Advice Please

I've have always found Women's Aid very effective with both advice and action when working as a Social Worker in different places on both sides of the border. www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/

Hi Anne, I've just read your post. So sorry for the awful situation that you have unfortunately found yourself in, through no fault of your own.
Some very good advice given by the other Grans though, use it to help yourself get out of this mess; that's absolutely not of your making!
Best of wishes & I hope this nightmare soon resolves.
Sending all my good wishes to you.💗🤗😔

I am tempted to give advise but am aware of your vulnerability, this abuser is clearly trying to frighten you and it is working - not surprising really! I would be scared too. Keepingquiet is correct it is not your job to help the victim. You will be given lots of support here from people who are far more familiar than me with a situation like this . Getting the police involved sounds like the correct course of action
but .............?
Please please keep safe. I wish you well 💐💐

One of my DCs went through something similar with an ex but not nearly so awful.

Use your phone to record anything you can hear from next door that might help to build a picture of what is really going on. If you can film anything covertly then do but don't take any risks. As keepingquiet says "record and note all incidents".

A police officer told us that offenders often play victim so maybe, they would be willing to believe you if you and your neighbours present them with as much evidence as you can gather.

Also don’t put yourself in any danger.

Exactly what keepingquiet says.

I am familiar with this situation but thankfully not this extreme. It is called triangulation, where a well meaning person (could be a family member or anyone convenient really) is dragged into a situation in which they will be manipulated by both parties into doing things that feel wrong, or unclear.
This blatant lying to police is also something I have to deal with, although now it is lying to a court.
I am really sorry that this is now impacting on your life. It is not your job to help the victim, difficult though it may be for them to break free.
Do you have other neighbours you could talk to? If a picture can be built up by more than one person then social services will take notice.
I would record and note all incidents to build up a picture and as others have said, maybe seek help from the experts.
It must be such a worry for you but distancing yourself from the situation (could you move in to a different bedroom, for example, or go to stay with someone even for a few days?) whilst still protecting yourself is really important here.

And speak again to the police. They should have a domestic abuse unit.

The national domestic abuse helpline 0808 2000 247 they will advise.