Gransnet forums

Ask a gran

Page 5 of 5 | First | Previous | Next | Last
| Flip | Customise |

Son in law - dislike

(106 Posts)
Add comment | Report
crazyH Mon 13-Sept-21 12:54:38

Becoming vegan isn't such an awful thing. But if he is trying to manipulate your daughter into distancing herself from her family, that's bad. However, if he makes her happy, that's all that matters, I guess. Don't be too harsh on him
You haven't said exactly how she has changed, other than turning vegan....

Add comment | Report
BlueBelle Mon 13-Sept-21 12:52:19

Oh come on of course our children change
I doubt he’s a big bad wolf but if everyone in your big family is against him what quicker way is there to push her more tightly to him
So you’re upset because she’s turned from a carnivore to a vegan oh really you have to get over yourself I can’t believe anyone could be that small minded
I would think your daughter and son in law would be well advised to move away and get on with their lives in the way they see fit and you can get on with the rest of the family who seem to fit into your perfect ideas and ways
I m sorry but I can’t muster up any sympathy for you at all each of our children should be FREE to choose their own path not become a ‘mummy me’
Are you in Australia ?

Add comment | Report
wildswan16 Mon 13-Sept-21 12:51:51

Do you really expect all your children to hold exactly the same views, likes and dislikes as you? Deciding to stop eating meat is a life choice thousands of people (young and old) are making.

Maybe you should get to know your daughter a little better, welcome her partner into your family and delight in having brought up an independent young woman.

Add comment | Report
Lucca Mon 13-Sept-21 12:50:48

No sorry I don’t buy this.

Add comment | Report
annsixty Mon 13-Sept-21 12:49:21

Is this really the only thing you have against him?
Does he make your daughter happy.
Is he a good husband to her?
Simply being a vegan is no bad thing in my eyes.
Does he beat her, keep her short of money, belittle her in your company?
That would be my criteria for liking or disliking him.

Add comment | Report
Chookstar73 Mon 13-Sept-21 12:43:22

Hi all
We have a daughter who has changed from being a huge off the bone meat eater to meeting her partner and now has turned vegan. All the things she has been bought up on have gone out the window to join the partners view. We have five children and all have beautiful, polite and respectful partners and have bought us many fantastic grandchildren to the world.
How can one person come into her life, change her dramatically to follow his views and values and forget the wonderful things we have given her. We feel he has manipulated her and all the other children dislike him especially what he is doing to her.
I feel like I don’t want to be around her as every time I cry as I feel I have totally lost connection.
I’m so upset and don’t know what to do ?

Page 5 of 5 | First | Previous | Next | Last
| Flip | Customise |