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Holidays. Are they important to you ?

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Washerwoman Mon 10-Mar-25 15:03:06

Just musing because when I was younger I loved planning,booking holidays and we were fortunate to have some lovely ones with our DCs.Now in my 60s I'm increasingly less bothered which seems to be the opposite of all our friends .Part of the problem is financially we're not too bad, but definitely not in the same league.It's really not jealousy. I genuinely like my home,garden and pets.And if we do go away like places like Northumberland and Norfolk.Yes the weathr can rubbish but generally we've been really lucky.Whereas now we've flown somewhere that's usually warmer than home and it's been anything but !Added to that even if flights go on time -which we've experienced long delays in the past -I increasingly dislike all the faff of airports.
It's just got me thinking because we've been chatting to various couples here who have been away from home for weeks.DH has severe arthritis and it would probably benefit him but tbh I think I'd go stir crazy.I'd miss the DGC who we help with.I would miss my volunteering and even gardening in the winter.I guess we're all different. I can just see increasingly DH and I wanting different things from a holiday.I know I will have to compromise but in this instance I'm just looking forward to being home !

love0c Tue 11-Mar-25 18:04:01

Love holidays and always have. Holiday mostly just the two of us but lucky to still enjoy family ones as well. All my children love holidays with their children. They tell me they always enjoyed their childhood holidays.

valdavi Tue 11-Mar-25 18:24:38

Yes me too, in my 60's I love to travel & go different places. I've never been out of europe & probably never will, but there are so many different places to explore. Don't really like re-visiting the same place.
DH isn't keen & that's why we never did long-haul. also we had a boat moored on the S Coast that we had brilliant times on when the children were young & teens, but that was our "holiday" money. After 12 years I just wanted to go somewhere different & boating wasn't the same without the boys.

kittylester Tue 11-Mar-25 18:54:56

When the children were young we drove all over Europe with them with occasional bucket and spade holidays in Devon.

Now, 4-5 days are sufficient and in this country. As others have said - we love our home and the things we have going on here.

Whitewavemark2 Tue 11-Mar-25 19:10:56

I do enjoy holidays, and this year it will hopefully be a river cruise inFrance and Switzerland. We have spent time in the U.K. during the years since covid, largely because our now deceased dog was elderly and needed our presence.

We almost certainly will spend more time on holiday this year - haven’t made our minds up yet.

Saying all that I do enjoy our day to day life at home with its interests and hobbies etc. so holidays in the U.K. are very enjoyable.

Willow73 Tue 11-Mar-25 19:19:37

Omg! You sound just like me!
I hate the hassle of airports and resent spending time in queues, just to get some sunshine which can now be far too hot for me. I don’t enjoy sitting on a beach or round a pool for two weeks with loads of children and loud speakers and a week doesn’t seem worth the journeys.
Give me my comfortable home, lovely garden and my dog to walk any day!

Rula Tue 11-Mar-25 19:22:10

I'd live to go on holiday but at present we have a rather old dog and I'd not want to leave her. She comes with us on holiday in the uk but abroad is out of the question at the moment.

Whitewavemark2 Tue 11-Mar-25 19:33:02

When the children were small, holidays were always bucket and spade - usually in Cornwall or camping by Cumbrian lakes (think swallows and amazons😊).Later it was cycling holidays in France. We have never chosen beach holidays in the heat.

Jane43 Tue 11-Mar-25 19:35:16

We used to love going on holiday especially when we started planning road trips in the USA and Canada. The last time we had a holiday was in 2016, the high cost of travel insurance now we have turned 80 and the fact that our dog now suffers from anxiety means we have decided to put a stop to holidays of any length, we now settle for a few days away when out son can come and look after our dog.

keepingquiet Tue 11-Mar-25 19:45:04

I haven't been overseas since Covid. I really don't want to fly anymore but will have to if I need to as I have relatives who live abroad.

When I first retired I fancied a European train journey by myself but when I thought about the reality of having to take a backpack I went off the idea.

Holidays at home though are great fun, mostly with friends for short breaks.

I am planning a proper family holiday on the coast for my 70th, because going abroad is beyond my budget now anyway.

