Does anyone still miss their parents?

I used to take my elderly Mum out a lot and often my daughter would come with us. Although she was a great age She was still beautiful with stunning white hair which was always styled nicely. She had lovely modern clothes which we chose together because when we were growing up times were hard and all her clothes and ours were from jumble sales or hand knitted.

People were always asking if we were 3 generations when my daughter was about 30, I was 60 and Mum was 90. I was always being told how lucky we were and we truly were blessed.

Mum and I could find something to laugh about every time we were together so I try to still do this even though she is no longer with us.

My lovely Mum died in .’92 - she was just 68 and had been house, then bed bound for 4 years leading up to her death. I was robbed, as were my DDs, only 12 and 7 at the time.
Sometimes when I’m out and about with them and my beloved DGSs, my heart breaks to see and know what she’d missed out on.
My Dad, who was 14 years her senior, picked himself up after she died and embraced the rest of his life - doing things he wanted to do, but couldn’t as he was her main carer.
He took a great interest in my DDs, and died in 2008, in his 96th year.

I miss and remember both with great love. The circle of life.

Still miss both of them. Mum went in 2007 and Dad in 2016. I think of them most days and am still influenced by the guidance that they gave me" always tell the truth"; after a disappointment (from my Dad) "polish your shoes and go to work ; "never pick on anyone weaker than you are".........I'm not saying I've invariably kept to their high standards but I've always known that it was good advice.
For me , they are living proof of the saying" what remains of us is love".

Mum and I lived with my Grandmother who basically was the one who brought me up. She died 40 years ago when I was 35 and I think about her all the time. She was lovely to me and her face beamed when I visited her. I loved her very much. The years I lived with her gave me a safe, cared for childhood and I was a happy soul - then. I'm happy to say I am a lot like her in many ways.

I loved my mother, who died in 2008, but our relationship was difficult. I have a lot to thank her for though and I do miss her but not in the same way. I feel compassion [her life wasn't easy] and regret that I didn't bond with her better.

Both are in my heart.

No . They lived their lives, Father died at 69
Mother at 81
My father never wanted to be dependent.
My Mother had dementia, it was a struggle.

I really miss my Dad, he died in 2005 aged 76, no age really, he was a kind, wise man. My Mum, died 2019 aged 89, not so much, she had dementia for ten cruel years and lost herself after Dad died,

I can always picture my mum doing her gardening, with her cat sitting next to her, and her smile when I went through the gate.

My mum died in 1995, at the age of 72, when I was 36. I miss her still.

Dad died beginning of 2000, aged 81. I miss him but nowhere near as much as my mum.

Just the very thought of my lovely Mum and a smile appears on my face. Wistful but present. She was the most loving, unselfish and hard working person I've ever encountered. Not perfect but wonderful......

My mum also died in January ( New Year’s Eve ) at 00.01 totally unexpected and yes I’m still grieving

Yes much missed, my dad died over 30 years ago and missed his GC’s wedding and GGC. My mum lived until 2012 and saw all the GGC arrive. I have thought I didn’t do enough for mum but the discovery of some diaries shows I was visiting her and speaking on the phone a lot, combined with GC care. No wonder my 50s and 60s passed in a flash.

Yes, they are missed and in my prayers.

Yes most days they both died when I was in my early 30s but even now they are often in my dreams which I find comforting

Yes miss my parents every day - I consider myself very fortunate to miss them , it confirms my opinion that they were the best! How lucky was I!?

I still miss my dad. He was strict but had a great sense of humour. He had a difficult life when he was young which, after his death, turned out to be a very interesting one. My mum had mental health problems as she aged and was quite difficult but my Nana was quite strict with her. I've no brothers or sisters but I've managed very well on my own especially in my younger days so I can't grumble.

Not intensely, as such. They both died 23 years ago, aged 85 and 92, six months apart, and though very much loved and loving, they were worn out and ready to go. I felt relief for them in a way. I just wish I had been less busy with work and family and had been able to do more for them.
I have many happy memories.

All I remember of my childhood is constant arguments, bickering, days & weeks of silences where they didn't speak to each other except via us. Grinding poverty, an angry, bitter and resentful mother and a house too small, old and dilapidated to accommodate the sheer number of us. The only thing I learnt from it was don't have more children than you can afford and don't involve your children in "taking sides". I've held my childhood as an excellent example of what NOT to do.

No! Mine died in late 1990s /early 2000s. They never took much interest in me as a child - it was all about my sister who was good enough to give them grandchidren. So I allowed her to do all the ruinning around after them withut a shred of guilt. It may only be about 45 miles from Manchester to Liverpool but out of sight is out of mind.

Its my grandmother I still miss.

Thank you Gnw

I miss my mum very much, my dad not so much, probably because he died so many years ago, and he was mostly always at work.

I have lots of guilt regarding the last part of my mums life, too, which doesn't help.

Kate1949

I can't imagine in my wildest dreams what a happy childhood with loving parents was like. Some of you were very lucky.

I’m so sorry to read that Kate1949. I hope you went on to have a happy and fulfilling life since then 💐

BlueBelle

I miss my parents and maternal grandparents more and more
I m tearing up now just thinking of them and I beat myself up about all I did wrong (nothing much really but all the why didn’t I do it that way or why did I say that? Etc)
My grandad died when I was 16 I adored him my Nan when Iwas nearly 40 we had such a strong bond
Mum and Dad died the same year 2012, 6 months apart it was a horrible year
I m an only child and they were my family, all gone.

I’m like you BlueBelle. I miss both my parents a lot. My dad died in 2016 after a short illness (about a month) and he was ten days short of his 90th birthday. I missed him a lot, and still today I think of things I wish I had asked him. My mum died in 2022 aged 94, and I did lots for her after dad died, including bringing her to live in a sheltered apartment near to us. She was definitely not a perfect mum, in fact she did a lot of things wrong, but I loved her nonetheless and I believe she loved me. Like you BlueBelle I often think about the things that I didn’t do, instead of focusing on the things I did do. I miss them both so much, and I feel that I’m still grieving very strongly now. I often wish I could just go to see them again.

Yes very much so I think about both every day. Sometimes if certain situations come up I think oh what would you do in this situation dad. Nursed my mum n dad for years miss them dearly, I hope they are proud of me

My ‘missing’ of my parents is now not the intense grief it was when they first died, both around thirty years ago, but I often miss my father’s wisdom and humour, and that feeling of just ‘being’ with my mother. There was also that feeling of safety I got when going to my parents’ house, which was great when I was a young mother of three, though not so much after my mother died.
I would love to have been able to hear what they thought of our children as adults, and I often think they would have been pleased at how their grandchildren are being raised ( although big pots of soup not being always available would have been a problem for my father! )
I was delighted the other day to hear my grandson talk about ‘the lazy man’s burden’, and telling me it was what his dad’s grandpa used to say to him when he was trying to carry too much to avoid a second trip!

I'm ninety-three and still miss my parents in a way. I regret missed opportunities to relate to them. I often think about what my mother or my father would have said.

I never met my grandparents . But I think about all my ancestors for generations back in time.