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Is 75 young or old?

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Urmstongran Tue 01-Sept-20 20:30:34

It’s not young.
But it’s not old either!

I tend to look at ages in obituaries. Any under 75y I tend to think ‘oh heck’. Any older, I relax a bit.

My dear mum was pleased for every year she got past the ‘three score years and ten’. That’s only 4 years away for me.
?

I suppose it’s all relative.

V3ra Tue 01-Sept-20 20:17:42

BlueBelle the surgeon wanted to do the hip replacement using a spinal shield rather than a general anaesthetic, which mother-in-law said she'd prefer, but she also has COPD so took his advice. She worked hard at her physio afterwards.
She was in a lot of pain before the operation but her quality of life is so much better now.
She's planned her funeral, chosen her hymns and written a poem to be read out, but is certainly in no hurry to go any time soon!

BlueBelle Tue 01-Sept-20 20:02:48

I think 75 is very very young ( I am) but having said that I don’t think I’d go through a lot of treatment personally of course you never know till you face it, but I used to think I d take what ever was offered but the older I get the less I think like that I definitely know I wouldn’t be opting for an operation at 90 but your mother in law sounds a right goer V3ra
I think we have to accept that life does come to an end and that the money should be spent on younger people needing major treatment

V3ra Tue 01-Sept-20 19:50:25

My mother-in-law had a hysterectomy, radiotherapy and brachytherapy for uterine cancer at the age of 88, then a hip replacement at 90.
She's currently 92 and has paid for her flight to Lanzarote with us next June (postponed from this year).
She's registered blind through macular degeneration and is currently staying with her daughter, but under normal circumstances lives in her own house with a cleaner and gardener to help.
She's definitely a glass-overflowing character ?

Smileless2012 Tue 01-Sept-20 19:34:29

I suppose it depends on your health and outlook on life. Your DH sounds as if he's a young 75 kittylester smile.

kittylester Tue 01-Sept-20 19:28:05

DH, at 75, has just restarted doing his volunteer driving for RVS, mainly driving people for radiotherapy.

Today, he drove a chap who said he was unsure whether it was worth having treatment at his age for a normally easily treatable cancer, hes 75!

So, is 75 young or old?