What would you do?

I thank you all for your interest in my dilema! Think I shall wear my outfit and feel happy doing so . Looking forward to the big day! Have spoken to friends and my dear sister and they all think wearing such a well fitting garment for a second wedding is a perfectly ok thing to do. Cant wait for March !

Why ohh why is it of any importance to any one else whether or not we wear the same attire, once or multiple times.
It is nice to buy a new outfit or several out fits , but it should be perfectly acceptable to choose to wear a favourite to as many events or occasions as one wishes to. It’s Out dated snobbery . & quite ridiculous IMO .

Just to add, nowhere did I doubt you could afford it. Have a great time.

Of course you are entitled to your opinion aquagran . Whether I can afford a new outfit or not is of no importance. - just for the record I can afford it ! but don't relish the thought of chosing a new outfit ,one that I really love and fits well . So looks like a repeat performance in March !!

I’m afraid German… you have brought this discussion to a level to which I will not stoop. I have never been offensive, just voiced an opinion. .

Oooh, nasty!

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all very well to say Kate Middleton wears things again, the op says she wore the outfit for her sons wedding 7 years ago and asking should she wear it for her daughters wedding...

So I'm with aquagran8

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The OP doesn’t mention that she is short of money.
I know. It was you who brought money into it

wear it

The OP doesn’t mention that she is short of money. She asks for opinions. Mine is, she will regret wearing the same thing again. Don’t think for one moment there won’t be people thinking as I would. But, more relevant is when in future years she looks at both sets of wedding photos and thinks, ‘Wow I looked young there, look how slim I was, how beautiful the bride looks,but…I’m wearing the same dress!’
So, not for me!
Hope the wedding goes well and I wish you and your family all the best!

aquagran

Ahhhh! Vintage…stylish! Definitely not poor.

I think you are being deliberately unkind, for some reason. To suggest that 'vintage' is automatically stylish is simply snobbery. It may be, or it may not - it depends on the dress and the wearer, not the age.

Wearing something more than once is not a sign of poverty. As has been pointed out, the RF do it all the time.

Having to buy cheap and getting something that can only be worn once because it's worn out is often all that people in poverty can do, as long-lasting clothes are expensive. The poor have to replace their clothes more often than the rich.

The OP has an outfit that is not only suitable for a wedding but makes her look and feel good. Not to wear it seems daft to me. If it matters (and I don't think it does) at least half the guests won't have been at the first wedding anyway, as they'll be from the bride's side or friends of the new couple. It will only be Shelflife's own family who will have seen the outfit, and if they remember a dress from 7 years ago, it will be because it made an impression, which is all the more reason to wear it.

I've just been thinking - I can remember what my mum wore to my wedding, but have no idea what she wore to my sisters, which was six months earlier. I don't make a habit of looking at my sister's wedding photos - who does?

Ahhhh! Vintage…stylish! Definitely not poor.

Sorry, just re-read that and see my maths have let me down yet again. That's a hundred years old.

The Duchess of Devonshire, the famously beautifully-dressed Mitford sister and chatelaine of Chatsworth house (so very far from poor) wore a 200+ year old dress to the The Queen's coronation in 1952. It had previously been worn by an earlier duchess to William the fourths coronation in 1831.

She was said by many to be the best dressed lady at the Coronation (HM excepted of course).

Seems like Shelflife will be following a very smart trend at her son's wedding.

www.sothebys.com/en/articles/treasure-of-the-week-peeress-robe

I thought about that, but then realised it would be obvious in the photos, which are there forever. This was all pre covid, the last wedding being five years ago.

I wouldn’t worry about it for now. You’ve got until March. Wait and see how things pan out.

Aquagran,, , Shelflife , Will be dressed well, as she was when she wore the outfit the first time.

Ha ha! Shallow maybe, but dress well!

Good grief aquagran! I don’t know what elevated circles you move in but being seen in the same outfit again is good enough for senior members of the RF. ‘Never look poor’ my foot, what an awful thing to say. You will ruin the OP’s confidence with such an unkind statement. I certainly wouldn’t think I looked poor if I had another big occasion to wear my outfit to, nor would I think it of anyone else.

As a matter of interest will your husband be wearing the same outfit ?

Aquagran, I can’t believe your comment, it comes across as very shallow.

I think it would be lovely to wear the same outfit , you felt a million dollars then , so wear it and feel a million dollars again best wishes .

Don’t think for one moment people won’t remember it. Mother of the bride/groom…come on! Nobody I know would ever wear the same outfit to two of our children’s weddings. ‘Never look poor!’

Why not? You don’t say. I loved the outfit I bought for my son’s wedding and would jump at the chance to wear it again but he’s my only child and I don’t go anywhere posh where I might wear it again.