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1987H2001M2002Inanny Mon 23-Jan-23 13:05:10

Do any of you remember your first day? Although my big sister was there I felt like I'd been abandoned.When it was milk time in the morning,I drank it so slowly that I was left in the classroom on my own.When I went out to the playground,I found my sister,grabbed her hands and spun us round very fast. She asked what was worng with me but I didn't have the words to explain.

missdeke Wed 25-Jan-23 13:18:41

My mum took me to school on my first day, although from that day on she never took me again even when I started new schools. I made friends on my first day and can still call one of those girls a friend today 70 years later. We haven't met up so much recently because we live in different parts of the country but hopefully some time this year when it's warmer.

lizzypopbottle Wed 25-Jan-23 13:13:09

SueDonim I had to smile (but sympathetically) reading your post. My mother had the opposite problem with me. She had to peel my fingers off the railings when my older sister went in because I so wanted to go in to school and howled and cried because I was too young. I loved school.

Grandmagrewit Wed 25-Jan-23 12:59:23

My first day at Infant School in 1957 (they weren't called Primary Schools in those days) was considerably less traumatic than it might have been because my teacher was one of my mother's friends and a neighbour in our little cul de sac where several families lived. I played with her daughter and knew her as "Auntie Joan" so I had been forewarned to always call her Mrs K.... when at school. I remember the coat pegs with pictures on and the big hall where we all sat cross legged for assembly each morning. Most of all I remember the lovely layout of the school which had been built just a few years previously and was very modern compared to all the old Victorian schools. All the classrooms were built round an open square (bit like a medieval cloister) with a verandah and the side of each classroom facing the square was all glass, making the rooms very light and bright. At playtime we could go out of the classroom and play in the sandpit in the square. I loved it there but do remember one upsetting day when I was made to stand up in front of the whole school by the headmistress who said I had been very naughty. I'd done some chalk graffiti on a fence on the way to school and had unfortunately been spotted by a teacher. No quiet telling off in those days - I was certainly made a public example of and my parents were mortified!

Summerfly Wed 25-Jan-23 12:48:23

We were given the blank pieces of used Christmas cards to write and draw on. Having finished my picture I used another piece of card. The nasty teacher, a Mrs Nutall, smacked both my hands hard because I hadn’t used all the space left on my first card. I didn’t want to go back again!

GrannySomerset Wed 25-Jan-23 12:46:57

What an interesting thread, and how sad that so many children were not prepared for starting school and found it so traumatic. These days children are introduced to school much more gradually though at considerable inconvenience to their parents, with mornings only, then mornings and lunch, and then all day. Certainly kinder, but in the late 40s I don’t think kindness came into it.

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 25-Jan-23 12:45:07

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Grandyma Wed 25-Jan-23 12:44:24

Germanshepherdsmum 😂😂 I was grown up with children of my own when it dawned on me that mum hadn’t waited 😂😂 I was very trusting!!

GrammarGrandma Wed 25-Jan-23 12:41:54

I don't remember my first day, but I loved Infants School and Juniors. Secondary, as a scholarship girl to a private school was tougher to adapt to. It worked out in the end.

Fae1 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:41:30

No, but don't think it was very traumatic! School was next door to my house, dad was the headteacher and mum was one of the other two teachers. Small village school - bliss.

