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I feel a Burden

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DiscoDancer1975 Sun 03-Apr-22 10:36:44

Yes...ditto the above. Twice to see a therapist, I would imagine, isn’t enough.

Take care of yourself.

JaneJudge Sun 03-Apr-22 10:30:25

Carry on seeing the therapist x

He is your son, h is doing what he feels is best for his Mum

Charleygirl5 Sun 03-Apr-22 10:25:28

I endorse every word Kim19 says. Seeing the therapist twice is insufficient. Good luck- hopefully you will slowly find your feet.

Kim19 Sun 03-Apr-22 10:20:30

Seems like you continuing to see the therapist would be a great help and relief to your son. Try to encourage him to spend lots of time with his own family. Lovely to hear he has a new baby. His wife will be needing his support too. I hope you find the strength and courage to be more self sufficient very soon.

TheodoraP Sun 03-Apr-22 10:02:17

Some may know that I have recently become a widow

I have always tried to be a strong person but I have caved since my husband died and feel a complete burden on my loving caring son

He has taken on the task to help me and make me better

He put me in contact with a well recommended therapist and found my local bereavement group for me

He visits me loads and calls and messages me loads too

Wow putting all of this in writing really makes me realise just how much he has done and is still doing all while taking care of his wife that has just given birth to their third child

I feel so bad and such a burden on him

The therapist did help loads. What mainly resonated with me was when he said this too will pass, for some reason I did not apply that mantra to my bereavement But I started to and it helped immensely along with other things that I was doing, meditation etc

The reason I feel a particular burden recently is because I have made the decision to stop seeing the therapist I told my son and I think he is worried that as I have only been two times to see the therapist it is too early to give up doing that, I think that makes him stressed because he is not the type to put any kind of pressure on me or opinionated himself so I feel that I am such a burden to him and I don't want to be what can I do to be less of a burden to him