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Unexpected gift

(56 Posts)
sodapop Thu 23-Sept-21 12:13:01

I agree with other posters Lizzle10 it will give both you and the donor great pleasure so enjoy your gift and don't worry.

NotSpaghetti Thu 23-Sept-21 12:06:07

If you like it enough to be wearing it, I'd say go on enjoying it.
An elderly lady gave me a brooch after I'd admired it once years before...
It's a privilege to give. Harder to receive. Your wearing of it will make her happy.
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Germanshepherdsmum Thu 23-Sept-21 12:05:41

I agree with crazyH. Keep it and wear it, whether valuable or not, to show her you love it and the lady who gave it to you I would get it valued though, as you may need to make special mention of it on your insurance for it to be covered.

Shandy57 Thu 23-Sept-21 12:04:30

I agree, your friend would be very upset if you returned it. My daughter doesn't have any interest in my rings, and wouldn't care if I gave one to a treasured friend.

crazyH Thu 23-Sept-21 12:00:42

She wanted you to have it and that’s it. If I was her, I would be really upset if someone returned my gift, for whatever reason. Both of you have great affection for each other. Keep the ring is my advice,

Lizzle10 Thu 23-Sept-21 11:52:29

For several years I have worked for an elderly couple who over time have become very special to me, helping and supporting me through some tough times . They have a son and daughter who both live abroad and I no longer have my parents so we all mutually enjoy the relationship we have formed as it fills a void we all have . Last week whilst having coffee she opened a small box full of rings , asked me to try them on and choose one I liked . I said I couldn’t but she insisted as none of them were her ‘special’ rings . She is a great collector of jewellery real and costume so I assumed the rings were of little value . She picked up one and said I’d like you to have this , it was a very dark black looking stone with some clear diamond type stones round the edge . We tussled back and forth with me refusing until I finally agreed to take it . It was such a sweet thing and I’ve worn the ring ever since but yesterday my friend saw it and said what a beautiful ring that looks expensive . Now she’s said that I’ve looked at it and maybe it does , concerned now it may be of some value. I was thinking of taking it to the jewellers and if it is real returning it to her but I don’t want to upset her . What do you ladies think I should do?