I have many very happy memories of travelling to different places though, so sometimes I just remember those and don't worry too much about doing all that faffing at airports again.

Plus I hate packing!

Mojack26 Tue 11-Mar-25 19:59:21

I have been all over the world Hawaii,all over US lived in US Mexico,Egypt,Australia,Canada
and all over Europe I'm not so bothered anymore as I've been lucky. Prefer home now,apart from the weather, lots I want to see her .

twiglet77 Tue 11-Mar-25 19:59:31

No, I’d rather never have to sleep away from home ever again. I am now committed to a week in Rhodes for my daughter’s wedding, after huge angst over leaving the dogs and massive anxiety about the travelling, the hotel, the crowds and noise, the wedding… and now I’m fretting about the food in Greece - I have cut out most meat as it caused gallstone problems, and more recently I’m on a steep learning curve to manage IBS. I’ve been able to relax some of the restrictions on a low FODMAP diet, others will stay off-limits as the bathroom urgency is so hard to cope with. I don’t trust hotel kitchens with eg salads and will try to stick to food I can peel, I foresee a week of oranges and bananas. What about signage, when the alphabet isn’t familiar? Google Translate?

I know that this trip will be the very last holiday I will ever agree to, there’s no place like home.

Juicylucy Tue 11-Mar-25 20:03:11

I love my holidays abroad it was always my plan to travel more once I retired. I go twice a year to some where warm and sunny with 2 girlfriends who love it to. We choose a different destination each year.

SuperTinny Tue 11-Mar-25 21:56:25

I like going on holiday but DH hates the airport faff so much that even if he agrees to go I end up stressing because he is so miserable!
He's OK once we are there though!
I think this might be my last time abroad with him. Will have to find a friend to go with in future. DH quite happy for me to do that but I don't yet know anyone whose DH is happy for them to....!

Grammaretto Tue 11-Mar-25 22:38:24

I do like holidays but there never seems to be much time!

Last year I had 3 holidays, unusually. I spent a month with DS1 and his family in NZ. Then in June I went to Denmark to stay with DB.
Finally in August I managed a week on the Isle of Skye at the Gaelic college for a short course.

This year I am moving house so probably won't go away. That's quite enough excitement. Although this Friday I am going to a pottery weekend on the Isle of Cumbrae.

I would have gone South at New year but had a hip replacement instead.

As you get older, priorities change.
When DH was alive, we travelled quite a lot in this country and others.
I must say half the joy has gone now so I prefer to stay with people I know or with family.

I enjoy having visitors too and 3 people are provisionally booked in. 😃

sazz1 Tue 11-Mar-25 22:44:59

I was lucky enough to get a part time job to a disabled couple who went on cruises several times a year. I've travelled all over the world with them and was keen to try a cruise with DH who was not at all keen. I booked it and told him afterwards. Well, he loved it so much we've been on several ssince He's always hated airports. You just drive and park at Southampton, after the staff take your luggage from the car, and put it in your room, bars, pool, jacuzzi, snack bar all open straight away. Lots of comfy seats where you can be alone if you wish. We used P&O and Royal Caribbean.
One one cruise I was chatting to an older lady who had been paired up with another lady to share a room and they had become firm friends. Not sure if it was through the cruise liner or a different organisation but a good idea for anyone not wanting to be alone on their first solo holiday. HTH someone contemplating a first solo holiday

NotSpaghetti Tue 11-Mar-25 23:02:03

we prefer pottering around holidays, visiting places of interest, finding places thers do not go,

We are the same M0nica but ideally like to see the places people do go to ad well (eg. Herculaneum, Matera, Paestum) but off-season.

I wouldn't book anywhere that "will do" in terms of accommodation and would prefer to go less often if I can't afford what feels like luxury.
It doesn't have to be big or glamorous but it does have to be beautiful whether it's a villa or s hotel.

When the children were growing up nearly all our holidays were camping.
I love the (different) freedom of not having to bother with tents - though not a lot beats staying in one - if you can get up and down easily!

We generally have had 3 or 4 weeks away at a run - from the end of August ideally... but haven't gone on an actual "holiday" recently as we've had other expenses.
🙁

I do love the whole thing about choosing, comparing, planning the journey and the accommodation and then exploring once we arrive.
I have never been on a package type trip because I want flexibility.
I miss not having a holiday. I do look at places to stay at least once a week!

