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If you got divorced at some point, what did you do with your wedding/engagement rings?

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MaryTheBookeeper Mon 27-Jul-20 21:48:39

I'm wondering what to do with mine? They have sentimental value but what's the point of them just sitting in the drawer? I don't want my dc to use them, I'd rather they had their own fresh start. Flogging them for scrap feels heartless. What did you do with yours?

Diggingdoris Tue 28-Jul-20 10:13:20

I sold both his and my wedding bands as I was desperate for money . My aunt bought my engagement ring from me for the same reason, but she said she would give it back if I changed my mind at a later date. I never did.

annifrance Tue 28-Jul-20 10:12:56

MY grandmother's wedding ring was buried with her, My mother's I was going to leave with her but as she was cremated someone told me the funeral directors just take these for themselves! So I gave it to my DD.

annifrance Tue 28-Jul-20 10:11:06

Legal point: wife/fiancee entitled to keep engagement ring whatever the circumstances, it was a gift, however a family heirloom is returned.

I gave my first engagement ring back to my mother in law on their Golden Wedding anniversary, it had been hers anyway. She was very touched and had never expected it back. The wedding ring along with second wedding ring I sold and got a good price along with other bits of gold.

Second engagement ring I love for the ring itself and wear it daily. It was designed for me along with a lot of other jewellery from the same designer. I did sell the wedding necklace as it is outdated to wear a suite of jewellery nowdays. Anyway I only wore it about ten times in England as not many occasions for that sort of thing, and here in France profonde it was useless! I have kept the matching earrings. I do have quite a lot of inherited jewellery which is beautiful. I am gradually giving some of it to DD and DDiL.
All the remaining stuff will go to my DD and DGDs when I die.

After 20 years my OH and I eventually got married recently . I'm not really bothered about yet more rings as I have plenty. And at 70 seems a bit daft to spend money on expensive gold. So will at some point get around to a silver wedding ring and another ring in silver with a white topaz stone that I have acquired at some point. My DH has bought me silver for my 50th and other bits of silver so seems to make sense.

Purplepoppies Tue 28-Jul-20 10:10:17

I have my mum's wedding ring from her marriage to my dad. I used to wear it (on my little finger because I have big hands ?) then wore it around my neck, now its in my jewellery box.
Maybe your children/child/grandchild would like them? Best to ask before you sell?? ?

Googes41 Tue 28-Jul-20 10:05:59

Do you all continue to wear your wedding rings when widowed? A friend recently widowed has removed hers
Saying she is no longer married. I believe mine to be a sign of
Everlasting love and will continue to wear mine as did my mother and mil.

Molli Tue 28-Jul-20 10:05:23

I gave both rings to my daughter when she got married and she used them as part payment for their wedding rings.They weren't worth much.

Lisajr Tue 28-Jul-20 10:03:35

I flushed mine down the toilet where it belonged. It was liberating!

newnanny Tue 28-Jul-20 09:59:38

I offered all jewelry my ex bought me to dd but she was also angry with her Dad do said she did not want them. I then decided to offer to dear nieces. One had engagement ring, one had diamond on a chain necklace, another had pearls, I have other nieces and great nieces a have them a diamond bracelet, emerald and diamond bracelet, lots of pairs of earings including diamond ones, about 4 other necklaces and 2 broaches. My ex did buy me some lovely jewelry but I knew I would not wear it again. I threw my wedding ring onto the sea from top of cliff where he proposed to me. It sort of closed the circle for me.

Susieq62 Tue 28-Jul-20 09:55:15

Mine were stolen during a burglary and I was so upset as they were to be gifted to my daughter. The burglars missed one tiny ring which was the first Mother’s Day gift I received. I had that one made to fit for her 21st. With the insurance money I took her to New York for her 18th. She will be 40 next year!
Get your tings made into a piece if jewellery you like and would cherish. Not all divorce is dreadful

SueLindsey Tue 28-Jul-20 09:54:58

Never had an engagement or wedding ring, though they might have been useful to sell when we got divorced!

