Precious sentimental objects lost.

On a similar note, we moved house over 20 years ago and we cleared out rubbish we had accumulated over the years. My daughter was helping. Unfortunately a black bin bag containing my precious Christmas tree mementoes gathered over the years was thrown away by mistake! I know it’s not the same as photos but I felt devastated as I can’t replace these personal items and cried at the time. Since then, despite my children being in their twenties (at the time) I asked my son and daughter to create some new pictures for display on future Christmases. There has been some good suggestions by others.

I'm so sorry

That is so sad.
I also have hardly any photos of family and holidays and outings, and I know there were tins of them. I lost one parent more than 50 years ago, and the other 5 years ago. I think the remaining one just wanted to de-clutter, and I assume thought I wouldn't be interested in them. How wrong they were... no older generations left to ask now so gone forever :-(

As an afterthought, perhaps it might encourage us all to at least photograph precious items, whether they be something like a necklace worth actual money as well as sentiment, or that cracker made from the toilet roll by your 3 year old. Clothes that you are unlikely to go out in now, but connect you to lovely occasions.

Actually get these printed , rather than stored on your phones, and get two copies of everything. Then you could give one set to another family member or a good friend to keep, so that should you lose your set, you will have another set to go for. Might be a bit of stable door and horses, but worth a thought. The other thing I do, which has helped memories over the years, is to write on the back of the photo the date and the people in the picture and the occasion. Our family , from my great grandparents were photo takers on whatever occasion. Problem was , in years gone by, everyone would be in their best clothes , which would often be the same in lots of the photos as we did not have many changes of "best" outfits. I have been pleased to be able to look at the backs and see who that man on the end was and what occasion, also a great help if anyone is trying to do a family tree etc.

So sorry for your loss. These items are such strong links to the past, and your memories are unique. Could you write some stories about each photo that you lost maybe? Sending a big hug.

I sent my old VHS tapes to a reputable company to be made into DVDs. They had films of my late Mum with my children when they were small. I was notified of their dispatch back to me but they never arrived. The company had proof of collection but a very unconcerned Royal Mail had lost them. I was distraught and decades later it still makes me sad that they are somewhere but not with me.

I am so sorry to read about what happened to your photographs. I am an only child too and can empathise how precious these photos must have been to you. Take care of yourself and try not to be too hard on yourself or your husband about this loss.

Really, really sad for you but I think we all have little treasures that we visit in our minds without actually holding them. I hope you can recall them and gather them to you.
I would try really hard to not focus on their physical loss as nothing can be done sadly and instead try to keep hold of your images of them and how they made you feel. The comfort they gave you were real and the feelings are still there to recall.
I hope your grief at their loss gets easier.

My mum’s house was devastated by a fire and all our childhood photos were lost. Surprisingly the neighbours also had photos that we were in and when clearing out they offered them to us. Do you have any old friends or neighbours who may still have photographs. If so it may be worth asking them. They brought back a whole different set of memories for us.

Ninjanan18 ,
I just wanted to add my best wishes to you after having such an upsetting time.I think many of us would dread something like this happening.It's truly awful but as others have said, no one can throw your memories away.I hope , eventually you will be able to find some comfort in that.

I can imagine how upset you are ! That is such a sad story. I think writing down what you remember of the photos may give you a little comfort. Do reach out to relatives and family friends - who knows what photos of your Mum they may have tucked away , someone may even discover one of the two of you together ! Good luck.

Must just say, Madeleine45, I think your very encouraging message to NinjaNan was inspired - your words touched my heart - I bet you are a lovely friend to have.

A much less sad occurrence but the day my DD started school at 5 I took a picture of her on the front doorstep. My ex was away on business so didnt take a picture. The film was in my handbag waiting to be posted but my handbag was stolen. That was the greatest loss as everything else was just an inconveuience and minot financial cost! The school took photos of everyone on the first day and we all received a print. It was on the mantlepiece not in an album and I did some dusting and the photo slipped down behind the fire surround! We'd have had to remove the whole fire surround to get it out! So no pictures of her 1st day at school! Obviously in the great scheme of things a minor loss but I still wish I had those pictures. I certainly know how you must feel.

What an amazing reply. Such a good idea - I hope it helps the OP.

When my dad died I discovered he’d left a voice message on my phone. I meant to save it, but deleted it by accident instead. I felt that same feeling about my stupidity then. The grief will subside. We don’t forget those people that were most important to us. Treasure your memories.

Oh bless you, I'm so sorry.

get busy researching your past it is fascinating all the memories will come flooding back, and give you something to focus on. Best of luck

I think the idea of writing about the photos was a good idea. I am so sorry we all do things and regrets after. I am sure your husband is mortified what happened sending you love and hugs

My dear Ninja Nan,
I'm so very sorry to hear all of this. I have a very long involved story about my mother's death. My darling mother died after marrying her third husband. She probably married him out of loneliness I'm sure. The love of her life was my father. I inherited nothing from her estate not even photographs. You had her everlasting love but I cannot imagine your pain.

I send you all my good wishes
Lally.

I’m not sure if you have any more distant family? I recently discovered my cousins had some photos of my mum I had never seen.Maybe it is worth a try.

So very sorry for such a profound loss and understand to some extent how you must be feeling.
It's not the same and I appreciate a lesser event ,but I lost 3 boxes on an international move and one of them contained all the cards and things my son had made and brought home from school over the years, it also had the cards my late DH had sent for b'days Valentine's days etc. I was heartbroken and this must be so much worse for you. Take care.

So sorry I understand your devastation

Really sorry to hear that and I do know how heartbroken you must be. All my parents photo albums (and there were a huge number) were stolen by a family member from their house when Mum was in hospital. I had a couple of my baby photos but from then on, nothing. There were loads of me in my teen years in school uniform, on holiday, with friends etc…. Now all gone. She had left them to me in her Will but there’s nothing I can do now.

I’m so, so sorry. You’re going through grief all over again. I lost a gold chain of my mother’s which I took off only because it was weak and I didn’t want to lose it. I lost it some time ago so the pain isn’t so raw now but you are just at the beginning. I now wear her bracelet all the time and will never take it off till absolutely necessary. Take care of yourself especially if you are unwell.

Is there anyone that might just have a photograph in which your mother is included?

I'm so so sorry that this has happened to you.