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Would you think it was odd if a younger person wanted to befriend you?

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Jeccaevs Mon 24-Aug-26 15:05:02

This probably seems like a strange query. But I would really like to befriend some older women. I’m in my thirties and in the thick of it with two toddlers. My own mother died before they were born and I have no remaining females in my family since my Nan died a few years ago. My friends all have their own hectic lives working full time raising young children too- I am also the only one without a mother or any kind of matriarch figure. I guess the needy part of me just wants someone older than me to tell me everything will be okay because I’m kind of tired of having to figure absolutely everything out myself whilst also being the person all the rest of my (male) family come to for help. Having said that, this isn’t a tiny violins plea for someone to ‘rescue’ me- I genuinely value the wisdom of older women and I enjoy their company. I used to work with a few but I changed jobs and relocated and I miss seeing them. So my ask is, would you consider it strange if someone younger wanted to be friends?

Cossy Mon 24-Aug-26 15:16:00

I wouldn’t. I have friends of all ages. I’m 68, I think my least friend is 80 and currently my youngest is 50.

But age really is just a number.

Many of us gravitate towards similar people, similar interests and similar ages, but when much younger I did have a couple of female friends much older than I was, probably about 15-20 years older.