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Ramblers and toilet breaks

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Dottygran59 Thu 12-Jun-25 08:12:10

Hi wise Grans. Recently retired and joined the ramblers. DH reluctantly joined with me lol. I’m a bit disappointed that most of the walks seem to be in the evenings but perhaps I haven’t figured out how to search for them yet. Here is my dilemma: the walks seem to be 4 miles and 2 hours, my mature bladder won’t let me walk for so long without at least one wee. How do other grans manage?

Wyllow3 Thu 12-Jun-25 21:30:22

I need to wee more often than that if walking and cant walk that far anyway. So I plan stuff ie go where there are "opportunities" if necessary for 20 min to half hour "breaks".

I live near some gorgeous country side where it's the kind of areas with said opportunities quite easily.

Just not to go on an open moor walk with no trees or bushes.......

Another trick I learnt for Desperate Measures while driving on fast A roads: find a lay-by with some cover, pull in, open both car doors, thats cover in between the doors and the cars drive by so fast they aren't looking.

But after reading about satellites and drones am inclined to adopt the large jumper tied round waist approach....

kjmpde Thu 12-Jun-25 21:34:00

I used to be a member of a ramblers group many years ago. I found it "interesting" to find that a group of ladies would urinate near to each other whilst walking. I'm the private type so did not enjoy doing that. It was way before other methods were available .

JaneJudge Thu 12-Jun-25 21:35:05

People use continence pads too

Skydancer Thu 12-Jun-25 21:43:25

Homestead62

Toilet provision in this country is terrible.

Yes it IS but I’ve heard it’s far worse in Europe. This is partly what puts me off going overseas.

lovingit Thu 12-Jun-25 21:55:19

I remember a rambler looking horrified when I said we didn't have a toilet but that she was welcome to pee in my freshly mucked out stable. you would think I had suggested running naked through the streets.

Shortbreadandkilts Thu 12-Jun-25 22:14:58

This issue has put me off joining the Ramblers.

mumofmadboys Thu 12-Jun-25 23:31:34

Well that is a shame as walking in the countryside in a group can be so pleasurable. Also good for your health .

Luckygirl3 Fri 13-Jun-25 07:34:04

I once popped into a ditch at the side of a road .... all was fine till a coach went by and, as it was highr than the cars, the passengers had a great view of my efforts! They waved ....

silverlining48 Fri 13-Jun-25 11:47:00

We have walked about 4 miles a week for 25 years plus, and apart from once or twice when men with prostate trouble have gone behind a tree I don’t think any woman has had to do this.
They ‘go’ at the start and presumably repeat at the end.

I have a friend who has to go multiple times during our time together and I read that by constantly ‘going’ it can result in the bladder becoming sensitive and weakening . The advice was to hold for as long as possible rather than go, ‘just in case’. My friend tried it and it worked.

Bea65 Fri 13-Jun-25 14:10:10

‘Wild Weeing’ can be a public disorder offence.. if it alarms/offends a member of the public.. know a lady who walks 2 dogs and was cautioned when she was reported and filmed .. beware..
If we see a male exposing himself by taking a ‘leak’ he can be fined and put on Paedophile Register ..

Colls Fri 13-Jun-25 14:19:25

Bea65

‘Wild Weeing’ can be a public disorder offence.. if it alarms/offends a member of the public.. know a lady who walks 2 dogs and was cautioned when she was reported and filmed .. beware..
If we see a male exposing himself by taking a ‘leak’ he can be fined and put on Paedophile Register ..

Just how ridiculous is this, if correct. Words fail me!

Mojack26 Fri 13-Jun-25 14:19:53

Yuk!

Adele21 Fri 13-Jun-25 14:25:28

I walk regularly with a group and we all just hang back when necessary and use nature’s facilities - never think twice about tbh

Cambia Fri 13-Jun-25 14:32:48

I always duck behind a hedge. Once on the moors though there was very little coverage and I squatted behind a tiny gorse bush as there was nobody in sight, only for a whole group of hang gliders to fly right over my head!! I had started so I finished and just hoped I didn’t bump into them later!!
Seriously though we have done a few long distance walks and there is no choice but to find a hedge etc. I think you would have to be very unlucky to be fined.

