Confused

Thank you all for your great advise yes she is no friend that is for sure I did apologise to my girl she said mum you thought she was a friend it’s ok yes dv is horriable when you hv a daughter going though it it double the stress thank she has a great job and after 7 years her and the children are doing so well I’m so proud of her she has no partner in her life just works hard and the children she said no maybe when kids are older I don’t want to bring people in and out of there lives it’s just us three thank you everyone for your reply

This is one to keep at arm’s length - long arms at that! Your trust has been abused and understandably you feel betrayed. If you have to meet be polite but don’t tell her anything you don’t want the whole world to know.

In your shoes I would be polite if I encountered her and she acknowledged me first but I wouldn't be stopping for a chat or inviting her in for a coffee. Having been on the receiving end of domestic violence it is a shocking experience and I can understand just how you feel. She had no right to break your confidence. True friends don't do that.

What Cossy has said.

*put not out!

I would try my best to out this behind me, you did nothing wrong nor did your DD.

Move on and don’t allow either this woman nor your daughter’s abuser any more energy or thought! They are both oxygen thieves and simply don’t deserve your attentions or thoughts.

I would be confusing in her any more.

Thank you for your advise will def take it onboard

Not worth bringing up in my view as they are close neighbours and your girl is no longer botheted. Just be coolly polite and keep a general distance. If they ever bring it up respond accordingly but leave the ball in their court to raise it.

Thank you for your advise I look at it as her actions caused my girl extra abuse I no longer like or hv trust in this friendship

It's understandable that you hold a grudge, but, realistically what good will it do. There comes a time when things have to be let go - for one's own good.