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What would you tell your younger self?

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marymary62 Mon 04-Jan-21 11:13:23

I’m 65, fit and active (enough for what I do anyway - not a marathon runner!) my DH is 63 and the same. We are noticing more aches and pains though! Personally I’m finding a big garden and house becoming a bit of a chore and want to spend more time out walking etc while I am able ! We also don’t have family nearby - both DD’s and GC live 3 hours away so we spend a long time driving to see them. For those of you who are a decade or so older what choices are you glad you made a decade ago, what regrets, what advice ?!

Peasblossom Mon 04-Jan-21 11:33:05

Took early retirement, sold the big house, packed my rucksack and went off to see the world.

Met a gorgeous man, bought a new house closer to the family, moved in together.

Don’t regret a minute of it! The only thing I’d regret is if I’d lusened to all those people who thought I should stay put 😬

marymary62 Mon 04-Jan-21 11:36:11

Peasblossom - sounds wonderful! I met my gorgeous man 40 years ago and I hope to not lose him anytime soon but I fear we have become stuck in the mud so an adventure (when allowed!) sounds ideal !

BBbevan Mon 04-Jan-21 11:38:03

Wish we had moved here earlier instead of living in the virtual car park of north London. I also wish I had been braver when young and not been constrained by my mother’s wishes.

GagaJo Mon 04-Jan-21 11:41:19

You were right not to want marriage and kids. Focus on your career and things will be great!

annodomini Mon 04-Jan-21 11:50:04

Plan to live longer than you expect.

marymary62 Mon 04-Jan-21 16:39:14

Annodomini - a great answer ! I will do that. Thanks all!

Judy54 Mon 04-Jan-21 16:56:47

Best choice was early retirement and then moving to a rural location but with access to facilities in our nearest Market Town. Made new friends, have an active social life (pre-covid) live in a lovely community with great neighbours. We don't have any regrets at all.

rascal Mon 04-Jan-21 17:49:30

It will be alright.

Kate1949 Mon 04-Jan-21 18:01:41

Don't let your awful childhood hold you back. Be brave.

Santana Mon 04-Jan-21 18:48:26

It's not something you did, it's something that happened to you.

Susiewong65 Mon 04-Jan-21 19:11:34

It will be alright in the end and if it isn’t alright it’s not the end.

Marydoll Mon 04-Jan-21 19:12:22

Don't wait to fulfil your dreams. Live now, you don't know what's ahead of you.