Tipping.

We tip. Those poor men who have to climb many stairs to make a delivery. We usually give enough for a pint.

We always tip waiting staff but if service is included we do check to see if it's passed on and if it isn't we add some extra cash=in-hand. We also tip hairdressers and taxi drivers, our window cleaner, our cleaner at Christmas and we used to tip our milkman too, but our local dairy has been taken over and they've stopped delivering to our area.

Where do you live maddyone, I can't believe you get colour, cut and blow dry for £45.!! Does the hairdresser come to you? I pay £54 just for a cut and blow dry and we don't live in London or the south east, just near the county town of a very rural county.
I do tip in restaurants if there's no service charge & the service & food warrant one. I certainly don't tip the bin men as we have a very long drive of about quarter of a mile and it's a real hassle to get the bins to the end of the drive. I can't afford to tip the hairdresser! We don't have a milkman or a paper boy and the postman leaves mail at the end of the drive.

I don't tip. My hairdresser comes to the house, and waitresses are doing their jobs and get paid. No one ever gave me a tip for doing my work.

I don't tip, it's ridiculous. We all have or have had jobs, I worked in an office and of course we didn't get tips even though we gave a service. Surely this all went out with the ark when some people were very wealthy and others worked for them. If you are an ordinary person of any age in an ordinary job or receiving a pension it's silly to give someone a tip whose doing the same.

I can't understand why we tip but I do. In my last job before retiring I would have been sacked had I accepted any form of tip/thank you.I had someone's family member who by way if a thank you had come to my office from 50 miles away leave me a calender with a picture of her beautiful garden on it. I was out, came back to find it and I had to go to our Legal Department to declare the gift. I had to send it back with a very apologetic letter. Why do we give people rewards for doing their job?

We were allowed to keep gifts up to an estimated value of £5 when I left (bottle of wine/box of chocolates/flowers sort of value) but we had to "log" it in a gift list.

This was in more than one job (housing association/charity/social care) - so I think it must have been fairly normal at that time.

Not really the sort of jobs you would think of "tipping" but it was really lovely to be appreciated - especially when some of my clients had so little.

In a past life I did a lot of waitressing and relied on tips. Pay in catering is poor still, I believe.

I was a waitress too as a student/schoolgirl albertina. Always got lots of tips - shared with everyone in the kitchen including pot-washers but not the chef.
It made all the difference to very poor wages.

I don't live in London and paid £100 for a colour and cut. Don't have a blow dry because I don't like the way they do it.
My husband colours mine and our daughters now.

He doesn't get a tip!

I will always tip in a restaurant.
On cruises, some cruise lines expect you to pay a certain amount every day, known as crew appreciation money. Some remove it if you say you don't want it on your bill, and others make it very difficult not to pay it. Princess cruises were taking 16 US dollars every day for it. I feel that cruises are expensive anyway and if you haven't budgeted for that extra amount you could be in trouble. I want to be able to be in charge of who I tip and how much - I don't feel happy to be forced to pay a lot of money on top of the cost of my holiday.

Tipping in effect, that’s essentially a scam.

Culturally, in the US, the costumer in premises where tipping is seen as normal is essentially that you are an asshole depriving someone of their income if you don’ tip.

Given that, tips often work out to far more than the wage they should be being paid if their employer was paying it (and the wage they’d get in most other countries) it’s essentially extortion via emotional and societal manipulation.

How is that acceptable?

Sure, it might be a net negative for the service industry workers, I don’t know!

But being obligated to pay the wages of the workers ON TOP OF paying for the owner’s profits is OBSCENE.

Tips are designed to be just that, a tip. Something you give for good service.

Not a socially mandated TAX.

How is it okay for the consumer to be expected to DIRECTLY pay the wages of service staff? And how does this incentivise good service? It literally removes the entire purpose of tips as a concept, which is to incentivise good service.

Yes I tip, most restaurants don't add gratuities still, and I make sure that it's cash as the waiter/waitress get it directly.
I tip hairdressers, beauticians etc and like others, dislike being with 'non tippers' maybe walk in their shoes for a while before making judgement!

If I am using Uber Eats to order takeaway then I have the option to tip as part of my order, which I do. Other than restaurants and taxis though I really don't tip otherwise.

When I was seeing a hairdresser who owned the salon, I asked him about the policy of not tipping the owner. He replied: ‘Everyone likes a tip!’ So I tipped him to ensure a good cut next time.
Never occurred to me to tip a gardener. Could explain why they can be unreliable with me 🥹

Which just goes to show what an inequitable system it is Shizam

GrammaH

Where do you live maddyone, I can't believe you get colour, cut and blow dry for £45.!! Does the hairdresser come to you? I pay £54 just for a cut and blow dry and we don't live in London or the south east, just near the county town of a very rural county.
I do tip in restaurants if there's no service charge & the service & food warrant one. I certainly don't tip the bin men as we have a very long drive of about quarter of a mile and it's a real hassle to get the bins to the end of the drive. I can't afford to tip the hairdresser! We don't have a milkman or a paper boy and the postman leaves mail at the end of the drive.

I know GrammaH. But this is the price she charges and that’s why I give her extra. I live on the south coast in Hampshire.

By the way, I go to the salon. It’s not fancy but it’s very adequate.

I always tip my hairdresser and in restaurants. I also give the binmen a tip a Christmas as they are very good. Am picking up my new car next week and will buy the young lady who dealt with the sale some flowers as she was so helpful. My son works for AA and he sometimes gets a tip especially if he has come to the rescue of someone with a broken down car in ferocious weather and has to spend a while sorting the fault in torrential rain. I think if you are pleased with a, service and feel someone has done more than they need to then you can tip but don't like being expected to tip for poor service.

I’m amazed by how many people cite not needing to tip now there is minimum wage and people don’t need extra. I’d be fairly sure none of those making that remark have had to try to live and raise families on minimum wage. If you can afford to eat out, get your hair done, etc, etc, and you get good service from people who go out to work for minimum wage instead of simply relying on social welfare, I suggest you could go mad and leave a little extra.

Me too.

Keeleklogger
You may think the whole purpose of a tip is "looking forward" - to incentivise good service - but I don't look at it like that.

I think a tip is a "thank you" - for good service already received.

MissElly

I’m amazed by how many people cite not needing to tip now there is minimum wage and people don’t need extra. I’d be fairly sure none of those making that remark have had to try to live and raise families on minimum wage. If you can afford to eat out, get your hair done, etc, etc, and you get good service from people who go out to work for minimum wage instead of simply relying on social welfare, I suggest you could go mad and leave a little extra.

But why tip some and not others? There are many people out there on minimum wages, many of them in jobs where tipping is not a thing.

Usually only waiters waitresses, but make sure it goes to them not the boss. Last Christmas we gave our postman a tip for the first time ever.