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Moving stuff at someone else's house

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Carenza123 Mon 13-Jun-22 05:40:51

I would not like a family member cleaning while looking after her GC. It is not necessary and detracts from the main purpose of her visit. I too would be annoyed if my things were not put back in place.

H1954 Mon 13-Jun-22 05:34:33

This would very much depend on circumstances and as both my AC are generally neat and tidy they do manage to keep on top of their housework despite both working full time. However, if I were at either of my AC homes, during adult illness etc for nstance, probably the only places I would volunteer to help clean and tidy would be the kitchen and the bathroom for hygiene reasons.

Bedrooms are private places surely? My GC are all old enough to change their own beds, tidy up and run the hoover around.

My AC would, if asked, do some cleaning for me if I were unable to cope but they are of the same frame of mind as me, keep the kitchen and bathroom hygienic.

None of our family would invite anyone to stay or even visit for a day and expect them to clean up, that would be done before they arrived!

CharRVT88 Mon 13-Jun-22 05:18:56

If you went to your Adult kids house, and offered to clean or sweep would pay attention to where thing were if you had to move then? Would you make sure to put them back as they were? When my MIL come to watch my son, she always offers/has to clean. It is off putting and doesn't feel genuine. As she clean though she rarely puts things back as they were. She said she doesn't remember or makes a mental note of how things were before she moves things to clean. What is your opinion?