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MaryTheBookeeper Mon 31-Aug-20 18:12:17

Is it ok to be a pet-sitting nosey parker if you don't touch? I have discrete security cameras around my house & last time someone pet-sat for me I could see they'd gone into all my rooms for a look around, although nothing was touched. (most doors were closed). I'm about to go away again & I'm wondering if the new pet-sitter will also have a snoop around?

I've just house-sat for a different friend & I made sure not to do anything other than that that was asked. So own up, would you use the opportunity for a good look?

Oreo Thu 14-Aug-25 18:40:10

A pub near me caught staff stealing through setting up cameras.
They had been losing money hand over fist.

Oreo Thu 14-Aug-25 18:38:51

Cameras set up in care homes catch quite a bit of both stealing by carers and cruel behaviour.
Cameras set up in private homes also catch cleaners and carers stealing.
Then you can hand the evidence to the police.Ditto for any burglars who’ve broken into your home, and no you don’t have to request their permission to do this!

B9exchange Thu 14-Aug-25 18:34:06

You must tell a cat sitter if you have indoor, or even outdoor cameras, it is just good manners.
Under the UK GDPR and Data Protection Act 2018, if you record someone in a private setting and they are identifiable, you may be considered a data controller.
- This means you must:
- Inform them of the recording
- Explain the purpose
- Avoid excessive or intrusive surveillance
Not keep the recording for longer than absolutely necessary, and not share it without consent.

Oreo Thu 14-Aug-25 13:13:29

StripeyGran

Oreo

StripeyGran

Slightly creepy. Are the cameras everywhere?

I once tried out some perfume, naughty I suppose.

It’s not illegal to have cameras, and very useful in case Burglar Bill pops in.

Do you argue with your own shadow I wonder?

I did not comment on legality.

I made a light hearted comment.

It's fair to know if you are being filmed I think.

😁you call that arguing?
Just pointing out that it’s legal on your own premises and not at all ‘creepy’.
Of course it’s fair to not let people know they’re being filmed, how would you ever catch anyone stealing?

whywhywhy Thu 14-Aug-25 13:08:11

No never. I have house sitted for my eldest son and looked after their dog before and I never went into the rooms that I was asked to. Bedroom, kitchen and sitting room. I would never wander around their house. Its their home and not mine.

StripeyGran Thu 14-Aug-25 12:52:54

Oreo

StripeyGran

Slightly creepy. Are the cameras everywhere?

I once tried out some perfume, naughty I suppose.

It’s not illegal to have cameras, and very useful in case Burglar Bill pops in.

Do you argue with your own shadow I wonder?

I did not comment on legality.

I made a light hearted comment.

It's fair to know if you are being filmed I think.

mumofmadboys Thu 14-Aug-25 12:25:58

When our kids were young I heard my parents discussing our lax parenting style over a baby alarm!! I was amused and didn't take it to heart! Nor did I tell them!

Oreo Thu 14-Aug-25 12:00:01

Flippinheck

Several years ago my neighbour asked me to feed her cat while she went on holiday for three weeks. She went away and left her very loud alarm clock ringing. My bedroom is next to hers and it was genuinely loud enough to disturb my sleep. I hoped it would eventually turn itself off. When it didn’t I texted her to ask if I could turn it off but no reply so after three days I went upstairs and simply unplugged it. Did nothing more, no snooping no lingering.
I told her about the alarm when she came home and got a very sarcastic ‘I’m sooo sorry.’ After that she simply stopped speaking to me. I was later challenged by another neighbour who told me I should be ashamed of myself. Another told me I was lucky I hadn’t been arrested.
So, this person whose cat I had taken care off had started the evil rumour mill by complaining that I had been rummaging through her bedroom. I think Chinese whispers probably turned that into stealing things. In this case I wish she had had a camera which would have shown I did nothing wrong (and that I took proper care of her cat). Cameras can protect the visitor as well as the home owner.
For years my neighbours were very cool towards me, though the main perpetrators are no longer with us.
So, people, beware of what you do.

What a horrible person she is!
Feeding her cat for three weeks and has the brass neck to complain that you turned her noisy clock off.
A case of no good deed going unpunished 🤬

Oreo Thu 14-Aug-25 11:57:15

StripeyGran

Slightly creepy. Are the cameras everywhere?

I once tried out some perfume, naughty I suppose.

It’s not illegal to have cameras, and very useful in case Burglar Bill pops in.

dogsmother Thu 14-Aug-25 11:55:09

I agree flipp about protection and watching your own back. If you’ve got nothing to hide where’s the problem. For the same reasons we have a dash cam on our car/s .