Daisyboots Tue 28-Jul-20 09:53:41

My rings were in my jewelry box but my dear adopted daughtesr took the box. I eventually found it in their bedroom but my furst wedding ring was missing despite us searching everywhere. I can only think it had slipped down between the floorboards in the fitted wardrobe. The wedding ring was a wide 22 carat gold so would have been worth quite a bit. Strangely the eternity ring he gave split into 3 pieces as I got back into my car after going to see the divorce solicitor for the first time.
When my niece was getting married I asked if she would like my mothers ring as her wedding ring and she said she would. So I travelled to England especially to give it to her early in case it needed altering. On the day my daughter informed that she had not got my mothers ring but something entirely different which we found rather upsetting as the ring had special memories attached.

Parky Tue 28-Jul-20 09:52:25

Sold them with no qualms, was left short of money so was a great help. No regrets 50 years later!

Have been happily married now for 4o years. I wear my wedding ring, my mother's and her mother's. None needed altering my daughter too has the same size finger so will wear them all when I pop my clogs

trisher Tue 28-Jul-20 09:51:17

Engagement ring (if you can call it such -it was the sixties we were being different!) isn't really valuable- nice silver modern design with rose quartz stone in my jewellery box, sometimes take it out to remember how thin my fingers were. Wedding ring- now there's an interesting story. It was my grandmother's given to me just before our wedding. Just before I got divorced it was lost in the garden (Granny warning?) it turned up several years later when I was digging the garden. In my jewellery box now. When my mother died I was asked if I wanted her ring removed. I had never known her to take it off so I said 'No'. It was a thin war time ring anyway so very little gold,

jocork Tue 28-Jul-20 09:48:42

I wear my engagement ring on my other hand. The fingers on my right hand are slightly bigger so I can't get it off if I wanted to.
I sold my wedding ring for scrap with some broken chains to replace the chain for my cross which was a 21st present from my grandad so has great sentimental value. At the time I couldn't afford it any other way. I wear it all the time so the chain has broken more than once.

Traceyac Tue 28-Jul-20 09:47:54

mine are in a drawer but its got me thinking about gold prices

b1zzle Tue 28-Jul-20 09:43:33

I bought all the rings. Silly me. But I sold the wedding band although I still wear the engagement ring (cheap one with garnets as I didn't have much money left after he'd chosen the ring he wanted).

It serves to remind me what an a******e he was!

Yangste1007 Tue 28-Jul-20 09:41:12

In my jewellery box I have the wedding and engagement rings from my husband's marriage to his first wife. No idea what to do with them. First wife died in a car accident and he removed his wedding ring on the first evening following the accident. That was in 1983. I'm can't remember how they ended up with my jewellery.

daffers Tue 28-Jul-20 09:39:47

Put mine on my charm bracelet

EllanVannin Tue 28-Jul-20 09:39:40

Hilarious, Spangler. I love your friend's sense of humour. How practical too.

I still wear both rings since H died in 1994. Maybe this is why I've remained single grin I couldn't discard/dispose of either.

jaylucy Tue 28-Jul-20 09:37:36

I lost my engagement ring but still have my eternity and wedding ring - both were made for me by a friend and especially the wedding ring is unique.
I have got plans at some point to have them made into something that I can wear (too small now) - just wish that I had grabbed my ex husbands as well for the extra gold!
Am I the only one that paid for their own wedding ring?

Smileless2012 Tue 28-Jul-20 09:35:03

When my parents divorced my mum gave me her engagement ring which I still have. I don't know what happened to her wedding ring though.

Mouse Tue 28-Jul-20 09:33:53

I had my grandmothers wedding ring remade into one for me when I got married. My marriage is long over so the ring holds no emotional value as far as that’s concerned. Still it was my grandmothers ring so is still important to me. I occasionally wear it on my right hand.

henetha Tue 28-Jul-20 09:31:16

I've kept mine, in an old jewellery box. They're not very valuable anyway, and I couldn't bring myself to throw them away.
My finger felt naked without them so I now wear my mother's eternity ring instead.

Hetty58 Tue 28-Jul-20 08:59:30

sodapop, my fingers are too fat to get mine off! I'll have to get them cut off at some point but I'm not sentimental about them.

midgey Tue 28-Jul-20 08:55:15

I never got divorced but my husband and I sold my wedding ring and engagement rings when times were very hard!