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A weight problem at fourteen?

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Callistemon213 Tue 02-Jul-24 15:32:57

At 12 my DGS was a bit chubby and about my height, 5'5".
At 15 he was 6'2" and much thinner.

However, I think boys tend to carry on growing to a later age than girls.

Bumface Tue 02-Jul-24 15:29:33

My eldest GS is now 15. He used to be, as his mother put it, a bit of a chubber.
As he grew older he realised that buying choc chip cookies or doughnuts for lunch at school (yes they sell both and crisps etc) was not a good idea. Now he presents a slimmer profile. I think starting to be interested in girls helped.

The great thing about being a teenager is that you can usually shed weight quite quickly, unlike later in life, as I know from personal experience.

Callistemon213 Tue 02-Jul-24 15:14:31

Daddima

I’m sure Patsy means well, but there are three adults involved in this situation without her feeling she has to have input.
A ‘fit and healthy’ 14 year old whose parents own gyms? So it’s daddy ( gym owner?) who is responsible for the unhealthy snacking?
I’m sure they’ll manage without her ( or our) advice!

I don't think the 14 year old is her son's daughter, either. Patsy70 says My son’s partner’s daughter.

There is nothing Patsy70 can do except perhaps just listen if needed.

Daddima Tue 02-Jul-24 14:33:08

I’m sure Patsy means well, but there are three adults involved in this situation without her feeling she has to have input.
A ‘fit and healthy’ 14 year old whose parents own gyms? So it’s daddy ( gym owner?) who is responsible for the unhealthy snacking?
I’m sure they’ll manage without her ( or our) advice!

loopyloo Tue 02-Jul-24 13:50:49

Is this a bit of teenage rebellion?
Parents own a gym and all the family are sporty?

Sarnia Tue 02-Jul-24 12:48:27

I don't think some people wait to get hungry these days. There are so many outlets for fast food, most of it not very good for you, that those inclined can eat all day long. It becomes a habit rather than hunger. Growing up in the late 40's/50's there was just a local chippy and nobody walked around eating, unlike today.

BlueBelle Mon 01-Jul-24 16:58:15

One Grandaughter was a bit waisty/tummy/bum at 14 and had the most perfect figure by 18 which has stayed with her into her twenties gorgeous figure
As your lass is into sports and gyms and has aware parents I wouldn’t worry too much

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 01-Jul-24 16:48:33

A weekend treat only perhaps.

Witzend Mon 01-Jul-24 16:38:44

Germanshepherdsmum

Mum needs to stop buying crisps and chocolate!

Exactly. Or at least, a lot fewer of them.

Lyndylou Mon 01-Jul-24 16:36:36

Just would like to say that I remember being very concerned about my grandson's weight when he was 14. Two years later he hasn't lost any weight but boy has he put on height! He looks positively slim now, probably for the first time since starting Senior School. His diet hasn't changed at all in that time.

Callistemon213 Mon 01-Jul-24 16:35:15

Germanshepherdsmum

Mum needs to stop buying crisps and chocolate!

I think Patsy70 said she eats the unhealthy stuff away from home.

Most girls have stopped growing at 14 but not all and she may be heading for a growth spurt. Perhaps some guidance as to healthy snacks might be a good idea.

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Perhaps five smaller, healthy meals a day might suit her better? One of my DD prefers to eat that way. Three meals with healthy snacks mid morning and mid afternoon.

Hithere Mon 01-Jul-24 16:06:57

The worse, not worst

Hate autocorrect

Hithere Mon 01-Jul-24 16:06:24

The more unnecessary attention adults put on this, the worst it may become

Let it be

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 01-Jul-24 16:00:07

Mum needs to stop buying crisps and chocolate!

Patsy70 Mon 01-Jul-24 15:57:06

Thank you for your responses. She is certainly not obese, just putting on weight, because she snacks between meals. Yes, she obviously likes crisps and chocolate, as do lots of people, but at the same time she realises that these foods are not a good idea. Taking her to the GP is not the answer. Also, she is active and chooses to play various sports and use the gym - these activities are not in any way forced upon her. It has to be handled sensitively, and I know her Mum will deal with it well. I just asked if anyone here had had a similar experience.

Callistemon213 Thu 27-Jun-24 22:53:04

HousePlantQueen

vintage1950

Perhaps it's time to consult the gp and perhaps an nhs dietitian.

NHS dieticians and GPs are often woefully out of date in their knowledge. My DH is diabetic, and his diabetic nurse of morbidly obese, hard to take her seriously

My friend said the same about the Consultant she saw about her T1 diabetes. She said he seemed to have food spillages down his front too and looked generally messy.

Coolgran65 Thu 27-Jun-24 22:02:54

I don't mean to sound flippant but maybe her daughter just really likes chocolate and crisps etc and hunger has nothing to do with it. This was me. Eventually the penny dropped and I realised if I wanted to look nice then it was up to me.

annodomini Thu 27-Jun-24 21:38:13

It's not advisable to medicalise the situation. She isn't ill nor is she abnormal. Teenagers often go off one way or the other. Thank goodness she's not anorexic. It would help to find out why she is snacking on unhealthy foods. Does she have some unsatisfied need? Her parents own gyms and the family's lifestyle is centred on fitness. Is she quietly rebelling against this prevailing attitude? What is necessary is for her parents not to see this as a problem.

valdali Thu 27-Jun-24 20:34:00

Weight can fluctuate in those teen / late teen years, I got quite fat at 16-18, lost it gradually once I went to uni & have stayed at my 20 yr old weight for the last 43 years.I am all for being forthright with children & teens, but I think this is one where her mum is right to handle it in a sensitive way. Eating disorders often begin at this age, & then are learnt as an effective response to stress & cause lifelong problems. If she excercises a lot that will make her hungry, & that age-group have fast metabolisms - could she add more fibre to duaghter's meals or give her more high-fibre & protein helpings & slightly less carbohydrate? That might help her to stay fuller for longer. & be supportive by perhaps choosing clothes herself that aren't too bodycon (if she wears a lot of leggings & leotards) so her daughter can choose some lovely looser clothes & she's less likely to get comments peers? I'm not a dietician btw.

BlueBelle Thu 27-Jun-24 20:18:50

Last time I was at the hospital I couldn’t believe how many very very large nurses there are I don’t mean a little over weight I mean obese
As she seems to have a open and honest relationship with her mum and wants help it shouldn’t be too hard just about working on the snack issue can she be encouraged to have healthy snacks or fruit instead of whatever shes eating now

HousePlantQueen Thu 27-Jun-24 20:02:40

vintage1950

Perhaps it's time to consult the gp and perhaps an nhs dietitian.

NHS dieticians and GPs are often woefully out of date in their knowledge. My DH is diabetic, and his diabetic nurse of morbidly obese, hard to take her seriously

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 27-Jun-24 19:50:47

She is eating unhealthily between meals? How? That needs to stop. Nobody should need to eat between healthy, nutritious meals.

vintage1950 Thu 27-Jun-24 19:20:53

Perhaps it's time to consult the gp and perhaps an nhs dietitian.

Patsy70 Thu 27-Jun-24 19:07:51

My son’s partner’s daughter is overweight, and her Mum is very concerned with how she handles this in the most sensitive way. Her daughter is fourteen and is fit and active, eats healthy meals with the family, but also eats unhealthily between meals, when she’s not at home. Her parents own gyms and all three children are very sporty (and academic), and my son also maintains a healthy lifestyle. She isn’t eating secretively, as she tells her Mum, but at the same time doesn’t want to put on more weight. It is a delicate situation. Have you any experience of this?