‘ This Morning’ with Phil and Holly

I don't watch the programme, never have, but we had a very similar problem when our two were little. I (and my DH) made it very clear from the start that Christmas Day was about us and the kids only. They could visit them on Christmas Eve or Boxing Day, but Christmas Day was just for the kids. They needed time to go through all the goodies Santa had brought them and then to confuse them and overload them with visitors is just too much for them. I actually stood by this right up until they both left home. Christmas Day should, in my opinion, be about the parents and the children. I would NEVER try to impose myself on anyone on Christmas Day. It's one day out of the year that is made purely for children. Let them enjoy it without being taken away from their toys and goodies to see Grandma and Grandad

Yes I agree, silverlining48 something doesn’t ring true here….. plenty of comments but no one actually watched it!

Don’t watch the programme but it’s surely more likely that the grandparents ‘hoped / were looking forward/would have liked,’ rather than actually being rude enough to insist as reported.

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If the grandparents want to spend time with the baby, they should have invited the young couple to their home for Christmas day. It would have been kinder and more appreciated, I suspect.

Exactly right flump what thoughtless grandparents. Time for the parents to set some boundaries I think. I can imagine the new family were really looking forward to their first Christmas together.

We have never spent Christmas Day with our daughter and her family and she's been married 20 years!

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Oh I can’t stand the smug Philip scofield and his sidekick childish holly willoby spelt wrong, I don’t understand these grandparents who try and push themselves on there adult children when they have a baby, why don’t the new parents put their foot down, it wouldn’t have ever happened with us

I know that whenever I am making a decision I always think I wonder what Philip Schofield would do, I then at all times try to do the opposite.

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Here it is but you have to sign into tv player. Can’t be bothered as I’d rather stick pins in my eyes than watch those 2.

player.stv.tv/summary/this-morning

??...yes...agree. I think my daughter just has it on sometimes so she doesn’t have to think! A bit mind numbing maybe. Thanks for the link though.

I didn't see it but TBH I don't understand why this new mum, supported by the father of her child just doesn't say no to his parents.

It may be the case that "some GPs are getting very intense over their GC" that said I find it difficult to understand why their off spring and their partners make such a big deal out of a relatively small, and easily dealt with issue.

Are they bringing and cooking Christmas dinner?

It would be awful for them to “ miss out” on baby’s first Christmas.
As if a 3 month old will know anything about it! With a bit of luck he or she will be asleep for most of the time.

I wouldn't ask Phil and Holly's opinion on anything.

The new parents need to make up their own minds what they want to do and what is best for them and the baby.

Here it is but you have to sign into tv player. Can’t be bothered as I’d rather stick pins in my eyes than watch those 2.

player.stv.tv/summary/this-morning

I think that the husband should have stood up to his parents and said no. The baby will be 3 months old at Christmas (or thereabouts). He or she won't be able to appreciate their Christmas presents. What do the GPs expect to do with a baby that age? Perhaps they could do nappy changing whilst they're there?

I'm childfree so don't expect all you GPs to agree with me but it does seem as though some GPs are getting very intense over their GCs.

I’ve tried to find the clip. No luck so far. I’ll ask my daughter if she has a link. More tech savvy than me!

The new parents need to set boundaries asap or they are going to have problems later on with future visits.
The young new family should be left on their own to make their own first Christmas memories there is plenty of time later in the festive season for GPs to visit at a time which suits the parents.

The poor mum, why are people so intimidating to new mothers, she probably is just getting used to the baby and if she is dressed and brushed her hair and teeth by lunch time its a good day. I might say come for an hour but I am not cooking for a family meal full stop. It would be.much more appreciated by the young couple if the MiL said we will call in for an hour and bring you lunch for you to enjoy alone later , can I do anything else for you.

Whatever the occasion, insisting you visit someone who would rather not have your company at that particular time is a little odd!

There is no audience on This Morning. Don't get me started on Phillip Schofield. I sometimes watch the 'agony' section. I don't know why they bother with an agony aunt. Phil seems to think he has all the answers

Mitten

I’m 73 and thinks it’s time Ageism was taken seriously… I went to a new Doctors recently and when I said I was there for my HRT check I was greeted with “what you are 73” and then given endless reasons why I could not use it anymore. I work 3 days a week and yesterday my manager sent me an e-Mail checking my date of birth and when I confirmed it as correct the message I got back was in capitals and so offensive I can’t type it here. I really do not think that in 2021 people over 65 should be treated as as homogeneous group of aged people. I would like others views on this please.

You need to start your own thread Mitten. Go to forums, and pick a group. ‘ Ask a gran’ sounds right for you. Then just go to ‘ Start your own discussion’, and away you go.....?

I don’t watch the programme but what a cheek! That relationship is going to get frayed pretty soon if it hasn’t already.

I’m 73 and thinks it’s time Ageism was taken seriously… I went to a new Doctors recently and when I said I was there for my HRT check I was greeted with “what you are 73” and then given endless reasons why I could not use it anymore. I work 3 days a week and yesterday my manager sent me an e-Mail checking my date of birth and when I confirmed it as correct the message I got back was in capitals and so offensive I can’t type it here. I really do not think that in 2021 people over 65 should be treated as as homogeneous group of aged people. I would like others views on this please.

If the grandparents want to spend time with the baby, they should have invited the young couple to their home for Christmas day. It would have been kinder and more appreciated, I suspect.

I can't stand either Phil or Holly seems a lot of us feel the same, definitely wouldn't watch their programme.

Back to the main point of your post though, I completely agree with you, the grandparents sound unbelievable entitled to "insist". If they suggest,and that's okayed by the parents well not a problem, it's the insisting though it makes them sound like a couple of tyrants.

I think they should tell the grandparents exactly what they want and take no nonsense. If they want to spend Xmas on their own with their baby they should do that, don't go setting a precedent, start as you mean to go on.

Our first GC was about 9 months old on his first Christmas.

We asked the parents if we could call for an hour on Christmas Day, just to drop presents off and see them. We called in the morning.

I didn't think this was unreasonable and we had agreed it with them. I would expect them to want to be on their own with their new baby.