was something I could do to help him he has gone through so much with her and now this, it is tearing me apart. last week knocked on her door my grandson let me in by accident, she got very abusive, I had written her a letter asking for her forgiveness and begging her to put the interest of her son first also I asked to have mediation with us. I fear I have gone and made things worse for my son.
Who is a very gentle person and has never reported her abuse and I feel no-one is going to believe him as she has always pushed him react and I fear she has reported him for defending himself against her.
I fear for my grandson and I know is taking him on play dates risking Covid 19 no one understands what sort of mum she really is as to see her you would not believe what I am saying.
Please please if there is anyone who can point me in the right direction without making things worse for my son. I think as always he is thinking she will cool off and then go back to herself.
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