Looking after grandchildren

Thank you for your reply. That's so true if baby was at a childminder the situation would be the same . Letting DD and her children come over is helpful and it helps DDs mental health . Us grans do so well really , DC don't know how lucky they are

What does he want you to do? Does he want you to stop looking after the children so that his child gets a nap? Is that fair? If he doesn't like it perhaps he can review his child's daycare arrangements. If the children were at a childminders the situation would be the same.

Thank you for your reply . Yes I do think DS thinks DD and her children take up a lot of my time however DD is trying to help and I'm glad of their company it would be hard all day with just the baby. I look after DSs baby at their house . Baby has three naps and 2 - 2 and a half hour wake window . It's hard being a gran trying to please everyone and wearing yourself out with it all .

Thank you for your reply . Yes I think I need to train baby to sleep in buggy . I won't terminate arrangement as I have looked after all grandchildren and will do the same for youngest . I think DS and DinL get very anxious if baby does not get naps in the day as they have used sleep training . I agree and think being around cousins is good for baby , even if said cousins are a bit boisterous They think I won't concentrate on baby if cousins are there .I will start looking at training to sleep in pushchair so we can be out and about more .

Is the little one more hyped up when they take him home or perhaps falls asleep in the car on the journey home? This might throw his / their schedule out. How many naps does he have perhaps, a reschedule of his nap time and your DD coming over after or before his nap might help , I agree it is nice for them to socialise together . Does he feel as if DD and her children take up too much of your time?

If no proper daytime naps will sleep better at night! Ensure DS baby does get nap. Ask.why.he thinks he doesn't. Say good to be around cousins and get.used to different environments. You have to weigh up.the relative disadvantage to each.family member concerned if you change the arrangement as it.stands. Are you thinking baby napping in cot a bit restricting and are thinking of terminating arrangement w baby? Baby needs to be trained to sleep in buggy.