Sorry question about sex with newish partner

If this is bothering you OP, you need to talk to your partner about it and then decide whether to accommodate your sex life around it or seek medical or counselling help.

Nobody else's sex life is at all relevant to solving your problem.

As we age, nothing works as well as it did when we were in our 20s and 30s.
Don't take it personally. It is not a reflection on you.
Lots of couples have the same sort of problem, both male and female.
But it doesn't stop them enjoying themselves and each other, for many years. Part of the pleasure is to know that you are giving pleasure. That is part of a loving relationship.

But that is no reason to stop something that we enjoy.
Hopefully, you will both come to enjoy it.
Lovemaking is a wonderful time together, pleasuring each other.
Maybe after all this time he is out of practice.
You can help him by encouraging him before the main event.
Men are visual so show him pretty underwear, and then gradually show him more, and touch each other. Above all, don't rush!
Take time to tantalise each other, but don't expect total success every time. Just be happy with small pleasures from time to time.
Relate advise slow sensual massage, so that will include visual display, as well as touching
Anticipation increases the pleasure of arrival. Enjoy your feelings for each other
9 pm on a Friday night in the bedroom is not the only time and place. Do "naughty" things in different rooms, at different times. Sometimes when one of you least expects it!
Forget the old Victorian "ladies don't move"
The more that you both put into lovemaking, the more likely you are to enjoy it, and want more.
Hopefully, you both have the potential for years of pleasure in each other's close company.
An old lady in her 80s was asked "When does sex stop?" her answer was "I'll tell you when it happens"
After 58 years of marriage, the answer is not yet!
Hope that all will go well for you both.

I have to say that the man not ejaculating doesn’t seem to me like something that should worry the woman, except in as far as she would be concerned with his enjoyment.
I have found that the longer lovemaking takes the better the enjoyment for me.

I haven't noticed much of that. OP is always chatty until spotted.

In some ways, it hardly matters if the OP is genuine or not, if it helps others to air their problems and / or solutions?

Any of us that do have a sex life in our 60s and beyond know that the issues the OP is enquiring about are entirely plausible, men don’t always function predictably and we know women certainly don’t.

Sounds genuine to me.

FarNorth

*My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life*

Well no-one is being silly enough to answer that question, so that may be disappointing.

It could be assuming rather a lot a lot, too.

My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life
Or
My question is ladies, do you and your woman have a full sex life?
Or
My question is gentlemen, do you and your woman have a full sex life?
Or
My question is gentlemen, do you and your man have a full sex life?

Well I hope she is genuine but by saying ‘do you and your man have a full sex life? ’ that is an invitation to open up with other peoples personal stories
Without that line I would not really have felt anything other than someone looking for empathy

FarNorth

*My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life*

Well no-one is being silly enough to answer that question, so that may be disappointing.

Or, to start from the premise that the OP is genuine, she is trying to ascertain if this is normal or unusual?

To answer that question, we have a full sex life - though DH (74) had to start taking viagra in the past few years

My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life

Well no-one is being silly enough to answer that question, so that may be disappointing.

I suppose you could always message hq rather than troll hunting.
It is what's advised, after all, and I expect they'd be more able to shed some light on things.

Fair comment, Bluebelle

Not that I assume the OP was trying to include photos in her post Heaven forbid!

But I agree with aonk.
Say, 5 people post about sex / depression/ a serious illness and for 4 of them it’s all made up. Someone might still be able to help the 5th person. As MissAdventure said, it could be a lot more racy if one was really making it up.

If someone was making it up they don’t need to make their story racy they just need to encourage others to recount their stories which may or may not be racy
I m afraid I haven’t felt this was genuine from the start but I could be totally wrong We ll probably never know
This is the quote that made me wonder ?
* My question is ladies, do you and your man have a full sex life*

There was a gitch on the song lyric convo thread which resulted in a double posting.

MissAdventure

The site glitched.

Yes, I was trying to post a photo of my lawn yesterday and couldn't.

Not that I assume the OP was trying to include photos in her post.

This runs pretty true to form. Recognisable.

I think your partner's problem is not all that uncommon. I don't think you should take it personally, it has nothing to do with love or desire. Is he taking antidepressants? They can sometimes cause sexual problems.
Poor man, I suppose the harder he tries the more anxious he feels.

If I was going to make something up, it would be a lot more racy than this.

Does ' nt look like true love to me .

I’m as sure as I can be that this poster has made the whole thing up and has form in that respect.

Perhaps if he did not have a sex life with his former partner, he has come to rely on masturbation to climax? Perhaps you could help him in this way?

Germanshepherdsmum

This reminds me very much of a former poster of the same age, single, boyfriend troubles, who had literary usernames …

Well spotted

Perhaps he would be happy with a companionable relationship but feels obliged to have sex because you expect it?

Would you be happy without sex?

You both need to discuss it and consult a GP if there may be a physical problem.

Lacrepescule
It is usually the other way round that your partner has climaxed before yourself leaving you unsatisfied.
My view is for your partner to seek medical advice as it must be as equally frustrating for him as well as yourself as neither of you are getting the satisfaction you should from this relationship.