Grandparents with grandchildren in jail…

Is someone bunking off school?

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spoofsville...

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can we all be friends

as the third grandma lynn on this website, i think it is disrespectful to take our name and cause this mayhem.

wait! you have a point… also change your name, I AM THE REAL GRANDMA LYNN!!!!

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How dare she what?

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It sounds as though it’s a pretty open and shut case. There’s no question that your grandson is responsible for the death of another person. I think the PD is doing the best they can: plea bargain and hope for a lighter sentence.

A lot will depend on previous convictions, if any, arrests, etc.

I understand this is incredibly painful for you, but he’s a 23 yo man, not a young boy, and he’s responsible for the loss of a life. You can’t save him from the consequences of his actions. Let the PD handle it. Hiring someone isn’t going to solve this, and takes a massive gamble in going to trial. You could spend tens of thousands of dollars, only for your grandson to end up in a worse situation than a plea bargain could be, and you could end up bankrupt with the bills.

sorry, OP, nothing to suggest, except i think GSM is right.
if the attorney is to do a deal, a plea bargain, that is because he/she knows it is the safest way to try to limit the punishment.
in cases where the evidence is overwhelming.

grandmalynn, what about the person she killed, have you no sympathy for him/her and their family.

In this country, OP, if you are guilty and you plead guilty you will get a lesser sentence than if you continue to plead not guilty. No idea if this applies in the US.

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What a very painful situation, you obviously love both your son and DGS. Do you have any other family support at the moment? Perhaps you could take some legal advise as to whether you hiring an attorney for him would allow him to properly plead his case.. and help mitigate his sentence but it doesn't seem a good idea to alienate your son. Perhaps he will change his mind.. You can though assure your grandson that you will always love him..

Oh my word nolittle I know nothing about US law I hate the idea that anyone in US can carry and use guns He wouldn’t be in this pickle if there was no guns allowed to the masses but that’s immaterial
You obviously feel it was a total mistake and he shot without intention
Where is the boys real parents as you say your son isn’t his father ??
I hope you can find a solution for you all and it’s not two lives lost

10 years to 480 months……..

What is the likely punishment for your DGS?
Can you support your family in other ways besides paying for defence, which may make no difference?

There’s so much to this, I shouldn’t have brought it here. I am sorry I did. I’m just….overwhelmed

Thank you all for your kindness and consideration. My grandson was being threatened by a group of other young men in a “stand your ground state”. He fired his gun into the air but without deliberation. The death wasn’t intentional. But as you know, firing a gun bears the knowledge there’s a possibility someone will die…

He’s a young boy still, very immature. My son is not his father. But sees only black and white - no in between…

My heart is broken. I want to help him, but don’t want to risk my relationship with my son. At the same time, I am very, very angry with my son for trying to bind my hands.

A private attorney would be a painful expense, but I just learned the PD is not trying to “upset the prosecutors office” and wants to plead his case down and not fight for him…I have to find out why.

I can’t share much here, but my head is swimming. My heart is broken.

This is a dreadful situation, the stuff of nightmares. I can also understand why you want to support your GS in any way you can.

I don't think you should become estranged from your son either, but I don't think he should be threatening you this as like he is doing, you should be free to take what you believe to be the right course of action .

That's a dreadful situation to be in nolittleredluggage for all of you. I agree in principle with GSM but I can understand you wanting the best support for your grandson. I really don't think you should become estranged from your son.

Second degree murder is a very serious offense - I wonder if there are prior offenses