Would you tell a man he's got a urine stain on his trousers?

DH sits down AND wipes!

RosiesMaw2

It’s PROSTATE!

Mind you, he may be prostrate afterwards. 😂

Exactly! And why is it only women who think to use pads? Even if they don't want to buy pads all the time, they could use a folded flannel or something and just wash it?

Anything would be better than walking around with stains in a certain area.

RosiesMaw2

Get your husband to have the conversation.

Good one! I'll try, but not sure if he will agree. Man to man would be better.

My husband had the finger up the bum prostate test, so I didn't know that. Things have moved on! Much more dignified for men. (Never mind all the things we women have to endure!!)

Buy him some dark trousers maybe?
Far less noticeable. Hopefully someone can tactfully explain why .

There have been a few threads recently about urine seemingly leaking, both in men and women. As I suggested in another thread, and as silverlining48 comments above, why is it only women who wipe?

In Germany men sit down on the toilet. So I am told by German friends.
Why don’t men use a square of loo roll to dry themselves off as we do.

It’s medically recognised in older men and can be helped with medication if the prostate is ok. If you feel uncomfortable speaking with this person about it is there someone closer to him that you know well? If so you could mention it from a place of concern in case a prostate issue. The sooner they are diagnosed the safer for the individual. Having said all that I’d also be wary of mentioning to him it if not a close family friend or relation.

Yes, I’d go with the “oh I think you’ve split something on your trousers, wasn’t sure if you’ve noted?”

Or “poo, you smell, is that wee-wee?”

I agree with others, could you kindly suggest they’ve spilt something?

It’s PROSTATE!

Could you say "I think you've spilled some tea (or coffee, soft drink. etc.) on your trousers...."?

The up to date prostrate test does not start with the 'finger up the bum' examination, its just a blood test. No doubt things will get embarrassing later on if the blood test is positive.
Remember the slogan 'don't die of embarrassment'? (I think directed at colon cancer).
Is this gentleman married? does he have a sister?

Well if the husband defensive he’s not going to do that Rosies

Personally unless it was a close relative I don’t think I could say anything but it really depends how well you know him I think I could tell my best friend if there was a problem but probably not anyone else It’s a terrible delicate subject surely he notices after a time or two or is his eyesight bad
We had a girl at work once who really smelt so bad underarms area but no one wanted to hurt her feelings. It’s such a hard and delicate thing to do
If you are close to him like a brother or something could you sit him down and tell him gently ? It’s a hard one I m surprised he’s not smelling already

Get your husband to have the conversation.

MissAdventure

I suppose you could drop hints, "OnwardandUpward*

Fetch up the subject of prostate issues in older men, and say how it's important to have a test...

He'll certainly be defensive about that, if he realises what it involves!!

AFAIK the PSA test is just a blood test. Dh has one every year. We have lost too many friends to prostate cancer.

I’d tell dh, not that it’s happened yet. He’d be mortified, but I’d point him at the men’s pads that are easily available.

Yes, some women have given birth often and lost all dignity doing so. We have also mostly had monthly periods and accept our bodily functions.

I remember a female boss I used to have joking that her family gave her a pack of Tena lady for her 50th birthday. At the time I was horrified, but now I completely understand. It was a joke, but also a reality for many older people.

There is no shame, it should be talked about more. My DH got huffy for me even mentioning this even though it was not him I was referring to

Mum always helped at village jumble sales but no way would she touch old men’s clothing for this very urine reason.

I suppose you could drop hints, "OnwardandUpward*

Fetch up the subject of prostate issues in older men, and say how it's important to have a test...

He'll certainly be defensive about that, if he realises what it involves!!

I had a boss, in a senior position, who wore the same suit everyday and his trousers were covered in urine stains. No-one was brave enough to say anything.

On the other had, I would be quick to tell DH, despite him going off in a huff!

I agree with you I think (some men) not all can be stubborn. I totally agree with you about the adverts its always about women men can buy pads for little accidents now.
I think they get embarrassed about this problem but it's just what happens with age and health. Women accept these as normal and just get on with it.

@MissAdventure It's going to be so hard to do! I dont know how I could do it politely . Except if I say I think he's dropped some food there???

@Redhead56 i think my husband would be defensive if it was him. He got defensive for me even mentioning the man I wrote the post about. Can men not buy some kind of pad for this type of thing? I have been wearing Tena lady for years to ensure I don't have this type of problem and would rather prevent it happening. Why don't men take similar action?
I know men don't give birth or have problems like some of us ladies do, but also why don't they admit it or prevent it like we are able to? The adverts on TV are always for female incontinence products but I never see any for men!

Sometimes older gentlemen might find it useful to put a square of cotton wool in that area to catch little drips that emerge after the toilet. Your DH is right, it happens and is not the gentleman’s fault.