Does anyone still miss their parents?

HeavenLeigh
I think this must happen a lot, my mum in her last years talked a lot about her mum and dad and her brother and sister that had passed. She often looked very sad and wistful when talking about them.
She used to say she wanted to be young again and part of a family, she hated living alone and was very lonely. There’s nothing to get old for is there

Yes very much so miss both mum n dad. I’ve always missed them mum died in 03 dad in 2015. I don’t know why but I find myself thinking about them more as I get older

kwest

Oh yes , more than I can say. they both died in their mid-50s within a year of each other. Both sudden and unexpected. I have children coming up to the age of my parents' death now. I was lucky to have wonderful parents and I am lucky to have an amazing husband and children and grandchildren but in a quiet private moment I sometimes still shed a tear for my parents.

Yes, my father was only just 60 and now I am 72. I think how much of his life he missed and how long my mother lived alone: 30 years.

My darling Mum died 7 1/2 years ago, I think about her every day, it gets easier, but my heart still aches.

I think about my Dad and I do miss him, but in a different sort of way…

My mum used to do that with her mobile phone.
Turn it on, make a call, then turn it off again, so you couldn't reach her, and ended up having to go round and check she was OK.

My dad had "earing" aids, kept the damned things switched off "to save the batteries"

Earing aids. 🤭

I'd love to have a good old chat with my mum again.
We lost that, due to the fact that she wouldn't even consider earing aids, so it was barely worth talking together like we used to.

La crepescule

I’m also 67 and lost my mum in June this year aged 92. Dad passed in 2010 aged 80.
I’m also finding it a lot more difficult than I thought. My mum had been deteriorating ever since she broke her hip five years ago.
The last year was terrible for her she had to go into care from hospital. Poor mum never really settled, but was strong willed she was having treatment for macular degeneration right up to the end. The only consolation I have is that it’s what she wanted she often said I wish I could die I’m so fed up, she wouldn’t accept any help in the home saw to her own personal hygiene.
She is a massive inspiration to me. Every day I think, now what would mum have done. I gain strength from that every day.

So sorry to read of people struggling. Some days are better than others.

Oh Kamj I’m so sorry. When things go against the natural order of things, life can be very cruel.

Fleurpepper I had my daughter late at 42, she’s 24 now. I do worry that she’ll lose me when she’s still young and that makes me so sad. But hopefully she’ll have her own family (she’s with a lovely young man) and when the time’s right, she can’t wait to be a mum.

To answer the question in the OP: Every day.

Yes I do miss them both. Dad died age 70, 24 years ago, Mum 4 years ago, aged 84. After Dad died, Mum was encouraged by us, my siblings and me, to write her life story on her computer to fill the empty days after Dad’s death. She went on to publish her memoirs and we all have a copy. There is a book in everyone, even if it’s handwritten, to pass on for future generations. To hear my Mum’s voice, I just need to pick up the book. Why not have a go and leave your history for the future.

I was 14 when dad died suddenly and 16 when mum died. I still miss them 60+ years later. I then lived with mum’s sister until I married at 21, a mere 54 years ago.

It's over 40 years since my father died and nearly 30 since my mother died, but things still happen that I wish they could have seen. For instance my mother was a big Richard III fan and she would have been so thrilled about the discovery of his body, And, of course, it's such a shame they never saw their great grandsons.

I miss my parents more and more, the longer they've left me the more they've missed of my life.... But I miss my granddaughter so much more

My Mum died aged 92. Of course I miss her. I adored my father. We were very close. He'd suffered from terrible experiences in WW2. He had a mild heart attack when I was 18. I went to visit him in hospital the next day. He was sitting up his bed, in a small Men's ward, with 3 other men in there. When I arrived, Dad was looking well and was cheerful. He looked really pleased to see me, and said in a loud voice (so his room mates could hear him) "Here's my lovely daughter! I'm very proud of her."

Being a typical teenager, I was squirming when he said that, and because the other men were staring at me, I said "Shut up Dad! You're embarrassing me." I briefly kissed him and didn't stay long, believing he would be home very soon. (I had to rush back to work.) Everyone thought he was recovering well from the mild heart attack, but he had another more severe heart attack, and died the next day.
I didn't have the chance to tell him how much I loved him, and I had no chance to say goodbye. It took me many, many years to get over his death (if I ever have), and I find the tears beginning to flow as I type this. He didn't live to give me away at my wedding 5 years later, or see his grandchildren. I suppose I must be grateful for the 18 happy years that I did have with him.

TerriT

Sadly my parents were never up to the job but of late I’ve thought about them and the dysfunction family life we had. It was seriously dysfunctional but I blanked so much out and just got on with life. But as my life is now running out of time I look back and feel sad on so many things. When I speak to people who grew up in loveing and kind homes I realise that is what matters and is the foundations for our future lives. I can’t imagine what that must be like. I’ve lived accepting things I should never have accepted but it’s a legacy of my home life as a child.

So sad. But I understand where you are coming from. I read these posts here and also feel sad that I find it hard to dredge up happy memories. We had relative material security, holidays etc and parents saw to our basic needs .... but the love was missing, or at least any obvious manifestation of it. They were too tied up in their subtle marital battle. So I do not really miss them .... wish I did.

Sadly my parents were never up to the job but of late I’ve thought about them and the dysfunction family life we had. It was seriously dysfunctional but I blanked so much out and just got on with life. But as my life is now running out of time I look back and feel sad on so many things. When I speak to people who grew up in loveing and kind homes I realise that is what matters and is the foundations for our future lives. I can’t imagine what that must be like. I’ve lived accepting things I should never have accepted but it’s a legacy of my home life as a child.

I have been thinking about my parents over the past few days as I have been collecting for the Poppy Appeal. My father was a Lancaster bomber pilot in 1944 and an interpreter at the Nuremberg trials, he never spoke about those times. My Mum had fled Nazi Germany to England to marry my Father in 1938, and again she never spoke about the war.
I miss them

Mum and dad died just over a year of each other, 7-8 years ago. It still hurts terribly...

Oh that's so sad.
Very hard to accept, I'd think.

My mum died 1964 - by suicide and we never knew why.
Never stopped missing her and wonder if she knew she would have become a grandma of 2 boys (my brother’s) and my daughter.

Of course I do. I was so lucky to have amazing parents- both very different. My mother was the main bread winner and the decision maker, and brought us up to be confident and independent. I shall always be grateful for this.

They died aged 94 and 96, so their parting was in the right order of things. Very very different for those who lost parents far too early. I am so sorry for anyone who did not have the chance to have parents long into adulthood.

A pity I feel that young people are having children later and alter, as it means they will not have grand-parents in their lives, or not for long, and probably not fit enough to join in holidays and all sorts of fun actitivities.