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SachaMac Mon 18-Sept-23 08:50:55

My family are aware of my wishes and I trust them to give me a good send off. I will have a service with some of my favourite songs played, followed by cremation then a traditional gathering with drinks and a buffet afterwards. Family flowers only and donations to my favourite charity. My ashes will be buried with my DH, there’s space on the headstone for my name.

Enidd Mon 18-Sept-23 08:44:07

@Patsy70, this sounds like something I’d consider.

@Wenmore, I’m not so fussed about a service either.

Once I finally decide what I’d like then I’ll tell the children as I know they would carry out my wishes.

buffyfly9 Mon 18-Sept-23 08:43:00

My husband and I want no fuss therefore I looked at Pure Cremation (several years ago) and decided it fulfilled our needs. My daughter on the other hand thinks it is awful and likes the traditional type of funeral with funeral cars, services, weeping and buffets. When I read the small print it stated that the relatives of the deceased can alter the arrangements to suit themselves. We decided not to proceed as there seemed no point in expressing a wish, paying up front and then not having it! I agree with Monica, there will be plenty of money left for my daughter to do what she wants and I won't know about it. Funerals are really for those left behind.

Iam64 Mon 18-Sept-23 08:30:00

My daughters know I want a wicker coffin and to be buried with their dad. I trust them to organise a service and wake that does it’s best to ease their grief

M0nica Mon 18-Sept-23 08:00:17

Wenmore I cannot see that having no funeral plans can be a problem. You just do whatever you prefer and is convemient. The lack of a will is something else entirely and having been involved in dealing with the estates of people who did not make wills, and as well as those who did, I know how much hassle this causes.

Wenmore Mon 18-Sept-23 00:46:31

M0nica

Funeral plans are for the living, since we will have no means of ensuring they are carried out once we are dead.

My sons' father appeared to think that. He left no indication of his wishes despite having a terminal disease. It would have been far easier if he'd left, or at least discussed, plans for the occasion. A will would have made everything far simpler too.

Wenmore Mon 18-Sept-23 00:30:40

My DH knows l want a direct cremation (no service) and my eldest son would know where to spread the ashes. Up to them what they actually do but a service of any kind is simply not my type of thing.

M0nica Sun 17-Sept-23 22:03:02

Funeral plans are for the living, since we will have no means of ensuring they are carried out once we are dead.

Patsy70 Sun 17-Sept-23 21:30:29

Strangely, Enidd, we were discussing this earlier over dinner. Well, I was! 😂 I would like something really very simple, with only our immediate family and close friends at the local crematorium. My ashes to be scattered en masse in the woods behind our garden. One or two pieces of music, with a couple of short stories or poems, to be chosen by me and my children. Afterwards, I’d like them all to celebrate my life at our local pub, where we’ve held many special parties over the 40 years I’ve lives in the village.

winterwhite Sun 17-Sept-23 21:20:15

Yes I have and they are fairly detailed and I have told DH and the children where to find them. Nothing that they will dislike, just preferences of mine.

Enidd Sun 17-Sept-23 20:31:09

Have you made any? If so, what are they?
I know I don’t want to buried so I’m thinking a cremation but does it always have to be at the cemetery or can my ashes be placed elsewhere?
Sorry hope this question doesn’t offend or upset, if so please ignore it thanks.