Rutherglen Wed 25-Jan-23 12:34:39

1955 A Glasgow school

Rutherglen Wed 25-Jan-23 12:32:39

On your first day the teacher said “sit there” and that was where you sat for evermore. Then the serious work began, lessons were mostly the “three Rs”, reading, writing, and arithmetic and neat “right-handed” handwriting was mandatory. Lots of practising your letters on slates and later lined jotters (notebooks) and sometimes you got help with tracing paper. Reading practice from your Janet and John book, if you were getting a new book, it was the law that had to be covered in wall or wrapping paper as soon as possible. There are still questions about why that age-old tradition is a thing. Some believed it was to keep the books clean, while others say it was a way for parents to recycle their old decorating scraps. One way or the other if your book wasn't covered you would be getting in big trouble.
We took part in spelling B’s, learned tables by rote – you had to memorise the tables. Davina Kelly has owned up to cheating fifty odd years later. She admits that she was reading the words from the back of her jotter (notebook) and admitted she cheated and read them from the back of her uncovered jotter!).Other tables which were recited were the weights and measures ones “twelve inches to a foot, three feet one yard, one thousand seven hundred and sixty yards to a mile”.
You learned that you were not to speak unless you put your hand up and were given permission. You found out that when you used your eraser to rub out the wrong answers to your sums, you sometimes left a big black smudge on the page, you were better to wait until you got home and your mum would give you a piece of white bread to do the job.
The classroom was a riot of different smells, the woody smell of a freshly sharpened pencils after you had grinded it in the hand crank pencil sharpener on the teachers desk. The smell of chalk, dust, polish, soor milk and plasticine. That smell clung to your hands long after you had played with it. Occasionally there was the unwelcome smell of drying wet underwear, that had been placed on the radiator after an “accident”.
One teacher taught all subjects but had help from the British Broadcasting Company. A big radio was wheeled into the classroom and used for listening to “Singing together”. I can still remember “Soldier, soldier will you marry me with your musket fife and drum”. Very occasionally another visiting teacher came to teach dancing. Senga Jackson recalls “this teacher tried to teach us country dancing, my white sannies(sandshoes) had just been whitened. As I thumped up and down, trying to do a “paddy ba” the clouds of whitening saturated the air around my feet. It looked like I was dancing on a cloud”. We experienced “study in motion” thumping about the hall, pretending to be swaying trees, in your stocking feet or black sannies and sometimes in gym knickers, arms flailing about to the sound of disparate music.
One memory still lingers for Maureen Smith. “On the first day of primary, Miss Quinn sang this song to us. She was birling around. I had no idea what was going on. One minute she was this strict lady I was scared of, then she’s twirling around singing and she seemed to want us to copy her:
“Hot peas and barley, barley’o, barley’o;
Hot peas and barley, sugary cakes and candy;
This is the way the teacher stands;
This is the way she folds her arms;
This is the way she claps her hands;
and this is the way she dances.”

twiglet77 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:28:19

I remember mine. Reception class - Class 1 - was in a separate building across the playground from the main Victorian building, closer to the toilets, and it had a stove with a huge fireguard draped with clothes wet either from rain or from toilet “accidents”.

I sat at a small table with a jigsaw in front of me. Taught not to touch anything without permission, I gazed at it wishing I was allowed to open it. When my mother came to collect me at lunchtime the teacher, Mrs P, said, “Does she not know how to do a jigsaw?” and I remember the utter humiliation at being thought incompetent, when I was just too shy to say anything and the teacher hadn’t actually said what I was allowed to touch. I didn’t forgive her until she gave me straight As on my first report for reading, writing and arithmetic. I’m sure she taught reception age until she was about 90!

Jaxie Wed 25-Jan-23 12:23:34

In 1947 I was sent to school at 4 years old as my mother was very ill. Mine was a one- parent family as my father had deserted us. I hated every minute. I have a strong recollection of the teacher giving us sticky paper to make a basket for Easter eggs and being disappointed that my paper was green. I was a nervous wreck and couldn’t follow her instructions. She mocked my effort in front of the whole class. Middle school was even worse, bullying kids who stole from me and stalked me on the way home shouting insults. Secondary school pretty bad too, but I had a wonderful English teacher who encouraged my love of words. I left school at 16 on a Friday and started work on the following Monday as we needed me to earn, since my father didn’t support us adequately. When my youngest child started school, after studying A levels at evening class I gained a place to read English at university. It was damned hard work bringing up 3 kids and looking after in-laws and a disabled mother. I had little self belief; educational institutions terrified me but I forced myself to do teacher training as it fitted in with child care. I could not cope with school teaching where, at the time discipline was appalling, the kids murdered my subject for me, I wasn’t hard enough to develop the shell required to survive the classroom battles. I managed to worm my way into a college of further education, though, teaching adults, and this was my making. Having hated school so much myself, I understood those who had struggled to gain qualifications and put myself out to instil confidence in adult learners. I feel very strongly for children experiencing poor schooling when those who can afford it send their kids to private schools, which is socially unjust. I expect a barrage of responses from grans who are all for private schooling but in my view charitable status should be removed from them. The excuse given for retaining it is that scholarships are offered for poor kids. More inequality…

4allweknow Wed 25-Jan-23 12:20:35

Absolutely disgusting outside toilets. That's the only first day memory of 71 years ago. I decided I woukd not use them, ever which resukted in me going home some days with wet pants. Motger thought there was something wrong with me and a visit to the Dr ensued. Apparentky asking me questions I came out with the dirty toilets and no paper! Also enlightened him that the nursery I had attended had toilet paper stored in a bread bin just as you went into the toilet area so you took a couple of pieces before going to the toilet. The Dr just told my mum I had standards a bit higher than the school provided. He contacted the school and holders and toilet paper were installed. Still didn't use them but learned how to control my need. Gosh, so so long since I've recalled this.