Nannylovesshopping Wed 12-Mar-25 08:29:37

I love my holidays, in Portugal, always with at least one family member, often with six of us, bliss 😀

Etoile2701 Wed 12-Mar-25 09:49:40

I am wondering how much insurance would cost for my husband who is nearly 81 with COPD for a short trip to France this summer. I have tried to find out online but I couldn't get the websites to work.

TerriBull Wed 12-Mar-25 11:02:05

Yes they are important, but having said that I think most of my long haul travelling days are behind me. I count myself lucky to have been to some of the world's wonderful places, particularly much of the Americas, from Canada to Argentina and many of the countries in between, including of course the US. My husband would still like to go to NZ, but neither of us can really face such a long haul. I remember how I felt when I first went to Australia, it wiped me out for ages and I was young then. Anyway, I've just booked a lovely looking place in Devon for late June, more or less overlooking the beach looking towards Burgh Island. Of late, it certainly wasn't a thing when I was younger, I now love going away in England and occasionally Wales. Maybe we will get to France or Italy later in the year, ideally I'd go everywhere by train if I could avoid flying, something else I've come to hate along with extreme heat.

TheWeirdoAgain1 Wed 12-Mar-25 12:30:37

Holidays are vitally important to me. I have an entire week off from work in April which coincides with my 60th birthday on the 29th so I'll drive off to a hotel in Whitby then for a meal in a Fine Dine Indian Restaurant where they serve gorgeous food and cold beer!

As much as I love my job as a carer in a home for adults with disabilities I HAVE to have a few days off at times!

I have a passport but have never been abroad, I just use it as ID. I've read about lone women travelers abroad and the dangers they can face so I stay here in the UK!

pascal30 Wed 12-Mar-25 14:12:49

TheWeirdoAgain1

Holidays are vitally important to me. I have an entire week off from work in April which coincides with my 60th birthday on the 29th so I'll drive off to a hotel in Whitby then for a meal in a Fine Dine Indian Restaurant where they serve gorgeous food and cold beer!

As much as I love my job as a carer in a home for adults with disabilities I HAVE to have a few days off at times!

I have a passport but have never been abroad, I just use it as ID. I've read about lone women travelers abroad and the dangers they can face so I stay here in the UK!

I think you would find most countries perfectly safe.. I have done loads of solo travelling and never felt unsafe.. even in South Africa where I worked for a year.. Try it..

OldFrill Wed 12-Mar-25 16:01:58

Etoile2701

I am wondering how much insurance would cost for my husband who is nearly 81 with COPD for a short trip to France this summer. I have tried to find out online but I couldn't get the websites to work.

Hi Etoile, given your husband's age and health conditions you'll need to ring insurance companies for a quote. If you are driving and use the tunnel you can get insurance up to age 85 and with pre-existing conditions without health questions.

Ilovedogs22 Wed 12-Mar-25 17:33:42

My husband & I, (sorry I sound like the Queen!)
Used to love exploring on little jaunt's, particularly around the UK.
However, the roads are so mad & dangerous nowadays that we don't bother much anymore.
It's sad really & I feel quiet angry about it too as my world is getting smaller and less enjoyable. 🤔

Hellogirl1 Wed 12-Mar-25 17:45:38

We only ever holidayed once a year, 2 weeks in the UK in our touring caravan, but I always looked forward to going away.
Now I`m on my own and not very mobile anymore, holidays have gone up the spout. I do miss them, but also know I wouldn`t enjoy not being able to get about very well, plus I don`t drive.

Steelygran Wed 12-Mar-25 17:59:46

I used to go for different locations abroad and new experiences when booking holidays, but I also knew people who thought the most important thing was to completely relax on holiday. They'd just drive to the nearest beach or camping site and chill: have barbecues, read, fish and sleep!
It's harder now we're older and there's also the point that holidays are more expensive.
I'd say holidays are just as important now, but we only do a short city break abroad for a "new experience" and take comfort in a longer break in the UK, in a familiar place, where we don't waste time getting lost and where we already know the things we like to do and see.