I don't want to leave LO overnight yet

They wouldn't see me or my child anywhere near that dog

Definitely stick with your instincts and don't feel guilty! My DD had a small problem with her MIL. She wanted to take care of one year old GS as I had been doing.
She couldn't manage her stairs very well but always took him upstairs to change his nappy with difficulty. After a few discussions they had to say she couldn't have him alone. She wasn't happy about this but the thought of her falling with him had to be out first.

I occasionally look after friends’ dogs, and always put them in another room when my grandson comes to visit. No dog can be trusted 100% and children can seem like a threat to them.

Your MiL is the unreasonable one. Stand your ground

No you are not being unreasonable at all. You are the parent and what you say goes. Stick to your instincts and you won’t go wrong.

The dog makes the stay a no no, but I also think he is too young. Tell her that just one upset there, without parents, could put him off for a long time. It's an unreasonable request in my opinion.

Before children we had a border collie. When my daughter was a toddler he started snapping at her. He had to go, my husband was upset but I insisted.

My parents had a dog that we'd never had any concerns about.
One day when we visited it bit my daughter on the cheek. She was eating a piece of meat and my Mum said that's what it was after.
I was shocked at her blasé attitude and we refused to visit their house after that. Mum was miffed and thought I was being unreasonable, but too bad.

My daughter came first.
Do not put your child at risk.

You are definitely not being unreasonable! Stay strong do what you are happy with !

You'd be endangering your child with this plan. In fact, if your MIL won't even put the unpredictable dog in another room during your current visits, then it obviously is #1 to her. Let her get her enjoyment from that. She doesn't have your child's best interests at heart. She sounds very selfish so go your own way and don't try to please a woman who is never satisfied anyway.

Quite apart from anything else, it’s rather selfish of a grandmother to insist that a child who doesn’t know her well should stay overnight without his parents if there’s no good reason. How sure is she that he would be happy? Is she putting her own interests before his? To me, the only issue is what is best for the child.

Good grief - just no! Doubly so with a dog in the picture. My children adored their grandparents but never went to stay overnight on their own and none of the grandparents ever thought to suggest it. Why would they? They would have happily stepped in a crisis but this never arose. Actually, thinking about it, they did stay with my Mum once while we had a weekend away - they we're 12 and 14. Not sure who was looking after whom

You know what is best for your child, let MIL think what she likes and stick to your guns.

You’re just being a responsible mother well done! Don’t give in , protect your son. Maybe say this isn’t about you it’s about the dog. I don’t trust the dog. My son has to be my priority sorry. When my son can defend himself regarding your dog we can rethink.

Lucca

vampirequeen

The dog is enough to make you say no. If she takes umbridge then that's her problem.

Agreed. Can I be cheeky and ask if umbridge is where offended Archers love?....

Lol Lucca. I live/love near Uxbridge so that’s what came to my mind.

An aggressive/jealous dog! A one year old! A MIL who hardly knows the baby or routines! A person who is negative and critical! I think you know the answer. Put your foot down and keep it there. What’s with this overnight palaver for grandparents anyway? Surely the time to engage meaningfully with a grandchild is when it’s awake?
Seriously, as a retired solicitor I had an awful case where an aggressive/jealous dog went for a toddler who scarred for life on face, luckily not killed. Had even obtained a court order that dog to be locked away when toddler visited. Guess what? Owner/dad knew best and disobeyed the order, allowing dog in the house. Be vigilant, it’s not worth it and dog has already shown aggression. Many dogs are nervous of babies and toddlers, it’s not their fault, it’s the adults in charge.
Your in laws are being unreasonable, you and your husband are the grown ups here. Good luck, it won’t be easy but stay firm, it’s worth it in the long run.

Think you’re being entirely reasonable - we have a much loved dog but if I thought it was a threat to our granddaughter it wouldn’t get near her. Keep trying with husband to explain to MIL your genuine misgivings and keep on trying to suggest ways to get together in a safe way. It sounds like you’re trying to do that already - she needs to appreciate that!

You are not being unreasonable. Your MIL is being unreasonable. You and your husband/partner are the parents and you have to do what you feel is best for your baby/child. It sounds like your MIL has a dog that couple be aggressive and dangerous. Maybe if she would like to look after her grandchild over night she should sell the dog and get a less aggressive type of dog that are good around children. Your MIL is being unreasonable.

The welfare of the child must come first. The dog is obviously a concern and it sounds as though your MIL isn't aware of the danger.
Stick to your guns.

PS .
No dogs in our house !

No way would I leave a young child in a house with an aggressive dog, even for a short day time visit let alone overnight. My grandchildren often stay overnight with me but not at such a young age and only because they are well acquainted with me and happy about it. St ick to your guns,very unreasonable of her to expect t his

My eldest GS is in his teens now , but when he was a baby my DIL used to lift him out of the car and put him in his pushchair , open my front door , push him into the living room , and I would hear the door shut and come down to make sure he was ok . It would have been handier if he had stayed overnight , but I didn’t suggest that till he was older and she and my son were happy with it
She and my son had some very early shifts !

How about suggesting to mil that it’s your turn now to be parents & you don’t really want your child away from you unnecessarily. Maybe the child’s father should also suggest strongly & separately that the dog is jealous & a dog that needs to be muzzled is obviously too great a risk, absolutely no way !

You are not being unreasonable. I would not leave my child alone in her house with her at all due to the dog. I have a horrid feeling she only adapts her behaviour with the dog because you are there. Please don't do it☹

You could turn the tables and offer to have the dog and they have your son. It is unlikely he will settle anyway and she will be champing at the bit to give him back.

Lucca

vampirequeen

The dog is enough to make you say no. If she takes umbridge then that's her problem.

Agreed. Can I be cheeky and ask if umbridge is where offended Archers love?....

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