62Granny Wed 25-Jan-23 12:19:27

Not sure if it was the first day, but remember one of the boys kicking and banging the classroom door and crying to go home. Also had outside toilets which I wasn't keen on. I hated the milk as it was kept near the radiators and always seemed luke warm .Get

Bazza Wed 25-Jan-23 12:15:47

I remember it very well. I was three years old and walked to school with my five year old sister. My mother was divorced and had a full time job and our granny who looked after us was very ill so I was allowed to start early. My sister had taught me to read, I’d found it really easy. However, numbers or figures of any kind are still a struggle 74 years on!

Ours was a tiny village school, outside toilets of course, but buckets! They were emptied once a week, I can still remember seeing a lady called Mrs Illings walking down the road with said buckets. What a job!

Nannapat1 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:14:01

Yes,I remember it very clearly! My father was in the RAF and we had been posted to Cyprus during the 1950s. That first school was a nissen hut. Mothers were advised to leave quietly without saying goodbye in order to avoid upsetting us children. However I burst into tears when I realised that my mum had left without saying goodbye!

Witzend Wed 25-Jan-23 12:08:38

At my first school you could have a currant bun (a penny) or a half bun (a ha’penny) with your milk (which I never liked). I really envied the girls who had the buns - I’d have loved one, but was so aware from a very early age of money being very tight that I never asked.

Maybe that’s why I’m so partial to Warburton’s teacakes now!

fancythat Wed 25-Jan-23 12:06:04

I was in the back of the car. The Headmaster's son who was a year older than me, told mum he would look after me. Very handy!

kwest Wed 25-Jan-23 12:05:52

Not sure if it was the first day but I do remember wetting my knickers. The Headmistress was very kind and sorted my out with fresh pants and I vaguely remember being in her office where there were armchairs, an electric fire , toast and tea. I don't remember if I was given any but she was very kind.
As an only child with lovely very gentle parents I supposed I was very shielded in my early years. My next very big memory from infant school was the large dining room which I suppose must have been the assembly hall when it was not lunch-time. There was a teacher on 'dinner duty' who seemed very angry with everyone and she shouted a lot. I was instantly terrified of her. Never more so than when she instructed everyone not to eat with their mouths open. I immediately thought "There is something that my mum has not explained". "How do I get the food in there without opening my mouth?" I fearfully put little bits of food in my mouth when I thought no-one was watching. I had never met an angry adult before and that memory is still with me 70 years later.

Eva3 Wed 25-Jan-23 12:03:25

I don't remember my first day although I know my olsder sister took me with her. What I do remember is the first day at school for a little girl named Diana King, when I was persuaded by a more daring friend to wrap a small piece of coal in a sweety wrapper and offer it to Diana. She took it, opened it and popped the coal into her mouth where she pretended to suck and enjoy it - poor little girl! We must have ruined her day. I have never done anything so horrid in my life again and have never forgotten it. There -it's out in the open and I hope if she reads this, Diana will forgive me. It's been on my conscience for 70 years!

Seabreeze Wed 25-Jan-23 11:50:38

We had a horrible teacher in my first class at school. He caught a boy scratching the desk with a pin. He took the pin and scratched the back of the boys hand ! All of us would line up in the playground for a dose of malt and cod liver oil from a large tin and only one spoon ! Outside loos no locks on doors, one day While on the loo a couple of boys came and pushed the door open laughing I was mortified. At junior school our dinner lady made us eat everything and I remember one day walking around the playground heaving as she’d made me eat a pudding with dates in it, I found the taste and texture revolting.
I did not enjoy any aspect of school at all.

Sandynan Wed 25-Jan-23 11:49:21

Yes I remember it well, 1965. I was dropped off by my Dad, we were late so all the other kids were already in their seats and all turned to look at me. I can’t remember much about the day only the end when my Dad was late again picking me up so I thought I had been abandoned and sat on the teachers knee sobbing until he arrived.. what a trauma for my little self. 🙁

Germanshepherdsmum Wed 25-Jan-23 11:47:23

My mum made me that promise too Grandyma. Years later she asked if I wondered how the lunch got cooked (I went home for lunch). Doh!

Kate1949 Wed 25-Jan-23 11:46:41

Oh yes Luckygirl the nuns in their black robes and white wimple (is that the right word?). They would terrorise us as would the priests and the Marist brothers I think they were called. I've since found out that the nuns were The Sisters of Charity or Mercy or something. What a joke.