Flippinheck Thu 14-Aug-25 09:21:08

Several years ago my neighbour asked me to feed her cat while she went on holiday for three weeks. She went away and left her very loud alarm clock ringing. My bedroom is next to hers and it was genuinely loud enough to disturb my sleep. I hoped it would eventually turn itself off. When it didn’t I texted her to ask if I could turn it off but no reply so after three days I went upstairs and simply unplugged it. Did nothing more, no snooping no lingering.
I told her about the alarm when she came home and got a very sarcastic ‘I’m sooo sorry.’ After that she simply stopped speaking to me. I was later challenged by another neighbour who told me I should be ashamed of myself. Another told me I was lucky I hadn’t been arrested.
So, this person whose cat I had taken care off had started the evil rumour mill by complaining that I had been rummaging through her bedroom. I think Chinese whispers probably turned that into stealing things. In this case I wish she had had a camera which would have shown I did nothing wrong (and that I took proper care of her cat). Cameras can protect the visitor as well as the home owner.
For years my neighbours were very cool towards me, though the main perpetrators are no longer with us.
So, people, beware of what you do.

TheWeirdoAgain60 Thu 14-Aug-25 09:01:34

I wouldn't do it at all!

I've pet-sat for various animals over the years and only enter the rooms where I really need to/have permission for the pets or the bathroom, but other than that, I'd never snoop, even if all the doors were wide open!

I'd feel like a creepy intruder!

dogsmother Thu 14-Aug-25 08:56:55

We have pet cam to watch our dogs when we are away from the house that we use for baby cam when we have gd over. Unlucky if anyone else is caught up in it.

escaped Thu 14-Aug-25 08:52:46

When I pet visit, I sometimes sit on the sofa and dabble into magazines while the dog is deciding whether to do business or not.
I wouldn't touch any personal stuff or go looking.

Mt61 Thu 14-Aug-25 08:51:49

shysal

My friend was sure that her MIL was snooping to find fault when babysitting, so she booby-trapped the oven so that a pile of tins fell out.

I have been known to trap a slip of paper or a hair into the opening of closed drawers or doors to see if they were disturbed, which they usually were.

So who had gone through your drawers Shysal?

nanna8 Thu 14-Aug-25 08:31:07

I wouldn’t use a pet sitter, rather pay for a kennel. I don’t want a stranger in my house. We have a lovely cat kennel near us and the cats have very large heated enclosures and access to an outdoor run. Mind you, it costs.

poppysmum Thu 14-Aug-25 08:22:25

usually just main areas where dogs are ie conservatory or porch. i think people are considerate and would turn off any cameras in the main house areas.

StripeyGran Thu 14-Aug-25 08:04:36

Slightly creepy. Are the cameras everywhere?

I once tried out some perfume, naughty I suppose.

poppysmum Thu 14-Aug-25 07:57:19

as a professional house sitter I would never go where I was not told to, i.e. kitchen for my food, where the pet food is kept if not kitchen, lounge, bedroom, bathroom.
I am quite used to cameras, I find people like them to be on so they can see their pets are fine. Takes a lot of the worry away for them.

Whitewavemark2 Thu 14-Aug-25 07:30:38

Blimey in the great scheme of things I think that I could happily put up with someone having a look around my home, if they were giving good care to my little cat.

I have a cat sitter, and it has never crossed my mind whether or not she has a look around.

Honestly does it matter?

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Maggiemaybe Tue 01-Sept-20 13:11:17

If anyone was so bored with their own life that they had to try to seek out a vicarious thrill from mine, I’d be more sorry for them than anything else. They’d have their work cut out. grin

felice Tue 01-Sept-20 12:26:59

My Mother was really nosey, I once caught her going through my X husbands underwear drawer, when challenged she said she was "just checking" and did I know he had those 'things' in the drawer, Durex. Well yes of course!!!!!
I am in and out of DDs house upstairs often, especially since lockdown, they trust me completely. I go into DGS bedroom and bathroom, kitchen and living room. Never in the other bedrooms, bathrooms unless DD asks me to.
The thought of cameras makes me cold, but I do know people here who have them, they had a really bad home invasion.

shysal Tue 01-Sept-20 12:26:58

My friend was sure that her MIL was snooping to find fault when babysitting, so she booby-trapped the oven so that a pile of tins fell out.

I have been known to trap a slip of paper or a hair into the opening of closed drawers or doors to see if they were disturbed, which they usually were.