Catless Fri 13-Jun-25 14:33:53

I often wonder how Julia Bradbury and other such presenters manage when they are recording their walking programmes.

Bea65 Fri 13-Jun-25 14:41:06

Colls

Bea65

‘Wild Weeing’ can be a public disorder offence.. if it alarms/offends a member of the public.. know a lady who walks 2 dogs and was cautioned when she was reported and filmed .. beware..
If we see a male exposing himself by taking a ‘leak’ he can be fined and put on Paedophile Register ..

Just how ridiculous is this, if correct. Words fail me!

Hmm not ridiculous..worked in police service 18 years 🙈

Helenleeds Fri 13-Jun-25 14:49:36

I’ve bobbed in all the best places whilst rambling in the Lakes, Dales & other lovely walking areas. Last year in Canada, found a secluded place to bob. Mid-wee, I noticed a sign warning of bears - I made a hasty retreat!

4allweknow Fri 13-Jun-25 14:55:07

Wyllow3, where no-one goes, well you go there, what makes you think know one else does!

Silverbrooks Fri 13-Jun-25 15:19:58

Public urination is not specifically mentioned in central legislation but can be prosected under Section 5 of the Public Order Act as disorderly behaviour:

(1) A person is guilty of an offence if he—

(a) uses threatening abusive words or behaviour, or disorderly behaviour ...

within the hearing or sight of a person likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress thereby.
...

(3) It is a defence for the accused to prove—

that he had no reason to believe that there was any person within hearing or sight who was likely to be caused harassment, alarm or distress.

That’s the difference between peeing in the street and peeing in the countryside.

Without evidence about the specific context in cases where people have been fined, it’s just meaningless noise. Sometimes people are prosecuted under local bye laws but again context is all.

I would hate for all this silliness over fines to deter people from enjoying the countryside. So long as one is discreet, careful of who else is around, it really isn’t an issue.

jocork Fri 13-Jun-25 15:30:03

I was once put down for a day of geocaching during a school activity week. The route was going to an area with no public loos for the whole school day! I said I was not able to do that - Normally I'd go in a hedge, but not out on a school trip with teenagers! In the end they swapped me with someone in a different group going through a different area. I had to go in a cafe and buy a coffee in order to use a loo, but obviously drinking said coffee was just reloading! Fortunately the route took us through an area I knew so I was able to find more loos later - and tell everyone else where they were!

One of the teenage boys needed to go and simply went against a wall in full view of us all. The group leader phoned the schoool and arranged for him to be collected and taken back to school for inappropriate behaviour!

DamaskRose Fri 13-Jun-25 15:48:03

I needed to “go” in one of the most remote areas in the Highlands of Scotland, not a car or another person in sight, only sheep and DH. Suddenly a lady walked right past me, luckily we both saw the funny side (no pun intended).

Wishes Fri 13-Jun-25 16:12:43

I was once told by a woman who uses a Shewee, the trick is not to gush but control. She found out the hard way!

Silverbrooks Fri 13-Jun-25 16:22:39

DamaskRose

I needed to “go” in one of the most remote areas in the Highlands of Scotland, not a car or another person in sight, only sheep and DH. Suddenly a lady walked right past me, luckily we both saw the funny side (no pun intended).

Of course, there is an argument to go little and often rather than wait for the need for a very long pee only to be surprised by a very brisk walker who suddenly appears. It can happen where you decide to stay on the path rather than step off and expose skin to vegetation that might contain stingers or tics.

Depends on what gear one is wearing and the easy of taking down (and getting back up) what’s necessary in terms of layers.

Pinkrinse Fri 13-Jun-25 17:48:32

I belong to the Ramblers and the norm is to duck behind a bush. We’re all of the age and do 10 mile walks, so always find a descreet bush. That’s what proper walkers do. 😂😂

PilgrimQuill Fri 13-Jun-25 18:11:05

What we need, ladies, is specially designed trousers (and pants) with a gusset (I've used the word, sorry!) which can be released with poppers. After all, zip flies have been around for ages and even put on our trousers too when our anatomy is slightly different, and always has been...