Granddaughter can’t take a ‘wee in the woods’

Practice in a corner of the garden.

When I was a child we always took a potty with us. Even my mum used it. We sat in the car and, if necessary, put a newpaper or magazine across our laps and pretended to read it! I carried on using that technique when I was adult and doing a lot of fieldwork in remote places.

Your kids did A, B and C

Where do her parents stand on this? Do that.

We have an IKEA little potty in the trunk just in case - it came handy so many times

Just because your kids A, B and C doesnt mean your gd has to do it too.

Please pick your battles wisely - enjoy your family's company

It’s much easier fir boys.
I am in my 70 s and don’t think I have ever peed outdoors and only use public toilets if I really have to; luckily seem to have a cast iron bladder.
Despite drinking water, even if at home, I can go fir 6 or 7 hours between trips to the loo.

My little grandson (now nearly 4) was like this. Then my OH hit on the idea of a "wee tree". He identifies a likely tree and declares it to be a "wee tree"!! Grandson now takes great pleasure in asking grandad if a tree is a "Wee tree" and when grandad confirms that it is, happily does a wee!!!

I had this problem as a child, only in the past couple of years as a keen walker I have overcome my phobia.

It came on as a result of my older brother, a bully, not allowing me privacy and my parents finding it amusing.

I think she's right !

One of my granddaughters is like this, she’s twelve now, and is still incredibly fussy about where she wees, on the plus side, she seems to have amazing bladder control.

Why don't you tell her to go before you leave the house?

I hate weeing outdoors and will avoid it at all costs. I was going to suggest a SheWee but that won’t work if it’s the privacy aspect.

Thank you all for these suggestions. I said I’d ‘go’ first but she wasn’t having any of it. I don’t think a potty would do the trick, I think her issue is intense privacy needed. I will try a potty though and look into the shewee. She’s convinced somebody will see her even though we were the only people for miles, and just sheep in the next field, I said they were not interested in us. I’d love a solution as she loves coming out with us.

Would it be worth trying a shewee. She’d probably need to practice or have it explained to her before your next adventure.

Hmmmm....

I was a bit like this myself I have been told, drives in the country were spoiled by having to find a pub or something similar.
We lived beside the sea and mum solved it by taking me to sit in the shallows and I relaxed. Not approved of these days water pollution but she let me see it was natural.
One DD was the same and we had a potty bag to take everywhere until on holiday we forgot it and she wet herself in fact drenched herself shoes, socks, pants the back of her dress she learned that it was easier to go behind a tree.
Maybe you need to let her have an accident somewhere it doesn't matter and she will see the necessity for using what nature provides.

I can sympathise with the little girl! I went off into the woods on a National Trust estate to have a quiet pee. I forgot I was wearing a lurid cagoule. Two blokes stopped to peer at me through the undergrowth just as I reached the point of "can't stop now".

Would it be worth taking along a couple of little friends who don't have the same shyness? I guess you'd have to engineer lots of synchronised drinks beforehand.

PS. You might want to get your granddaughter used to using a lidded wee,wee jug, for little girls while still at home.

Will the little girl go if you had a collapsible potty with you? Or is it that she won't go out of doors at all?

There are many versions of travel potties which a 3 year old could use and that collapse down so you can take them when walking etc.

Maybe you could make it her "very own special" toilet for exciting outings.

My daughter is 54, but when she was a child I had a portable Tommy Tippee jug for use in the moving car. Possibly something similar, used standing up, would solve the problem.

I have the opposite with 3 year old GD. She seems quite happy to pull down pants and go anywhere - she lives in rural area - I think she knows not to do it in town! Last time I was with her we were in a wooded play area and she wanted to do more than a wee and was quite happy to do it - lots of dead leaves to cover with. Unfortunately I had no tissue with me, so had to use leaves to wipe her! All very natural.

Maybe others have ideas for Sasta. If a solution is not found it can make it difficult if she wants to take part in outdoor activities, hiking etc.

One of our DDs was like this as a child. Many picnics were spoiled by her refusal to 'go' outdoors. We eventually solved the problem by taking a large potty with us. She was OK about using this in or behind the car. To this day she will not or cannot pee outdoors, but now she can drive herself to the nearest public facilities and back without disturbing the rest of the family.

You could show her yourself?