Son in law - dislike

BlueBelle

callistemom the reason I asked if poster was Australian
They are biiiiiggggg meat eaters and an advocado doesn’t do so well on the ‘barbi’ ?
I agree totally grandetante

Bluebelle and, of course, hens are known as chooks in Australia.

Yes, but they do serve avocados with bacon and eggs for breakfast!
Or on toast if someone is vegan.

callistemom the reason I asked if poster was Australian
They are biiiiiggggg meat eaters and an advocado doesn’t do so well on the ‘barbi’ ?
I agree totally grandetante

I’m with annsixty and crazyH as long as you don’t feel uncomfortable in your own home and the chap is not trying to “convert” you all.

My sympathies are entirely with this daughter and her partner.

Frankly, you come across as overbearing and self-opinionated.

And if your other children and their spouses are treating their sister and her partner as you describe, you won't have to worry about being with them, will you?

This poor girl and her beloved aren't likely to want to see any of you.

Some people take their cul de sac bee bee queues very seriously

Well said Madgran. I agree it will be totally understandable if the OP doesn't return to this thread if she comes back to GN at all.

I find your username interesting, Chookstar especially as the post is about a vegan SIL.

Do you eat your own chooks? Do you think that could be another influence in your DD's decision to become vegan?

It seems to me that if every time there is a thread started where a poster is clearly upset (yes possibly seemingly rather dramatically, but still upset) and is immediately accused of making it up and not being believed, then if it is genuine of course they won't come back!. I have also seen some fairly emotional threads started as described where the poster HAS come back and made it clear that they are genuine! Yes sometimes our emotions overtake on what to others seems ridiculous ...but we are all different!

Chookstar73 If your only upset because your daughter has become vegan like her partner then I think you need to take a step back, accept her for her choices.

I get the impression from your post though, that there is more worrying you regarding the change in your daughter, how she has changed etc. and if that is the case then a little more detail would be helpful. However it would be understandable if you do not feel able to give more detail here.

You do not own your children. They are individuals who develop their own views and behaviours.
Your approval is not necessary.

Can you actually list the crimes?
Or is vegan as bad as it gets?

Hello chookstar are you new to gn. If so welcome!

Chookstar73
The cord was cut the day you gave birth.

My daughter has dietry needs so eats a lot of vegan food and that cocunut collective stuff is actually bloody expensive lovely. The yogurts and coconut cheese. We have that oatly spread too which is quite nice.

Agree with Lucca &a few others. Fishy?

Anyway it's the new way forward to sustain the planet.

Well let's just consider for a moment that this a genuine post, the OP's unlikely to come back if she's going to be met with disbelief.

If your D becoming a vegan is the only change you've noticed then I wouldn't worry Chookstar. If however this isn't the only change you're seeing then I understand why you're upset, especially if you no longer feel the connection you once had.

Like Elless we are also estranged from our youngest son ans have been for more than 8 years.

If there's more to this and you don't feel comfortable saying too much on an open forum, please feel free to send me a private message.

Good grief.

beautiful, polite and respectful partners and have bought us many fantastic grandchildren to the world. Respectful?? It sounds as if your new son in law, if this is true, has saved your daughter from your rather sinister, controlling, perfect family. Good for her for turning away from being a huge off the bone meat eater, it sounds as if he has more concern and respect for the environment and her health than you have.

SIL is vegan - shock, horror.

What a dreadful man he must be.
Advise your DD to LTB.

So, if you want to get some peace from interfering, overbearing in-laws you should just turn vegan!

Chookstar73 I have total sympathy, I am the other way round, my son was always confident, strong, independent and (not that we forced him) agreed with our opinions and views, he has now totally changed after meeting his now wife, he too has become vegan and his views on everything have changed, I feel I do not know him any more, we have 5 children and his 4 brothers agree that you can't talk to him any more. My son is now estranged and we haven't spoken to him for 3 years (I do believe because his wife has influenced him). You need to weigh up what to do otherwise it will end up in an estrangement.

I find this strange and hard to believe.

Turning to veganism I d say ‘good on her’ although I do wonder if this can be a genuine post can a woman really be as controlling and clingy as this grandmother goodness me get on with your own life chook and stop trying to control and dominate your children’s

This is the latest in a run of threads where the op is 'distraught' or 'hates sil'. They rarely come back and the premise is usually ridiculous,as in this case.

Riverwalk

Oh, give over! I don't believe a word.

Exactly. This cannot be a genuine post.

Our children can hold ideas and values diametrically opposed to ours Chookstar73. That's life. So she no longer eats meat. That really isn't a bit deal.

You need to rein in behaviour like this, 'I feel like I don’t want to be around her as every time I cry ' or you DO risk losing her.

Even if he was an abusive partner (and converting someone to veganism is about as far away from abusive as it is possible to get), putting non-verbal pressure on her would create even more distance.

So 1 out of 5 children hasn't followed a path you approve of? Her choice.

Not much you can do really is there?
She's married someone with strong views, who seems to be controlling, and who has influenced her diet in an extreme way. But don't fret, don't interfere.
If she does embrace veganism she'll have to study nutrition at depth in order to make sure she gets all the vitamins she needs, and I think she'll need supplements from her doctor too (others will know more than me on this subject).
Whatever their age, our children will always embrace the opposite views to their parents so please keep your dislike under wraps. I know couples who live happily together with one of them eating meat and the other not.
The food issue is really not a problem though is it?
You don't tell us what the other issues are, I get the impression there's more to it than just the diet differences, what's really worrying you here?

Oh, give over! I don't believe a word.