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A friend who devalues others... and has nothing good to say for people who help her

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Kim19 Fri 08-Apr-22 13:16:33

What were you trying to learn?

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Poppyred Fri 08-Apr-22 13:09:15

Why is she your friend? I would tell her a few home truths and walk away.

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sodapop Fri 08-Apr-22 12:14:58

Yes I agree Gwenisgreat sounds like an unhappy lady. I would ask your friend why she is so unkind as well OnwardandUpward. If things don't change I think I would be reducing contact with a view to ending the friendship.

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BlueBelle Fri 08-Apr-22 12:10:55

Are you sure you want her for a friend Does she have any redeeming points Doesnt sound a very positive person to be around

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Honeysuckleberries Fri 08-Apr-22 11:53:10

Why don’t you bluntly call her on it? Ask her why are she is so horrible about x,y and z. Perhaps she doesn’t realise she is doing it and telling her how awful she is might actually help her.

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Gwenisgreat1 Fri 08-Apr-22 11:52:14

She must be very unhappy!

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AGAA4 Fri 08-Apr-22 11:51:00

She sounds horrible. I wouldn't want to be with her at all.

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OnwardandUpward Fri 08-Apr-22 11:50:15

I think she initially love bombed me so I was decieved into thinking she was "nice" and she's quite a new aquaintance... I have distanced but was trying to learn something.

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crazyH Fri 08-Apr-22 11:49:13

She is not a friend I would want. Get rid !

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Hithere Fri 08-Apr-22 11:44:57

I wouldnt associate with a person like that.

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H1954 Fri 08-Apr-22 11:42:51

I had an associate, wouldn't call her a friend, exactly like that! She never had a good or kind word to say about anyone despite the fact that many them were amazing, loyal, kind and generous people.

I distanced myself from her, she was vicious and a troublemaker, can't understand why you are still classing yours as a friend to be honest,

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OnwardandUpward Fri 08-Apr-22 11:37:29

I have a friend who literally has nothing good to say about anyone. Many other friends have tried to help her after some troubles she has had, but I have noticed a recurring theme when she talks about the very people who have been there for her.

When talking about her friends, family and neighbours it will be "this artist who is so stupid" or "this friend who lives on a council estate and has nothing" or this "underachiever who can't be trusted" or.... this "fat person who is so ugly" or this " person who is walking with bandy legs".... r "this person who never had a career and is so useless".

I am sure to be discussed behind my back too as this person is incapable of seeing anyone in a good light . She has also behaved in a manipulative way and refuses to help herself in any way because it's easier to put blame onto others for being fat, ugly, stupid....

How have you dealt with this kind of behaviour and what do you think makes someone unable to see good in anyone?

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