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telephone preference, rude, ill mannered, baffling ?

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LRavenscroft Sun 18-Dec-22 09:11:50

I was at a Parent's Evening for my daughter and the P.E. teacher's 'phone went off. She proceeded to have a long conversation with whoever it was during our ten minute slot. I was also at my GP's and her phone went off and it was about her children's missing P.E. kit in the middle of my ten minute consultation which I hasten to add I was having to pay for at the time! And she was into alternative medicine. I went for some acupuncture and she had 2 of us side by side in the same room = £80 worth which really destressed me NOT. Fortunately, she left the practice.

Gingster Sun 18-Dec-22 09:08:22

It is sooooo rude!
If my phone rings while I’m with someone, I either don’t answer or I say I will ring you back.

OxfordGran Sun 18-Dec-22 09:02:49

Oldwoman70, on holiday - I too went away for a week this summer, long in the planning, with a close friend, mobile phones, mine on mute, hers constantly scrutinized.
We had planned to have a catch up on the long train journey.
She was texting more or less the whole way; I resorted to my book and the landscape.
My friend had recently met a man who constantly ‘phoned, texted, she was checking her phone, minute by minute, missing one call put her in a state of agitation.
There were 3 of us on that holiday! so tiresome, so ill mannered.
Never again!

Oreo - yes, exactly - especially since she knew I had
curtailed my shopping trip especially.

When I was in her hallway, dragging on my boots,
I heard her say, “ it was just someone calling in on her way home from shopping”
as in ‘ a person of no consequence’
so that lets me off the hook nicely !

Sky full of snow here in flat Oxfordshre, hope everyone cosy

Allsorts Sun 18-Dec-22 07:29:11

If it did happen to me, I would wait until she had finished, then after a couple of minutes say I had to go, some reason or other, if it happened the 2nd time, I would say, I’m going before you answer as I need to be back by whatever time. Wouldn’t bother again. It’s like saying you’re not important.
If anyone rings me I answer by saying, hello, so and so is here can I ring you back.
Went on holiday, four of us, one of the party spent every waking minute on the phone back home, none of us went with her again, it’s so rude.

Oldwoman70 Sun 18-Dec-22 07:06:19

Mobile phones have become a necessary evil! Reminds me of the time I was on holiday with a friend. She would insist on sitting away from anyone else and then spend her time scrolling through her phone. When I tried to make conversation she would give yes or no answers. Eventually I said I was going for a walk around the town, met up with some other ladies staying at the hotel, had a coffee and they suggested we all meet up for dinner that evening. When I returned she was sitting at the same table still looking at her phone and she later refused join the other ladies for dinner. I never went on holiday with her again!

Grammaretto Sun 18-Dec-22 00:35:43

We know the same person nanna8 snap!
She leaves her phone on and always answers it. Never leaves the room.

A recent thing for me are the mums whose DC phone for lifts or something. It never sounds important but these calls are never ignored
The DC are all teenagers.
Thank goodness we had no mobiles when mine were young

AussieGran59 Sat 17-Dec-22 22:29:18

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nanna8 Sat 17-Dec-22 22:14:33

It is annoying. One of the people I know, a lady in her high eighties, spends half her time on her phone and ignores whoever she is with. Very rude in my book but she just carries on regardless. Half the time she is talking rubbish.

OxfordGran Sat 17-Dec-22 22:05:38

this is not the first time ever this has happened by any means - once in an interview when the interviewer’s gf phoned him, one of these ‘I miss you ‘ calls, I was mortified, had to rise and leave ! (didn’t get the job)

This however was a neighbour of 97, so I never felt that I could say no thanks to her tea offers.
I am patient with her.
She has 3 generations of family in the town, so not alone,
by any means.

I felt cut off, in fact I was cut off ! now I will greet her and keep walking.

I was on a second date once! when his phone rang, he looked at it, said, I have to take this, walked to the front of the restaurant, lady on reception approached and asked me, where r u parked, I said at the side (of the restaurant,) we were waiting for our mains, she said, come through here, so I did, drove home, ignored his calls, the young lady on reception was party to his conversation with his ‘mother’
This is why ladies, always travel and meet in your own car

Actually thinking about it, there have been quite a few times when this has happened.
Who remembers letters, postcards delivered the next day, telegrams ! romantic, urgent, pleading, safe arrived, happy birthday ?!
and the landline telephone tethered in the hall near the front door, the coldest place, inhibiting chats.

Speaking of inhibiting - its warmer here, only -3 as last few days it has been -7 to -9 things can only get better.

Oreo Sat 17-Dec-22 19:52:27

Hasn’t happened to me so don’t know why they do it.It’s rude for any host to do this tho.They should say they have a visitor and will ring back later.
Would put me off going there if they do this regular.

Doodledog Sat 17-Dec-22 19:50:53

I used to have a friend whose husband rang her from his work every day. We were both young mums and company for one another, and his call would often come when I was there for coffee, and she would chat about nothing for ages whilst I just sat there. I gave up in the end.

OxfordGran Sat 17-Dec-22 19:48:57

whyis it, when one visit, say, an elderly person, on request, their phone rings, is answered, a full blown catch up ensues, so one is left sitting there wondering why?
I did actually rise, indicate that I was leaving, wave of her hand in dismissal, I said nothing, thought plenty.