Hi, I am interested in hearing other's experiences as people who are dealing with long-term grief. My daughter died over ten years ago and when I was approaching the anniversary I felt it might be helpful to read about how others have managed this profound anniversary. I couldn't find anything to help me and this, together with other experiences I have had has led me to feel there is the possibility of a gap in supporting people who grieve longer term.
I think I have grieved ' healthily' and I don't feel I am stuck in a negative place, but I have felt there is a lack of awareness and understanding and support at times.
I just wonder how others have managed loss longer term and if they felt in need of support that wasn't easy to find?
In posing the question, I guess I have to ask myself what it is that I was / am looking for that is lacking ... for me, through the tenth anniversary year, I have been aware at times of feeling more low and sensitive to loss than I had done for a while. I was also stressed about how to meaningfully mark the anniversary when my child had died in traumatic circumstances and I didn't want to upset close family members by suggesting something that might not have felt appropriate for them. It has been a 'raw' year - nearly over now :0) - I just wish I could have laid hands on something that told me this might be expected / typical / not going backwards and identified some of the things that it is natural to have to process, but that I only found out about by experience. Sorry for the long post, just where my thoughts are at present.
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