Wedding photos

Well, only if they're judgemental and therefore their opinion is not worth consideration.

Did you read my earlier post about my hat?
I can laugh now but thought at the time I must have been looking ancient.

ViceVersa, just because you are judgemental when you look at photos, it doesn't mean everyone is. I certainly don't think that when I look at whole family wedding photos. The only person I look at like that is myself! However, if I have a photo of me and I can flip it on the computer, hey presto, I don't look as bad!

I have repeatedly said on this thread that I know it is all about the bride and groom and no-one else, but that doesn't mean the OP's feelings on having her photo taken are valid. That's all I meant.
And don't tell me that some people don't look at wedding photos (I mean ones of the entire wedding party/family) and think 'god, what a state she looks/what on earth is she wearing etc.

Well, I'm sorry, ViceVersa but it is not dismissive to point out that the mother of the groom is not the most important person at the wedding and, by making her feelings felt about photographs the OP is upsetting her future DIL and possibly future family relationships.

No-one will really be looking at the mother of the groom anyway.

I hate to see photos of myself but that's the face we present to the world every day.
Oh, would some Power the gift give us
To see ourselves as others see us!

Diplomat

Having a photo taken is painless. You don't have to look at them afterwards if it's a problem for you.

Again with the dismissive remarks...

Having a photo taken is painless. You don't have to look at them afterwards if it's a problem for you.

I always hate my photos but never in my wildest dreams would I insist I wasn't in my children's wedding photos. One day I won't be around and I would hate them to look at their wedding day pictures and remember I couldn't do this one little thing for them.
I used to avoid photos but I read an article where a woman had terminal cancer and she'd spent her life avoiding being photographed in family situations. Knowing she was dying and there was no way she could go back and be in the photos made her really sad. I decided to stop being so anal about being photographed.

My mum hated having her pkhoto taken as did my best friend from university, but both were in my wedding photos and my friend was in her daughter's photos as she sent me copies! I have a numer of photos of her running away, from our youth and very few of my mum.

The photos of me at my son's wedding are pretty grim to be honest...
My mother-in-law liked them but then her eyesight isn't terrific!
Nobody except her has any on the wall though so that's fine!

The ones taken by a different photographer at her 100th birthday are quite a lot better than the wedding ones.

My mother had only one photo of her brother at her wedding and he was obscured as he was "hiding at the back". She always felt sad about it as he died soon after.

Do find a way to be there please Lizzie

And maybe a relaxing glass of champagne first?

I hate having my photo taken too, but I was only in a couple at my son's wedding and tried to look happy!
Why don't you get somebody to help you to put on some natural looking make up? It does make a big difference in a photo if you do this, particularly a little mascara and lipstick in a fairly natural colour.

I share your loathing of having my photo taken.

However I now think that in 100 years from now, nobody will care, maybe 50 years from now.

Photos today have lost all impact. Most young adults have thousands of photos of themselves . But nobody will really care in years to come.

My Ds3 got married last year and like you I hate having my photo taken, but I wouldn’t have missed his wedding for anything. I was in a few photos, but they weren’t as bad as I was expecting. Go and enjoy celebrating the next stage of your sons life.

ViceVersa is right.
Please don't be dismissive of genuine worries.

Then they need counselling or hypnotism or some kind of treatment if it’s bordering on phobias viceversa
I do understand I have hot spots myself I bet we all do

I do read others posts

I get that, and if you'd read my earlier comments in the thread, you'd see that's exactly what I did at both my son's and daughter's weddings. I just feel some people have been very dismissive of what can be a real concern (even verging on phobia) for some people.

Viceversa you just have to suck it up and put the daughter or son first that’s not being unkind it’s being honest and sometimes a bit of truth is what is needed even if it’s not comfortable to hear
There are lots of things we all hate doing but you pull your big girl knickers up and do it anyway …we all have hot spots and they get hotter and more uncomfortable the older you get 😳

Suck it up. They deserve having family at their wedding, and they deserve a record of it.

I think I was so happy my DS had found a lovely girl that I didn't think about me.
I felt happy, too, when someone told me I looked lovely, what a smart outfit. 🙂
Then she spoilt it by saying "You look just like the Queen Mother in that hat." 😯 The Queen Mother was over 100 at that time.

I think everyone has acknowledged the fact that we know it's all about the bride and groom, but for those of us who absolutely loathe having our photo taken, that doesn't make the process any less uncomfortable. Believe it or not, we honestly don't want to spoil anyone's day. Telling people just to get over it really isn't helpful.

Think about your son and not yourself. Believe it or not the wedding is NOT all about you!

How sad

Perhaps you don’t like photographs because you see yourself as others see you Such a shame don’t let it spoil their day and incidentally yours

My late mother hated her photo taken but agreed to be on some of my wedding photos, so glad she did they are the only photos we have of her she died not long afterwards.

Going to sound horrible but this is selfish it’s not your day compromise, just be in a couple of photos I would hate this if I was your daughter in law
One of my daughters hates having her photo taken with or without me and always says don’t show anyone so to all intents and purposes it feels as if I prefer my other children as I have loads of photos of me with them
I have my privacy settings tight on all social media only close friends and family but they must think I m not in the least bit proud of this daughter
The daft part is she is actually very beautiful and always looks lovely so disappointing for me I want to show her off as much as I do the others