Travel Weary

I think in a happy marriage you have to find a middle ground and compromise that you can both be happy with. My husband and I travelled for a few years once our children grew up and we both enjoyed it but then Covid hit and unfortunately my attitude changed completely. I no longer wanted the faff of going through airports etc. It was making him unhappy not to travel though so the compromise has been to book our first cruise. Husband still gets to see lots of places and make all the arrangements he enjoys. I hopefully dont have the travel hassle. Will be interesting to see how we get on. Maybe I will get the love of travel back. I do realise there are so many wonderful places to see in this world both at home and abroad.

It's the opposite in my family. DH hates travelling, but I love it. It's not being away that he doesn't like, it's the actual process of getting there. The problem with living in Canada is the huge distances to go anywhere! I envy you in UK that are one flight, or a train ride away from other European countries.

I've often said that I am on vacation the minute I finish work, my DH isn't on vacation until he arrives at the destination, checked in, and can relax with a beer.

LRavenscroft

I live in a beautiful part of the UK, south west, and have no desire to go anywhere else apart from Cornwall which fulfils my needs all around, the beauty, wildness, history and food etc.

I am in the same boat. I look out on farmland and the Welsh hills, so going to any accommodation that does not have a view is a bit pointless! There are lambs in the field behind my garden and the mist in the hills is magical. And as for the sunsets ..... I am a very lucky lady.

If I lived in the middle of a town or city I might be more highly motivated to travel more.

I ve lost my yearn for travelling I find it all so difficult now and just want to stay near my home to be honest sounds daft , but I will go places again but not at the moment nothing to do with Covid just an age thing I think, as I m heading up to a big number it just all seems to much now
Perhaps I’ll get my mojo back

I live in a beautiful part of the UK, south west, and have no desire to go anywhere else apart from Cornwall which fulfils my needs all around, the beauty, wildness, history and food etc.

At a push I might sometime go to more European cities for short breaks. This year I have more hip and knee problems and getting around is some what awkward. My joints lock and it’s painful so I have agreed to a cottage in Wales in Summer and a stay in the North East later on in the year.
My husband isn’t pushy but he wants to go abroad but abroad. does not interest me at the moment. Getting on and off planes and not to mention being treated like cattle at airports.
My DH wouldn’t go on his own but is happy to stay here and not go abroad as long as we do go somewhere. So we have booked anyway we shall see how that goes.
Would you not consider a few short breaks with your husband as a compromise because you don’t want to go abroad?

MissChateline - very enterprising - especially the food. My OH (a doctor) used to describe shellfish as "shit filters"! - so I tended to avoid them!

I have a sensitive digestive system and the joke in the family was: ""Mum vomits just going to Wales" - the joke being that Wales is a short walk away down the lane!

For me, the planning is part of the real joy of any holiday. And OH is quite happy to let me get on with it, and he trusts me totally.

If I didn't want to travel anymore, I'd just refuse to organise it all. Why would you? If he wants to go, let him get on with all the planning, his own packing, etc. (oh and his own washing and ironing on return), Surely your OH can't expect you to do it all- when you don't want to go anyway?

I agree biglouis it's all such a hassle and I hate airports but my husband loves them.

I sympathise with the posters who say it was they who had to do all the planning, admin and organization for the holiday because their partner would not take on a share. Thats certainly part of the hassle for which I have lost my own taste, Organizing a trip is bloody hard work and when you are a singleton (as I am) there is no one to share the responsibility of queuing, changing money, booking in luggage and so on. Maybe if someone whisked me off in a private jet and arranged for me to be waited on hand and foot I would feel differently.

Thank you The food sounds delicious!

I've been to Thailand and Cambodia but not Vietnam.

At the moment we are booking the day before arriving via airbnb and paying approximately £30 per night. Some places are slightly more expensive by maybe £10 per night and some slightly cheaper. Food is not expensive and a couple of nights ago dinner of noodle soup and a beer was 3.50. Last night we ate our body weight in huge prawns with salad and aubergine with pork and a beer and it was £20. Right now we are at a small resort on the island of Phu Quoc and it’s about £40 per night with free kyack . It’s spotlessly clean, modern luxury bathroom and with free Wi-Fi and breakfast.

That sounds very adventurous MissC - out of interest approximately what do you pay for lodgings/hotel per night?

I’m currently backpacking around southern Vietnam and having a fantastic time. This is the first time since Covid that I’ve been back to the far east and so far I’ve traveled by air, overnight train, bus, boat and bicycle. Almost nothing apart from the first night in Saigon was planned and we have just gone where we have felt like and stayed as long as we wanted. It’s all so easy and fun. It’s great to get my confidence for travelling back and I know that I will be back again very soon probably on my own for a few months.

I find travel programmes on the TV an absolute joy!

I need to fly to visit my son and family and i keep putting off as i can't be asked with airport faff I really can't.

It's the packing that stresses me out!
I spend many happy hours researching, and do all the planning and organising for my holidays with my husband and my friends, but faced with an empty suitcase my brain just won't engage 😬

My friends and I have recently been to Tenerife via East Midlands and had friendly treatment from all the staff at both airports.
I think they are glad to see people travelling again 🙂

We live 2 hours away from the nearest airport. Travelling to the airport, arranging parking or staying overnight in an airport hotel feels far too stressful now.

We found a travel company that picks us up from home, takes us to the airport and the same on the way back. It makes all the difference.

Mr C is much keener on travelling anywhere than I am. I suspect it’s because I do all the organising and packing. .

I too feel as though it’s just too much bother to go on holiday, well, abroad anyway. DH keeps getting out the brochures, but I can’t work up any enthusiasm.

When I was working, I think going away was much more of a break from that, but since retirement (and Covid) it just feels a hassle. Am quite happy to just potter round home.

Sounds boring I know, but it’s me who has to do all the planning and booking, DH wouldn’t do that. He wouldn’t want to go on his own though.

Not an easy situation. You will have to discuss it with him and tell him how you feel, and find a way forwards together.

We are both done travelling long haul but happy do drive around Europe and do short flights from time to time. But I can truly understand how hard it must be if you are at different stages of life, and energy, wants, etc.

As an aside, I have a friend who is 64 and is just about to marry a 33 year old. They both say age does not matter. And yes, it doesn't now - but when the 33 year old will be 53, the other will be 84, And 43 and 94!!! Let's hope they have a few good years together.

Im done travelling now. Seen all the places I ever wanted to see (except the Galapagos Islands). Its just too much hassle and the way you get treated at airports is atrocious. Ive seen enough films to put me off.

I am on my own now so don't have that problem but I know couples who holiday without their partner and seems to work well.

I'm a lot younger than my bloke, but he's the one that wants to travel. I've had enough of it. I find it stressful and hate it. He doesn't help by being kind and supportive while we're travelling however so has somewhat shot himself in the foot.

I won't do it anymore but am happy for him to go off on his own/with a group.

This came up the other way round recently. Most responses were saying holiday alone.