Doing things for the last time

I agree with GSM that it is probably better not to know that it is the last time we do something, but I am having a gradual realisation/reality check on travel. DH is fit and well generally but has had health problems since covid19, problems that have made me decide, discreetly, to book holidays closer to home, Europe specifically, and avoid long haul as I am terrified of a health issue when we are thousands of miles away from home.

Joseanne

Perfect Sago, there's always something else round the corner to enjoy. There HAS to be?

Yes, there has to be something around the corner, I agree with both Sago and GMS.
Life is full of the unexpected always was and always will be, I hope it is something that I can participate in.

I was giving my youngest DGS his nighttime bottle and thought to myself that there won’t be many times now that I would have a warm, sleepy baby snuggled in my arms.
As in so many instances better not to know ‘it’s the last time’. Live in the moment and enjoy while you can.

Ahh nanatoone! I’m dreading the last time I can go to Croyde - although last summer I walked to baggy point and back and thought it’s probably my last time!
I think I’ve bought my last push bike. Next one might be an electric one!

I was only thinking yesterday that my new passport will probably be my last ☹️ So thought I had best put it to good use and make hay while the 🌞 shines

The last time my late DH and I did a road trip around France I realised that it would probably be the last trip . He was so exhausted on our return , little did we know he would be diagnosed with inoperable cancer 3 months later 😞
My love of walking was severely hampered 18 months ago but now having had a hip replacement nearly a year ago I’m looking forward I hope to some coastal walking this year but perhaps taking it a little easier !

Did I really once own a horse? Riding is simply unimaginable now with my arthritic joints, tendon and muscle problems.

Terrybull
I said the same thing about long haul, and then one of the daughters asked if we’d like to go to Hawaii first class.
I said, let me think about it 😄

I had to stop fishing a couple of years ago, due to my reduced mobility meaning I could not stand for hours on a bank casting flies into a gale, and certainly couldn’t get in and out of rivers. Unless you’re in a boat, it’s not really a sport that lends itself to sitting down. Then DH had health issues, which exacerbated mine. I’m hoping this year, having had my hip replaced, to get back into it, but think it may be my last fling (so to speak).. We’ll see.

I think I regret that we may not do any more long hauls abroad, I'd never say never, I have loved many of those faraway places, both North and South America, Australia, I'd love to go again, I just hate air travel more and more. I keep seeing videos of extreme turbulence maybe I'm subliminally seeking them out, I find it hard to cope with just a little bit of it. I also agree with BlueBelle those wonderful, far flung places involve long arduous journeys I almost feel I need a holiday to get over the holiday, if that makes any sense!

It's swimming that I miss. I last swam in Malta ten years ago and am afraid to swim any more in case my two artificial knees cause me to sink. I didn't realise at the time that it was my last swim.
That's so sad, Nanatoone.

Varien your right, I think the enjoyiable things that we give up naturally, I don't mind so much.
I have the memories.
Motor cycling on the Picos mountains were a joy and unspoiled by the 'Last time' thought.

Other people's 'last time ' though can have an unfortunate impact on another.
My DH has decided that he no longer wishes to travel abroad.
I on the other hand do still want to explore other countries.
So for the 'first time' my sister and I are going on a road trip around Brittany.
Yeh!

This reminds me of coming home after a holiday to Croyde, my husband clearly now suffering for the effects of his cancer (he died some months later) and I promised him I wouldn’t take him away from home again. I knew it was our last family holiday on that journey home. No one needs to know that really.

Won't be traveling abroad again. We did go on a few cruises but on the last one DH was unwell and I actually started looking at ways to fly home. Thought just can't do this anymore. In the end sticking with the ship was the easiest solution.

For me the last time I went to a music festival it was a few years back and never realised it was my last time I d love to get my tent and back pack out again…. will I ? Probably not
The last time I went all the way to NZ to see my son it was such a long arduous journey that I don’t think I ll make it again he has to come to me now

Nanna58

Not for me GSM but I can remember my last walk with DH in January ‘21. We walked into Durham City from Shincliffe and back, along the river. He said how much better he was feeling and we’d do that walk again. Never to be, as he died 7 weeks later.
I agree, best not to know something is final.

My husband has Alzheimer’s and as he deteriorates the things I realise we have done for the last time are coming thick and fast now

Perfect Sago, there's always something else round the corner to enjoy. There HAS to be?

That sounds lovely Sago, have a great time.

On a more positive note, I’m going to look forward to doing things for the first time!
We are currently in the car driving 2.5 hours to our granddaughters school to see her singing in the school choir.
They are doing a special Mothers Day service.
It will be the first time for us visiting the school or hearing her sing.

loopyloo

Sometimes find myself thinking Heavens I can still do this!
Like the time we drove down to Worthing across the Dartford Bridge...

Yes that's where I am.... Gosh I can still do....

We went to the UK for the last time in 2019. We just can’t face the long flight anymore, even with stopovers. We still travel but have a limit of an 8 hour flight which keeps us in Australia except for a few parts of the Pacific and some Asian countries. It doesn’t bother me because our family all live here except for a few cousins.

Every time I walk the white cliffs I hope it’s not the last time.
So far so good 😊

I agree with you too GSM. With some things, if you knew it was going to be last time, would you be able to enjoy it?