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Would you tell a man he's got a urine stain on his trousers?

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Redhead56 Mon 05-Aug-24 12:06:49

It’s something I am very aware of get sick of informing the person involved and I get told off for making it an issue!

MissAdventure Mon 05-Aug-24 12:03:53

He certainly needs a good (kind) telling then.
He'll end up smelling.

OnwardandUpward Mon 05-Aug-24 12:02:51

I could, except I don't see them at their home so they are not able to when I see them.

OnwardandUpward Mon 05-Aug-24 12:01:49

It's definitely not water splashes as it's a round mark in a certain place. As I mentioned it is sometimes brown from repeated markings when the same trousers must have been worn several times.

OnwardandUpward Mon 05-Aug-24 11:59:56

It isn't my husband, but I asked his advice and he was quite defensive about older men urinating, saying "quite often you think you have finished and then more trickles out". I said surely in that instance it's good to put some tissue in your pants or a pad?
My husband only wears dark trousers (thankfully), so even if HE does it, it's not obvious. Light coloured trousers are not kind to their wearers.

Smileless2012 Mon 05-Aug-24 11:59:07

You could suggest he put on a clean pair.

RosiesMaw2 Mon 05-Aug-24 11:57:11

If he is “in your life” - yes.
If just someone you meet occasionally, no.
Is there no mutual friend who could help out?

Oreo Mon 05-Aug-24 11:56:07

Even if they fume at having to change their trousers it’s important to get this sorted.

Oreo Mon 05-Aug-24 11:55:17

I would sure tell DP if that happened.
Could it be water splashes when he washes his hands tho?

MissAdventure Mon 05-Aug-24 11:52:34

It depends who they are, really.

On balance, though, I'd tell them.

OnwardandUpward Mon 05-Aug-24 11:49:52

I don't want to say who this is about, but an elderly man in my life has started to sport a urine spot/ stain on the front of his trousers.
Sometimes its a wet fresh spot when he returns from the loo or sometimes it's a brown circle from repeated spots.

It's VERY obvious due to the trousers being pale coloured. I have no sense of smell so do not know if it smells to others. I've only noticed in the last two weeks but am concerned how to deal with it in the best possible way.

If this is someone in your life, what would you do?