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Alcohol and the elderly

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Pat37 Wed 21-Feb-24 20:21:19

I am shocked that a very elderly one who lives alone has decided you only have one life and has take to drinking wine with her evening meal and what I call a liquer of an evening . She also takes medication but I don't know what . Should I be concerned ?

sodapop Thu 22-Feb-24 09:45:46

GrannyGravy13

Pat37 please come back and explain/expand your concerns.

And let's hope they are less judgemental than the original post.

Witzend Thu 22-Feb-24 09:44:23

nanna8

I think the late queen and queen mother used to enjoy a drink and they both lived to a ripe old age. I like a drink with my evening meal and why not ?

I remember an anecdote about the QM, some of whose domestic staff were gay men.

I don’t recall it word for word, but it was something like, ‘When are one of you old queens going to bring this old Queen her G&T?’ 😂

Bea65 Thu 22-Feb-24 09:40:41

I would love to know what a ‘very elderly one’ is?? It’s her life and she’s at home not harming anyone 🥂

25Avalon Thu 22-Feb-24 09:34:59

I hope she isn’t eating wine gums as well. Dad used to say mum got drunk on those.

kittylester Thu 22-Feb-24 09:30:13

I thought that book was by her sister Rose.

keepcalmandcavachon Thu 22-Feb-24 09:21:38

Alcohol and The Elderly

'a rip-roaring new book full of debauchery & mayhem'

a new novel by our own beloved GN author Sherry Swigger is out now.

GrannySomerset Thu 22-Feb-24 09:10:29

As if being old wasn’t hard enough without being moralised at. When I was sixty I decided never to waste time finishing a book I didn’t like, when I was seventy the decision was to say yes to everything offered (unless driving) and at eighty never to eat cabbage again. The older we get, the more we should do what gives us pleasure, and the poster does seem very judgemental. As my dear late MiL said, the question is what am I saving myself for?

EkwaNimitee Thu 22-Feb-24 09:05:09

I suppose it depends on whether it's a glass or two or a bottle or two with the evening meal. But she sounds like a woman with the right attitude to me! Good luck to her.
btw, a doctor recently told me that a glass of red wine was good for you. Not offering it on prescription though...

Redhead56 Thu 22-Feb-24 09:02:08

Cheers 🍷🍷 she is enjoying herself and why not!

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 22-Feb-24 08:58:47

Some people are very easily shocked! 🍷🍷🍷

flappergirl Thu 22-Feb-24 08:57:05

Lol Primrose At your mum falling over the settee after the funeral. I would've claimed to be overcome with grief.

aggie Thu 22-Feb-24 08:56:38

I think I’ll start drinking !

Whitewavemark2 Thu 22-Feb-24 08:42:46

Mum lived to 101.

Always had a gin and tonic before her evening meal and wine with it.

She was always a very happy and contented person😄😄

Whitewavemark2 Thu 22-Feb-24 08:40:52

I think it must be me that you are talking about - if 78 is elderly

Cheers!

V3ra Thu 22-Feb-24 08:39:48

A few years ago we were talking about drinking levels and I asked my mother-in-law if she counted her units, or took any notice of the advice.
"Not at my age" she replied.
She's 96 now and still enjoys her Zinfandel 🙂

GrannyGravy13 Thu 22-Feb-24 08:32:29

Pat37 please come back and explain/expand your concerns.

Millie22 Thu 22-Feb-24 08:26:44

Enjoy

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Abitbarmy Thu 22-Feb-24 08:19:56

Having had our car written off this week in a car park no less, I’ve possibly exceeded my usual modest amount of alcohol. Purely medicinal to calm me as feeling quite discombobulated! We all have our needs!

Chocolatelovinggran Thu 22-Feb-24 08:18:51

Alcohol is well known as a preservative.

NanKate Thu 22-Feb-24 08:13:55

flappergirl you did make me laugh with your comment ‘lap dancing’ 😂

Kittylester we are both doomed, 🍷🍷cheers !

Sago Thu 22-Feb-24 08:09:18

When we opened our garden a couple of years ago a couple of ladies of around 80 came in, they ordered a couple of coffees and scones, they had a small bottle of whisky on the table when I took the drinks over they said they liked a “snifter” with their afternoon coffee.
I was delighted!

Calendargirl Thu 22-Feb-24 07:14:13

My friend’s parents ( in their 90’s) enjoyed a Baileys in their morning coffee.

The visiting district nurse tutted at this, and felt it wasn’t to be encouraged!

I ask you! If you get to be 90……

NotAGran55 Thu 22-Feb-24 06:48:15

Perhaps she is following medical advice?
A consultant neurologist recommended that I have a glass of red wine a day, along with 2 squares of dark chocolate and my usual strong coffee.

PamelaJ1 Thu 22-Feb-24 06:28:21

Here is a toast to you. I am in Aus so haven’t taken to the bottle at 6.24a.m.😂
Mum is 95 and takes a dim view of the copious amount of alcohol that 3 out of 4 of her children imbibe.
I trying to reduce my longevity so I leave some money to my children and don’t have to spend all my money on care!!

nanna8 Thu 22-Feb-24 05:58:28

I think the late queen and queen mother used to enjoy a drink and they both lived to a ripe old age. I like a drink with my evening meal and why not ?