How old are you?

All the above chats are what you call LIVING. Just make the most of Life every day.

wewere talking about this at work, in my head I am about 22, my knees are 80 and I will be 70 next January. I don't feel old until my children hit significant birthdays, my eldest was 40 last Christmas but how can that be I am not old enough to have a 40 year old child.

Im late 50s and my husband warly 60s. Gosh, this thread has struck a chord. The last few months I've had a strange feeling in the pit of my stomach that 'something life changing' will happen soon. I like to think I'm fairly fit and I exercise regularly including walking our dog every day but my husband struggles with his mobility more and more. This is due in the main to his drinking and gaining lots of weight in the last couple of years (blame lockdown). I find myself wondering how I'll cope on my own and would I manage as both our children live a distance from us.
I'm pleased it's not just me who worries as I thought I was being irrational to say the least.

Gosh, I am 85... until this last year, felt and looked in late 60`s, well told that on the looks by people...
I certainly did not feel my physical years.

had care of husband for some years, then he went on died on me just before covid, ie. the Nov. before.. then I continued to live in my fairyland,, lockups,, and too many changes, for me, and suddenly about 6 months ago, I aged! mentally I guess... I am relatively healthy, well health is good for my years. high bp. contained with medication for years now..

I get so tired, and though I hate to use the word, I guess I am struggling with depression, (can`t take medication doc issues)
I get out to local church and whatever social events they do... fortunate that our church has kept open for my preferred traditional service..

two ds, 4 gks.. don`t get "looked after" by them, they keep in touch,, don`t know if I am "alone" or "lonely" but I am certainly not good mentally.. got my cat... life saver... I have to live to look after her.

guess that is my problem, my prop of caring for someone, (all my life) no gone.

not frightened of death, just as Franbean, (was it?) said, the mode of dying.

I doNOT want to live to be dependent on anyone!my biggest fear

so I will put the vacuum round,, heartheartedly, and try to keep the dust down.. other than that.. well that I do have to close my eyes to..

Hey it`s Spring! see the flowers,, the lighter evenings!

I will be 76 next month and just grateful to be still here.
Cancer six years ago and a pulmonary embolism whilst having chemotherapy but being a practical person I just accepted that I had to keep on going.
One year after my diagnosis DH was diagnosed with cancer too and that was harder to bear.
I pray I have a dignified end that was denied to DH.

I'm 69 slowing down a bit due to arthritis but playing golf (often with 80 year old ladies so that is inspirational) and organising Walking Netball groups with lots of 'ladies of a certain age' who love how much fun it is.

LaCrepescule I will be 64 end of this month. I don't worry about getting older as to me it's futile. My husband the love of my life and the other half of me died 18 years ago aged 47. So worrying about ageing and dieing wastes what time we have left. I looked after my parents and mother in law until their deaths. And had my own brush with death in 2017 .So I am well acquainted with death.

There are only 2 certainties in life we are born we die. My husband didn't want to die but cancer takes all ages. He made me promise to live the best life I can and I do.

Moving house gave me a new better life. In my old house I existed since moving I live my life to the full. I have been ill for a very long time excepted to die first but it was my husband who died. I have met lots of people with terrible illnesses and disabilities. And there zest for life is amazing .

So don't waste time worrying about age or dieing life your life to the full. So many children and young people's lives are cut short . Rejoice in the fact you have reached the age you have and plan what you want to do with the rest of it and do it.

I’m just turned 75 and find it unbelievable. However it’s a privilege not afforded to all, so must be grateful even though I get more tired than I used to. Widowed five years ago and cancer twice, intimations of mortality invade frequently.
I don’t like to think of my DC being upset at my passing and have told them not to grieve too much as I have had a marvellous life in many ways, singing professionally and teaching.
I’m still keen to keep up appearances and without boasting do not look my age (Botox, fillers, Dulux paint and reasonably fashionable clothes help?) But I don’t look weird, my DD would soon tell me!
I haven’t downsized and the clutter here worries me. Not only all my stuff but my DHs past generations clobber landed here, some good things but some, well…However a friend said if the DC are going to inherit a reasonably expensive property, they can get on with it lol.
I have a religious streak, not marked, and know if I went to mass regularly, it would sustain me immensely. Should start soon!
Hope to continue travelling, painting and singing (with adjustments to repertoire) for as long as I can.

