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Are you a pet-sitting nosey parker?

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MaryTheBookeeper Mon 31-Aug-20 18:12:17

Is it ok to be a pet-sitting nosey parker if you don't touch? I have discrete security cameras around my house & last time someone pet-sat for me I could see they'd gone into all my rooms for a look around, although nothing was touched. (most doors were closed). I'm about to go away again & I'm wondering if the new pet-sitter will also have a snoop around?

I've just house-sat for a different friend & I made sure not to do anything other than that that was asked. So own up, would you use the opportunity for a good look?

Maggiemaybe Tue 01-Sep-20 13:11:17

If anyone was so bored with their own life that they had to try to seek out a vicarious thrill from mine, I’d be more sorry for them than anything else. They’d have their work cut out. grin

felice Tue 01-Sep-20 12:26:59

My Mother was really nosey, I once caught her going through my X husbands underwear drawer, when challenged she said she was "just checking" and did I know he had those 'things' in the drawer, Durex. Well yes of course!!!!!
I am in and out of DDs house upstairs often, especially since lockdown, they trust me completely. I go into DGS bedroom and bathroom, kitchen and living room. Never in the other bedrooms, bathrooms unless DD asks me to.
The thought of cameras makes me cold, but I do know people here who have them, they had a really bad home invasion.

shysal Tue 01-Sep-20 12:26:58

My friend was sure that her MIL was snooping to find fault when babysitting, so she booby-trapped the oven so that a pile of tins fell out.

I have been known to trap a slip of paper or a hair into the opening of closed drawers or doors to see if they were disturbed, which they usually were.

NanaandGrampy Tue 01-Sep-20 12:13:05

No I wouldn't snoop but I also wouldn't pet sit for anyone who had indoor security cameras. You either trust your pet sitter or you don't.

Furthermore , the law states guests must consent , preferably in writing to you using those cameras whilst they are in your home. There's also the issue of data protection laws which also applies to video footage. How do you dispose or erase it? Do you have a policy?

I wont lie , I'm horrified that you thought it was ok to do that .

henetha Tue 01-Sep-20 12:07:57

I've done lots of house and pet sitting in the past and can honestly say that I have never gone into a room nor opened a cupboard which I didn't need to. The way to behave is to treat other people's houses as you would want yours to be treated.
I dislike nosey people.

Lovetopaint037 Tue 01-Sep-20 10:55:57

For years I always watered plants and picked up post for neighbours ( they had a glass door panel which revealed post on the floor - dead give away the house was empty). Always popped upstairs and peeped inside their bedroom to check the ceiling for leaks as we had come home to a couple after holidays. I always told them I did it. Took me all of a couple of seconds, never looked around except to ensure all was safe. They even left me insurance numbers to ring if anything was wrong. Absolutely hate the idea of a nosey person in a house and would never want or be interested in behaving like that.

eazybee Tue 01-Sep-20 10:48:29

My son's cat is not allowed outside but has a range of hiding places within a very small house and used to disappear when I went to feed him; I was terrified he had somehow slipped out when I opened the door. A friend's cat went missing when a friend came to feed it during a long weekend. When the owner returned home the feeder was distraught, more so when the cat was discovered shut in the spare bedroom; she had not searched the house.
So there may be a rational reason.

PernillaVanilla Tue 01-Sep-20 10:38:08

An interesting question. I work in home care and we welcome our customers having cameras as it is a reassurance for the relations and a reassurance for the carers that they will not be accused of things they have not done. We expect to be told cameras are in place and it is now very common. If it is OK in care surely it is more than OK in petsitting?

aggie Tue 01-Sep-20 10:24:53

I water my DDs house plants , she moves them all into the kitchen/ living room, but this week she has moved some of them to my house ! Does she think I wander from room to room 😧 ?

Oopsminty Tue 01-Sep-20 10:22:43


The cameras are part of a home security system that my pet sitters know is there.

So if the pet sitters know you have cameras why were they poking around your home?

Callistemon Tue 01-Sep-20 10:19:00

Is there a camera in the bathroom?
The pet sitters might investigate the cupboards in there too.

Callistemon Tue 01-Sep-20 10:17:58

I think I'd put my pets in kennels /cattery/ rabbit, guinea pig, hamster hotel.

biba70 Tue 01-Sep-20 06:18:44

most homesecurity systems check the periphery of the house not individual rooms. Creepy. Do you keep it on when you have other visitors, like your children, friends or grandchildren?

MaryTheBookeeper Tue 01-Sep-20 06:03:14

The cameras are part of a home security system that my pet sitters know is there.

Callistemon Mon 31-Aug-20 22:22:44

I did wonder
Everywhere? In each room?
Or hidden?

MawB2 Mon 31-Aug-20 22:18:14


^discrete security cameras^

Do you mean concealed or separate security cameras, OP?

I suspect OP meant discreet - don’t you?

biba70 Mon 31-Aug-20 20:23:39

Just wondering, was it someone you paid, or a friendly (nosey perhaps) neighbour? Were they staying over in your home, or just popping in once or twice a day?

Callistemon Mon 31-Aug-20 20:23:21

discrete security cameras

Do you mean concealed or separate security cameras, OP?

Callistemon Mon 31-Aug-20 20:21:07

I agree with other posters - a gross intrusion of privacy.

biba70 Mon 31-Aug-20 19:36:31

Just as Oopsminty said - so so wrong to video without consent.

Maggiemaybe Mon 31-Aug-20 19:32:51

Absolutely, Oopsadaisy. Discreet concealed cameras in your home spying on people you've engaged to do a job there? That's a shocking invasion of privacy.

Oopsadaisy4 Mon 31-Aug-20 18:38:27

No I wouldn’t, but I would be very upset to find out that I had been filmed without my consent whilst doing my job.

In fact I wouldn’t be upset, I would be outraged and I don’t get cross very often.

Oopsminty Mon 31-Aug-20 18:34:19

Of course we'd not want our pet sitters wandering around and I imagine most people wouldn't do it.

I'm not that keen on having cameras in the home though. It's rather dodgy territory and pet sitters have the right to privacy.

Just found this article. It's illegal in some countries to film people without their knowledge.

I’m certain that homeowners would be horrified to find their hotel, bed and breakfast, or Airbnb manager is watching and/or listening to them without disclosure.

This, I’m certain they’d argue, would constitute an invasion of their privacy, which begs the question, how is doing this to your house-sitter not an invasion of theirs?

House-sitters should have a reasonable expectation of privacy.

PinkCakes Mon 31-Aug-20 18:28:09

No! Even when I'd cat-sat for my son, I never went into ANY room but the kitchen.

I've got 3 CCTV cameras at my house (outside) and once discovered that the "professional" company I'd paid to call in to feed my cats (3 of them then) had been for 3 minutes instead of the 45 I'd paid for! He hadn't given one of them her medication for 3 days, and he'd called round at noon instead of 8 am, the time we'd agreed on. My son's friend now cat-sits for us - he's known my cat for 9 years and has got cats of his own, so I trust him entirely.

Tweedle24 Mon 31-Aug-20 18:21:34

Absolutely not! I frequently look after a neighbour’s cats but would not dream of going anywhere except where the cats’ food is kept and served. I have been in all their rooms by invitation anyway.