Why can't I wear this to a wedding?

If it still fits you and you like it, wear it.

I was at a family wedding recently and I wore the same outfit that I wore to another family wedding several years previously.
No-one at the second wedding had seen me in it at the first wedding as they weren’t at the first wedding, but even if some of them had been I would still have worn it. I bought a different handbag and shoes, but that was all.

Interestingly, my SiL wore the same outfit to both her son and her daughters weddings, several years apart, and no one was apoplectic about it 🤣.

If your daughter is insistent, then she should buy your new outfit.

Stick to your guns!!
I bought a lovely hyacinth blue outfit , skirt top and short jacket, 💙 this was for our daughters wedding. I loved it - perfect for me. 4 years later our son married, like you I asked the advice of the lovely people on GN. The advice was - wear it again . I told my son I was having difficulty finding an outfit
he said
" Mum , if the outfit you wore for Fs wedding still fits wear it again " So I did! Obviously many of the guests were invited to both weddings . Don't think anyone noticed and I don't care if they did. I felt comfortable and happy.
The outfit cost an arm and a leg so I was delighted to be able to wear it again .
We have no more ' children' getting married , or it would be out for its 3rd airing!
I hope you don't fall out with your daughter over this, but it really should be your choice . Who cares if some guests notice you are wearing it again (they will more than likely think - ' good on her ' ) a new wedding outfit is as you say not cheap and will never be worn again .
If I could do it for my son I feel sure you can do the same for your GD!
Whats important here is the joining together of two people- not what Grandma is wearing ! Good luck.

Ask your DD when you’ll likely wear any new outfit bought specifically for her DD wedding. If the outfit you describe hasn’t been worn for 7 years I’d anyone going to remember it would also be a suitable remark for DD too.
Personally, I’d wear something I’ve already got provided it’s suitable and more importantly comfortable.

Why is your DD saying this?
Sounds like you have a lovely outfit that is comfortable to wear so her reasoning sounds a bit off, could it be that she doesn’t like your outfit for some reason? Maybe she thinks the colour isn’t right or something, or that it doesn’t suit you, but she doesn’t want to upset you by saying this.
The only one who can clear this up is your DD so just ask her outright why she doesn’t want you to wear this outfit. And if is just because she thinks you should buy a new one, which is odd and wasteful, tell her that you would rather wear the suit you have and leave it at that.

I would wear it provided it’s not moth eaten 😂
Like you said nobody has seen it.
You could always ‘soup’ it up with a nice brooch.
I hate waste.
Unless your daughter is going to treat you of course!

Completely agree with you MissA.

Wear it Sarnia and enjoy your GD's wedding.

MissAdventure

I'd wear it, for the reasons you state, but also because nobody tells me what i may or may not do.

Totally and fully agree, I am me and wear what I feel suits me and no one will change that.

Please wear your lovely sounding outfit I never ever see any point in buying a new outfit for a one off, a wedding or funeral
Why should she compromise Greyfur it’s a lovely outfit only worn once 7 years ago.

Wear it with comfortable pride and be happy you can still get in it, it sounds lovely, hope you all have a lovely day

I would wear it too.

Maybe your DD thinks you don't spend enough on yourself & a new outfit would be a treat? But in practice it's often not, there's nothing in the colour you fancy in your style, size & budget & it's just a headache.

Try it on, if you still feel good in it, buy some new accessories & wear it with pride.

Am I the only one who can see that the daughter is thinking her daughter might ve upset to think she wasn't worthy of a brand new outfit. I wouldn't have even thought about releasing it. Its a big celebration for your family - surely worth splashing out on.

Wear it, it fits well and it's comfortable go with it,or ask your daughter to buy you something new and tell her you probably won't wear it again

Has dd actually seen the outfit as you said you went to the previous wedding on your own? So you could get away with telling her it’s new which it virtually is. As you like it and feel comfortable in it and it suits you that’s much better than traipsing round all the shops trying to find something as good?
Also it’s GD’s wedding not her mums so it’s really what she would like. Dd is being bossy.

Unless there is a specific colour theme for the bridal party, wear it. It is comfortable, sounds lovely,suits you and has not made an appearance at family functions.
Ridiculous to be told to wear a different outfit simply because it must be new.

I’ve used my “wedding outfit” many times, in various guises with a few changes here and there.

I wouldn’t fall out with my daughter over a new dress though. I’d make it the reason for an outing with her.

Though I have to say I wouldn’t wear a a lace outfit in any shade on the neutral spectrum to anybody’s wedding. Perhaps your daughter doesn’t think it appropriate and is trying to find a tactful way of discouraging you?

Odd request, she may have not thought it through.

Wear it, assuming it still fits perfectly.

I dislike excess clothing, I might "not be able to afford another".

Aren’t we all supposed to be recycling rather than buying new all the time? Hasn’t done Princess Ann any harm, has it?
If you don’t wear ‘best’ clothes often it seems excessive to buy yet another outfit that may not prove its worth, especially as your current outfit sounds lovely and you are happy in it.
What does your daughter object to about it exactly?

Oh dear! Have you tried it on since the first wedding so you know it still fits and feels comfortable? That might be where to start. If it does indeed still feel good you could suggest to your dd that you’ll get new shoes/bag/jewellery to make it look different. I have to say, a coffee-coloured outfit sounds lovely, to me, lots of potential for accessories.

If your dd still won’t accept your choice , then suggest she pays for a new outfit! Alternatively, just wear it anyway, she’ll be so busy on the day she probably won’t notice what anyone else is wearing.

What a shame your DD knows the story!
Wear it. You can tell her any money saved can go towards the wedding costs.
TBH noone will be looking at you 😂
You will be comfortable.

I wish I had taken my own advice for my DC weddings.

I bought a new outfit for each one. The DS were a year apart so I thought it wouldn't look good in the photos.
Then at DD's wedding a few years later, my Mof the bride outfit was an expensive disaster. I never wore it again and donated it to charity soon after.

It's a wonderful thing to find sonething that fits so well, these days. due to my shape

Woukd your daughter recognise it as the same outfit, even?

One of my friends wore the same outfit to her D’s two weddings and no-one bothered.
I can’t remember the timescale .probably 10/12 years apart.
Her D told her if she loved it then wear it.

Just tart it up a bit and wear it.

I’d wear it, particularly as it’s comfortable and not mention it again, if the subject is raised a vague ‘not sure yet’ will do.

I would wear the outfit you already have for all the reasons you say.

If you like this outfit then I can see no good reason to buy another one. But it's hard to upset your DD isn't it.
Can you talk frankly and explain how you feel?
Personally I find it annoying to be expected to wear new clothes to events. My budget just doesn't like it.
I'm terrible at making decisions. Good luck.

Would some sort of compromise be to wear it and change up the "extras".
If something fits, that's a marvelous thing!

I'd wear it, for the reasons you state, but also because nobody tells me what i may or may not do.