I am more than slightly confused ,
I have my eldest GG staying aged 13 , due to Family Circumstances during this Lockdown Period l she came on Wednesday with my DD & 2 Other GD’s .All was fine ,so I thought my GD is a dream she has currently just started her GCSE School Work & has ensconced herself in our Summerhouse doing her work .
So far so good.
Yesterday we went to the beach for the afternoon . Enroute home I called my Daughter ( We normally speak daily & she often calls me two or three times a day ) we hadn’t heard from her & when I spoke she was what I interpreted as “off” with me , said she had to go as the youngest GD was waiting to use her phone ( don’t get me started on that one !)
We Spoke again much later once we had arrived home - I asked to have a word after she had spoken to GD .
This is where it became odd- There had been a communication breakdown as before GD came my DD said she wanted GD to stay for a week , that was obviously fine . However when she dropped her here she then said GD would want to go home Sat or Sunday , any of this was fine - not a problem . Anyway I had spoken to GD we discussed it she said she was happy to stay - She spoke to DD & told her this .
Yet ,I still had to reiterate it when I spoke to DD . That settled DD then said,“ I hope she Is eating healthily,” to which my response was whet do you mean ? DD said not eating Biscuits , Snacks & Bread . I was actually insulted & upset by this though I didn’t say so . I added that No she hadn’t had any bread As we don’t have any & only 2 Boscuits yesterday . What I didn’t add was that both my Husband & I had a conversation with GD yesterday about what she hadn’t eaten yesterday (ie she didn’t seem to of eaten anything) We’d made Cheese Salad Wraps to take with & had the obligatory Chips on the Beach . But I was concerned as GD didn’t eat any of the wraps .
Anyway , I don’t mention this to my now really moody sounding DD .Actually I would of done but not in earshot of GD . It made me think that maybe she was concerned Bout GD eating habits (?) Which tbh DD should of informed me of .
She then went on to say , Had Grandad been round to take her out for “ Excercise” ? This being something she had pre arranged apparently, I said “ no we hadnt seen or heard from him “ ., but I added we had been out walking all day today , to which she added “ I’m not talking about a Dog Walk “ We also have the Family Dog 🐕 as it’s easier for my Daughter she doesn’t have to worry about him being walked as well .
It took me ages to get to sleep & when I woke this was the first thing on my mind .
Of course I was insulted by her Healthy Eating Comment & we never eat let alone have junk food in the house . We took Hula Hoops out with us & Water which my GD Drinks .
I know my Daughter is worried about the effects of Lockdown on my 13year old GD she is not at school & has spent a lot of time on her own at home which is why she is here now. To get her out of the house , which to be fair she had started doing so in the last two weeks .
This may sound like a flash in the pan , but I know my Daughter & her tone was definitely off yesterday. On both occasions when she said I have to go she indicated that she was giving her phone to her 7yr Old to film a dance & the. That she was watching something on TV with her ( This last was at a time the 7yr old should of been in bed ) I didn’t mention this but it does bug me also got with other things , but I keep to myself & have a moan to my Husband .
Btw the 7&9 year olds run my Daughter Ragged - they have been at School throughout as my Daughter is a Key Worker . I know she is worried about them as well & the fact that they are also on whatever electronic gadget they can get their hands on .Rather than playing as they used to . From what I hear this is a Lockdown Issue .
I suppose none of this is a real issue it’s just that I got short shrift of whatever was the problem without knowing what the problem was .
On the whole we get on Re close - DD has always had this thing with her Parenting where they have to go somewhere do something she pushes GD’s the eldest Runs she also plays Netball is a Team Captain . Obviously this has all changed for now
Sorry for the rant & I imagine that I will get responses about how she is worried m concerned etc etc ,- but this was beyond that & Yes she has a Partner .
Last time she was like this to me on the phone - I pulled her up on it & it was because I’d said something that she didn’t like ! God , I feel it’s so hard at times . We bring our Children up & hope we’ve done a good job ,which I considered I have .
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