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Shelflife Tue 21-Dec-21 23:47:48

My son is getting married in March. I am of course giving thought to my outfit. However I have not been keen to go shopping during the pandemic! Lockdown is probably round the corner now so shops will be closed. I am in my 70s and have taken great care during this difficult time. My daughter married 7 years ago and I bought a lovely outfit , felt a million dollars on the big day. I am tempted to wear it again , it does still fit although a few pounds off might be a good idea! Should I wear it again or is that inappropriate? My DH thinks it is an ok thing to do and I considering doing that? I would appreciate your thoughts please.

LucyLocket55 Thu 23-Dec-21 13:59:33

My much loved grandmother wore exactly the same outfit to all 12 grandchildren's weddings spaced over 20 years, same hat, same bag, same shoes. And she looked wonderful!

highlanddreams Thu 23-Dec-21 13:52:59

definitely wear it again & as other have said change the accessories : hat/ jewellery/bag shoes/pretty scarf etc if you can and then it really will be a different outfit won't it ? Your son will be so happy to have you there to celebrate his special day & that's the most important thing.

Lambangel Thu 23-Dec-21 13:44:58

I'd wear your outfit again, the main thing is that you're at the lovely wedding.

Mummer Thu 23-Dec-21 13:41:41

4allweknow

Depends on the style as fashion and colours change so much over 7 years. If you are happy with the outfit why not wear it. I know what I wore 7 years ago for special occasions would look out of date. Had 55 years wedding anniversary two weeks ago and looked at outfit I wore for 50th but no way, even the colour didn't suit me (hair colour different for a start). I just bought a top and skirt online, total cost less than £50 and it was much admired. As much as I am all for economy and recycling and can understand your issues about shopping I'd think carefully about wearing something 7 years old when a lot of eyes will be on you.

I think if you find clothes"date" then you maybe follow so called trends too much? Classic style never dates. I always say "buy cheap buy twice" and those "eyes" on the groom's mum? Hardly friendly looks if they judge by way of clothes surely?

Mummer Thu 23-Dec-21 13:39:43

#going out DRESS is the auto correct from USA? Ridiculous suggestions!

Theoddbird Thu 23-Dec-21 13:23:09

Wear it...nobody will remember it. Maybe different shoes and bag.

Mummer Thu 23-Dec-21 13:22:42

Bridgeit

Why ohh why is it of any importance to any one else whether or not we wear the same attire, once or multiple times.
It is nice to buy a new outfit or several out fits , but it should be perfectly acceptable to choose to wear a favourite to as many events or occasions as one wishes to. It’s Out dated snobbery . & quite ridiculous IMO .

Agree entirely! I had ONE black "going out ". Drew and wore it to absolutely everything it was a good one and j looked smashing I. It! Nobody but NOBODY noticed! I swapped about shoes/jewelry etc and saved a fortune. After the initial look who cares?! Everyone ended up sozzled anyways and it didn't matter!

4allweknow Thu 23-Dec-21 13:06:11

Depends on the style as fashion and colours change so much over 7 years. If you are happy with the outfit why not wear it. I know what I wore 7 years ago for special occasions would look out of date. Had 55 years wedding anniversary two weeks ago and looked at outfit I wore for 50th but no way, even the colour didn't suit me (hair colour different for a start). I just bought a top and skirt online, total cost less than £50 and it was much admired. As much as I am all for economy and recycling and can understand your issues about shopping I'd think carefully about wearing something 7 years old when a lot of eyes will be on you.

jaylucy Thu 23-Dec-21 12:52:19

Th alternative is to buy online - maybe one of the shops that you usually buy from will have either something suitable or just change the accessories and go for a different colour for your shoes and handbag and hat (if you're wearing one)
One of my aunts wore the same suit for several weddings, including her daughter's and we took more notice of the hats she wore ( including a fascinator that she adapted by removing the feathers so it looked as if she had a large dead spider on her head!!!) even though her outfit was quite a bright colour.
It was only years later once we were looking at family photo albums after she died, that anyone noticed !

gulligranny Thu 23-Dec-21 12:50:51

Definitely wear it again if it makes you feel fabulous - just channel your inner Princess Anne, who seems to recycle outfits on a regular basis!

Tanjamaltija Thu 23-Dec-21 12:44:31

Wear it with different accessories and jewellery.

Forestflame Thu 23-Dec-21 12:44:25

Go ahead and wear it again. Hope you have a lovely day. Coastpath, what a lovely way to put it.

Shelflife Thu 23-Dec-21 12:44:09

The photos will be theirs not mine , having two photos on my sideboard of both weddings - me in the same outfit is not something I am in the least worried about!

Bazza Thu 23-Dec-21 12:41:43

Definitely wear it again! Can you remember what people wore to your daughter’s wedding? If ever I think ooh I wore that before, I then think if I can remember what anyone else was wearing, and the answer is always no! So wear it, be comfortable and look fabulous.

Mummer Thu 23-Dec-21 12:32:25

Juicylucy

I think it’s fine to wear it, just not sure about how you’ll feel seeing yourself in it in all the photos for both dd and son. That would be my only dilemma.

Dilemma? Honestly take a chill pill who cares? It's not your day it's DSand missus' honestly nobody will be dissecting your outfit! You're not the blushing bride!!! It could even be a "spot the difference" joke in family for GKs ???

greenlady102 Thu 23-Dec-21 12:29:02

If you love it wear it. Its definitely within the spirit of the times to re use clothes, especially posh ones that you don't wear often. Not only is it ok its a Good Thing

Mummer Thu 23-Dec-21 12:26:07

If it's a classic outfit and not dated and you look the mutts nutz-wear it with panache!! You can order new accessories online to compliment outfit but why waste dosh for ONE day?!

Supergranuation Thu 23-Dec-21 12:25:13

Definitely wear it again!! To be honest I can't remember what my friends or family wore anywhere last week. Anyway if they do remember they would probably think 'good for her I wish I was that brave' and if they don't that's their problem not yours. Go ahead and feel a million dollars again, how often to we get that choice? ?

Juicylucy Thu 23-Dec-21 12:07:37

I think it’s fine to wear it, just not sure about how you’ll feel seeing yourself in it in all the photos for both dd and son. That would be my only dilemma.

Dabi Thu 23-Dec-21 12:07:17

If you "felt a million dollars" in that outfit, there's your answer.
Congratulations and hope you have an encore! flowers

nipsmum Thu 23-Dec-21 12:03:00

Oh I think you should wear it again. Maybe change your accessories a bit so it looks different in the photos. I had different outfits for my daughter's weddings but things were different 20 years ago

pascal30 Thu 23-Dec-21 12:01:44

It would be more ecologically sound to wear it. Just dress it up with different accessories.. Have a lovely day xx

Shelflife Thu 23-Dec-21 09:45:03

I appreciate all the support - thankyou!

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 23-Dec-21 08:21:51

I’m so glad you’ve decided to wear your outfit again Shelflife. Enjoy the day knowing you look good.

Hetty58 Thu 23-Dec-21 00:04:53

Shelflife, yes, it's absolutely fine to wear it again (and saves all that bother of finding another one) so have a lovely day.