Does anyone still miss their parents?

yes, I never got on with my dad, I am now realising that I did for my very early years and something happened to change him during the war, and he did love me

my mum died many years ago, I still feel her near me.

To start off with, if it was January of this year, your mother died, that is n ot very long ago, so naturally you are still grieving.

And to answer your question: yes, I still miss my parents - my mother died in 2002 and my father in 2009. Since then both my sister and my husband have died and I miss them too.

I also find myself occasionally dreaming of my grandparents and others of their generation, most of whom died before I was 14, and I am coming up for 73, now.

We loved these people, so yes, we think of them, and sometimes it hurts, like when you hear their favourite Christmas hymn or suddenly find yourself thinking, " Daddy would really have appreciated this joke." or some such thing.

Yes I miss them very much, Mum passed very suddenly and unexpectedly 9 years ago and Dad had a horrible but fairly rapid, death from cancer just as COVID hit but passed before lockdown. Both were in their 70's so not really old and they were still very active.
I miss the warmth of a hug from my Mum and the wonderful smile and sense of humor of my Dad.
Nothing really replaces that connection you have with much loved parents.

Very sorry for your loss. Doesn’t matter what age your parents’ are when they die, they are your parents, it is so sad. And people will always turn around and say”well they had a good life”?
That does not take away your loss or pain. Grieving takes a long time and has so many different levels.
My father died in 1985, he was only 64. I still miss him.
My mummy died in 2010 and she was 86. I just wish they could see my wonderful daughters and my 7 fabulous grandchildren - how I miss them💔😘🙏

My father died in 1980 so I don't really miss him any more, but I do still miss my mother who died in 2010.
She missed her first great grandchild by two weeks, but did know her name. Since then I have three more grandchildren and often think of how she would have enjoyed knowing them.
I dream about her sometimes and always wake up nostalgic and disappointed to remember that she is no longer with us.

I just wish I could go back and ask them about their lives, their childhood, how they met etc etc. And wish I could forgive myself for leaving home at 17 and breaking their hearts. The older I get the more I regret how I treated them. I wish I’d understood more about the dementia that my dad suffered from. Although, thankfully, just before she died ( suddenly and unexpectedly) I visited my mum and thanked her for everything they’d done for me.

It’s my parents’ birthday today and they’ve both been gone quite a while . My father died in 1984 when I was 32 and my mum in 2008 after a long struggle with dementia. I miss them both even though I am now in my 70s.

I think about my dad and what a good kind man he was and after my DH passed away I thought that if there is any sort of after life then my dad would look after him for me.

I'm 69 miss mine still. Mum died in 2012 at 88 dad 2019 at 93. Mum deteriorated in her last year with Parkinson's great and full life till then stylish and never looked her age, dad had all his faculties, looked after himself, no care package, apart from me, which I loved,mainly chauffer and just keeping him on track. Took him back to Germany at 89 and a few holidays after that. Miss them a lot. Still miss my gran and she died 40 years ago next month! I was very close to her. You are not alone. 🥰💔💔

Absolutely. I still want to tell them things that have happened. I am lucky in that, apart from their ill health at the end, my memories are happy. My dad died 28 years ago and my mum 3 years ago. I miss them and think of them most days.

i lost my mum when i was 18, nearly 50 years ago and yes i still miss her. i missed her most when i married, had children and then divorced. My dad had died by the time i divorced. I miss not being able to turn to him when i see something in the news or hear about someone we knew.

I feel so sorry for those of you who still experience grief at the loss of parents even after a long time, but even more sorry for those who don't have good memories of their parents.

I was so lucky to have excellent parents. I was an only child, but not spoilt at all, and learnt loads from both of them. I knew all but one grandparent who died when I was six months old, and each one taught me something good (one was very musical and I inherited some of his skill, as did my daughters, and now my grandkids.

None of our parents lived long enough to see their GCs married or know my grandkids. They would have been proud of us all.

So really, all has been normal in my life though I do wish my dear dad was still here - he was uneducated but so wise and I know my GCs would have adored him - and vice versa.

I hope all my departed ancestors can hear me!

I feel as you do Babs. We have a friend who is 74 and still has his mum. His dad only died last year. My mum died in 1972.

Indeed Georgesgran, the circle of life.
Thank you all for sharing your stories, some happy, some sad.

I miss both my parents especially my Dad.
He was a gentle Christian soul and I so wish he had had the joy of knowing his great grandchildren and had the chance to guide them as he did me along life’s path.
Mum was difficult but I loved her and her last years were hard without Dad.
I also miss my grandparents who taught me so much about life and I just hope as a grandma I can help my grandchildren as they navigate their way through life.
The circle of life goes on and we all have a part to play.

Lost dad in 2004 and think of him very often and looking after mum who is 93 with double dementia and often think dad would be proud of the way myself and sister are trying our very best to look after mum who is as helpless now as a baby with her dementia.

It is just 8 weeks since we lost Dad and we miss him so much.
He was the family rock and married to Mum for 64 years.
I cannot describe how lucky we were to have him.
Looking after Mum as much as possible but this is so hard for everyone.

I still miss them. My sweet gentle Dad died when I was 14 and my hardworking, strong Mum, when I was 49. There was a 27 year age-gap between them.

I miss my mother very much. She died 30 years ago when I was only 45. There is so much I would like to to tell her, and I would also like to say sorry for some things. If anything, I miss her more with the passing of time.

My parents divorced when I was a child and I made a concerted effort to reconnect with my father when I was in my teens. I regret having run after him to try and have a relationship with that self-absorbed, disinterested man who didn't deserve it. I don't miss him at all.

My dad died in 1980, he was no age and neither was I to lose a father, he never knew his grandchildren. My mum died 2000 so have been an orphan for a long time. It often surprises me when people in their late sixties like me have parents still alive. I have paddled my own canoe for so long that I don’t really remember when I last had them both with me but I do miss not having a home to go back to where someone actually looks after me rather than looking after everyone else. That must be heaven.

I suppose I loved my parents. Neither were particularly demonstrative or loving. When my mother died, and I was with her when she did, I am sorry to say I felt a great feeling of release. I could be myself with no snide comments or reproaches from her. I do things for myself now and not to please or gain affection from them

I was never that close to my brother but since he died, i miss him greatly

Its my grandmother I still miss.
*BigLouis” I feel exactly like you do. It’s a loss I have felt for over 40 years.

Every day I still miss my mum after nearly 6 years

Kate1949

No. I wish my mother had had a better life as her life was awful. She died at 58 when I was 23. My father was a monster.

I could have said this except my mother suffered for a few years longer than yours. She was completely under his ‘spell’ and supported his view of life to the end. I was sorry he didn’t go first in the hope Mum may have come to her senses. But it wasn’t to be.