I am in despair. My elderly dad is now 90 and lives 250 miles away. He lives with my 56 year old brother who has a low IQ and has lived with my parents all his life. He has become a very nasty person. Between him and my mother who died recently, they made my dad's life hell with acts of aggression and spite. Now my brother drives my dad around but doesn't cook or clean. My dad pays for lunch and all the bills. I have pointed out to my dad that my brother should contribute but he is frightened to upset him. My brother has stolen dad's mobile phones many times so I can't contact dad and see if he is OK. In the past I have contacted social services and the police but they just have a word with my brother who thinks he is invincible. I fear that dad will fall ill and my brother will be incapable of acting appropriately. He already intimidates the meals on wheels lady and has seen off the Thursday help. It seems he is controlling my dad and his territory. I don't know what to do next. He will be incapable of living alone in the house after my dad goes. Dad already is losing capacity.
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