Mariemal55, Like it or not, what happened to you has happened to many women - and men. Marriages break up for all kinds of reasons and those in the marriage move on.
Your husband has remarried and has a wife, not a 'wife'. It may be difficult, but you need to accept that and, to use that horrible phrase 'move on'. What are you gaining by storing up and nurturing this hate and animosity towards your ex-husband and his wife?
And, perhaps think about what you may lose. It could cause an alienation and distancing from your daughter and affect your grand childs attitude to you. Children can sense anger and hate in a person, even if it isn't directed at them, and you could end with a grandchild, or perhaps grandchildren, who shy away from you and do not want to be with you.
My paternal grandmother did not like my mother - I did not know this until I was an adult, but, as a child, I never enjoyed visiting her and avoided doing so if I could. I sensed the animosity because, at that time, it was not directed at me.
Are you prepared to risk alienating your grandchild/ren and accept that it might be the price of nurturing all this hate in your heart, as if it was a rare orchid?
Much better to get some counselling, relax, let the hate go and accept, that you, like millions of men and women world wide, are divorced and that the family centred on your daughter and family includes, as well as you and your ex-husband, also his second wife.
You set your heart on the perfect marriage, and it went wrong, no one gets through life without having their dreams shattered at some point. Get over it.