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How do I deal with this?

(29 Posts)
luluaugust Tue 02-Nov-21 10:18:53

Yes I agree you are going to have to make it clear that you will not be inviting her and the reason why. Horrible for you but I would say the remedy to a lonely Christmas is in her own hands. If she is really not expecting to be around much longer what has she got to lose? Her mobile phone could probably be used to track her is she giving that up, likewise the cameras in any town now.

Poppyred Tue 02-Nov-21 10:17:55

That doesn’t make any sense at all! If it’s her last Christmas then tell her to get vaccinated or stop moaning! Cant have it both ways, she hasn’t thought it through has she……DUH

midgey Tue 02-Nov-21 10:12:54

What a selfish woman! If it’s going to be her last she might as well get vaccinated. Stick to your guns, the remedy is in her hands.

Beckett Tue 02-Nov-21 10:09:15

A close friend lives alone and has no family so in the past she has spent Christmas with me. Obviously last year this wasn't possible and she constantly told me how lonely it was for her. She is now expecting to stay with me this year but she is an adamant anti-vaxxer, she believes the stories about the vaccine changing your DNA and that it contains a tracking chip!

Whilst I respect her decision not to be vaccinated, I have had all three jabs and I have told her I don't want anyone staying with me who hasn't been vaccinated. Her argument is that as I have been vaccinated it will be OK.

She now keeps telling me how lonely it is being on her own, how she is dreading Christmas and that this will probably be her last one. She is making me feel incredibly guilty for not inviting her to stay but as I am in my 70s with underlying health problems I feel I have to protect myself.

Any advice as to how I can get it through to her that I can't have her to stay.