Urms I’m with you on that! But when I cleared out Mums house there were so many lovely clothes that she had kept for ‘best’ so many lovely items that she could have used or put out of their wrappings because they were ‘too good to be used every day’
I use all of my lovely things, or at least have them out on shelves so that I can enjoy looking at them.
But I’d hate today to be the day that was lived as though it was my last! I’ve been ill on the sofa all day?

Urmstongran ?

Good Grief - I’m older than you - I’d better get everything sorted. Will has been done, but haven’t done the POAs and the little things, like, who gets which piece of jewellery. Must hurry up ?‍♂️

I’m 67y.
Makes me smile when people say “treat every day as though it were your last”.
I’d be worn out by Saturday.

I'm 74 and yes the years have flown. DH and I try to enjoy as much as we can both cope with and make the most of enjoying family and friends. There are health issues but we try and cope with each thing as it turns up which is most of the time.

I turned 60 last fall, and feel confident that I will be healthy for the next 20 years, so I don't dwell on mortality.

I wish I could say the same for DH. He suffers with several health issues and although he is the same age as me, he feels much older. He tends to dwell on this; he says he is being practical, but I wish he would be a bit more optimistic.

In my head I'm 27; physically, multiply that by 3. My family seem to think I'm immortal; I'm nos so sure!

Yep!! ?

I wouldn’t say I’m particularly vain, but I do find the physical side of ageing a bit depressing.
Sometimes I see myself in a photo and think, that really can’t be me, I’m young and slim and lovely.

77 and ,touch wood, still enjoying life with my DH

Oopsadaisy, same here - sometimes I think, ‘How can I possibly be 73?’

I've just turned 86 my biggest problem is keeping up with my husband who is younger than me.
Physically he's much fitter, but mentally I'm sharper. But you never know.
Both my parents lived well into their 80s.
Husband wants us both to go together. We have a faith and believe that our souls will live on together in some unknown destination.

Me and My DH are both 75 and coming to terms with aches and pains. As we have two bind dogs, one with diabetes, our plans for holidays have been put on hold. Not that we were planning to go anywhere long haul. There are lots of places in Europe that I want to see.

I'm not religious although brought up in the C of E. I do however believe that our spirits will go on after our deaths.

A few years ago I had a near death experience. I was walking through a long, wide brightly lit tunnel towards a light at the end when voices told (mentioning my first name) to go back because it wasn't my time. It was not a frightening experience. I think about death quite a lot and also about my parents - my father when I was in my thirties (cancer) and my mother about 6 years later (Alzheimers)

Just before Christmas a friend died of Motor Neurones disease, having been diagnosed with it earlier in the year. We saw him a few times over the 6 months before his death and he seemed to be quite philosophical about it and at peace with himself.

Like many others on here it is the illness that is scary rather than the dying I think.

Don’t think of the number of years you may have left - it doesn’t seem much - but if you convert that to days, it sounds a lot. If I have inherited my mother’s genes, I have about 7300 days left ?

i am 58 and getting old has never bothered me, i lost my husband when i was 39 and then my partner of 17 years last may. i had cancer 3 years ago and then a different type last year. back in december i got cellulitis that turned to sepsis, i would not be here if a friend and neighbour had not called an ambulance, when i came round 3 days later doctor said if i had gone to sleep that would have been it. after all that i just take each day as it comes, as my wee granny used to say ...if it's fur yea it'll no go bye ye (in english if it is for you it will not go by you). no point in loosing sleep or getting stressed, everybody has to at some point, i just hope it is quick and painless.

maddyone

I’m just 69 and feel a bit like you at times. I’m not looking forward to being 70 next year. It sounds so old.

Totally this….

I'm 67 and like most people at this stage I do sometimes think of death, and rather dislike the inevitability that life comes to an end.

I'm in good health and reasonably fit and aiming to maintain this for as long as possible - I really can't bear to think about being housebound or in anyway infirm. Of course my biggest fear is dementia.

I've just checked life expectancy and pre-Covid in England it was 83 for women but 18 of those years are spent in 'not good' health, which sounds a bit gloomy but does make me more determined to try and stay healthy, well the bits that are within my control that is such as diet and exercise.

So I have around 16 years left, the idea of which throws me a bit, considering how quickly these two Covid years sped by.

No time to waste